exam 1 Flashcards
After Dianne made the 911 call, what happened?
Dianne said she did not need help and that she was just overreacting
911: If you do need help give me a number from 1-5 and said 3
In chapter 1, was Dianne allowed to tell her hosts”good-bye”?
No, she was not able to say bye to her hosts. John was waiting outside the bathroom door. Which he told Dianne to grab her purse right after she came out.
Which John had no intention of answering any of Dianne’s questions
In Chapter 1, what was the reason John wanting to go home from the party?
“You happened”
Dianne supposedly humiliated him in front of his friends. For the simple reason that she was supposedly flirting with Scott.
-excuse: she was also drunk.
In chapter 1, between the episodes of verbally and physically abusing Dianne , what did John do ?
John was in the living room watching TV.
Specifically, sport channel; football.
In chapter 2, how did Dianne’s friend react?
“Oh honey, what has he done to you?”
That it wasn’t his fault because he was may stressed over the fact he lost his job and start his retirement early.
In chapter 3, how did John react when Dianne returned to to her store to begin the morning duties
- Regretful of what he has done.
- Begged her to get him another chance that he was never going to do it again . (Forgiveness)That he cannot believe what he had done
- Reasoning that Dianne the right to be scared of him.
In chapter 3, when John saw the bruises he caused , how did he react?
He saw the bruises and avoided to look at them. He just pretended that they didn’t existed and kept taking.
In chapter 3, how did the minister at the local church react after Dianne told him what happen?
The minister told her that she had to make some changes to save her marriage, and pray.
Then said that a divorce(“not good in gods eyes”) was only possible if there was an adultery.
In chapter 4, what title had Dianne won?
Mrs. Arizona
In chapter 4, when did the verbal abuse from John?
2 weeks after they were married.
After Dianne dropped Derek at the airport to go see his father for the summer.
In chapter 1 and 4, how long did Dianne and John date before they got married?
They dated for 4 months.
In chapter 4, Dianne’s father began to make plans for a big fishing trip on John’s boat. What did her father say to her regarding getting married to John?
You better hurry up and marry him before he finds out what you’re really like and dumps you.
In chapter 5, Dianne told John she wanted to get an annulment, how did he react?
Stood quiet and stared at Dianne. He was violent and aggressive when he said “If you leave me, I’ll kill you!”
- he threw his coffee at Dianne’s face. Then hit the side of her face with the mug.
In chapter 6, how is perversion different from fulfilling “normal” sexual needs above abnormal sexual demands?
It’s another way in which the abuser can degrade his victim because he is not satisfied
In chapter 6, what two things happen when the victim refuses to take part in the above Abnormal sexual demands?
Tension building phrase and explosion phase.
LECTURE 1
Chapter 10 and 11
When would a case manager use confrontation with a client?
- Client says something but doesn’t follow through, body language contradicts what they said, or behavior is contradictory.
- Client has a perception you disagree with
- The client has unrealistic expectation for you or him/herself
- The client asks for help, but doesn’t follow through with suggestions
- Client says they have certain values, but behavior doesn’t match
What are the four parts of a complete I- Message for confrontation?
- Your concerns/feelings/ observations about the situation
- A non-blaming description of what you have seen or heard, of the behavior
- The tangible outcome for you as a result, or the possible consequences for the client
- An invitation to collaborate on a solution
ex.
(1) I think what concerns me is (2) you being late for the last four appointments has (3) caused a lot of scrambling on my part to catch up the rest of the day. (4) Can we look at what is happening here?”
What are the rules for confrontation?
- be matter of the fact (details)
- be tentative
- take full responsibility for your observations
- always collaborate (together figure out a situation)
- don’t accuse the other person
- don’t confront because you are angry
- don’t be judgemental
- don’t give the client a solution
Why would a case manager ask permission to share ideas?
Leaves the client in charge of his/ her solution and free to reject the offer of ideas
Ask feedback from the client
Best to have more than 1 feedbacks so the client can have a choice.
What are some common reasons clients may be angry?
-Client is angry about something the agency has done, you said or did
So the client feels exhausted,overwhelmed,confused, and in need of attention
View anger as a clue to underlying issues or problems that need to be resolved
Why is disarming anger important
YOU, the professional , are expected to use techniques that move the relationship beyond the anger
- Eliminates any obstacle to true understanding
- Shows clients you respect their messages
- Enables you to understand their problem
- Allows you to practice empathy
- Focuses work on solving the problem
What is a common mistake case managers make with clients who are openly angry?
Clients will give you no trouble , follow all your suggestions, be appreciative, and never criticize or be resistive.
Many clients sound angrier than they mean to be. Taking anger personally is a major mistake when dealing with an angry client.
It’s not about YOU and how you feel . It’s ALWAYS ABOUT THE CLIENT and your responsibility to the clients.
What should you avoid doing when disarming anger?
DO NOT become defensive( when you defend yourself, it makes them ANGIER)
DO NOT become sarcastic
DO NOT act SUPERIOR
DO NOT grill the client ( avoid asking numerous questions, one after the other in a doubtful tone of voice)
How do you manage the angry outbursts from a client out of control?
Secure the safety of everyone Remain matter of fact (stick to the subject Remain calm , use relaxed movements Use an even tone of voice Use reflective listening
Lecture 2
Ch7,8,& 9
How would clients react when the case manager displays an attitude of superiority?
Clients get the sense the cm talking down to them and harms the relationship
Which two aspects of reflective listening is considered empathic and the most useful kind of response?
The content of what the client has said
The feelings that underlie what the client said
Important as empathetic are the feelings
What is an example of correct responses in listening to content?
So you decided .. Or so in other words
Repeating the facts back to the client