Emotional Intelligence Questions Flashcards
- Juno is fairly sure his company is going down and his job is under threat. It is a large company and nothing official has been said.
What action would be the most effective for Juno?
(a) Find out what is happening and discuss his concerns with his family.
(b) Try to keep the company afloat by working harder.
(c) Start applying for other jobs
(d) Think of these events as an opportunity for a new start.
Answers/marks; a:1 b:0 c:0.5 d:0
(a) Find out what is happening and discuss his concerns with his family.
This is the best answer as until Juno has more information about what is or is not happening with his job, he cannot make the best decision for his career going forward. This option also allows him to talk to his family and obtain feedback or support.
(b) Try to keep the company afloat by working harder.
Since it is a large company, it would be unreasonable to assume that efforts made by Juno would be enough to keep the entire business afloat, and therefore would not be an effective solution to his problem.
(c) Start applying for other jobs
This option allows Juno to have a backup plan in the worst-case scenario that he did end up losing his job. However, it is only partially correct as it does not give him any more clarity on the likelihood of losing the job and so does not address all his concerns.
(d) Think of these events as an opportunity for a new start.
Similarly to option c, this option does not help Juno get any more information about what is happening with the company. It is less correct because it also does not provide any concrete plan for Juno going forward, but rather just suggests a possible mindset change.
- Wendy and Connie shared an office for years, but then Wendy got a new job and Connie lost contact with her.
What action would be the most effective for Connie?
(a) Just accept that Wendy has gone, and the friendship is over.
(b) Ring Wendy and ask her out for lunch or coffee to catch up.
(c) Contact Wendy and arrange to catch up but also make friends with her replacement.
(d) Spend time getting to know the other people in the office and strike up new friendships.
Question 2.
Wendy and Connie shared an office for years, but then Wendy got a new job and Connie lost contact with her.
What action would be the most effective for Connie?
Answers/marks; a:0 b,d:0.5 c:1
(a) Just accept that Wendy has gone, and the friendship is over.
This is the most ineffective action for Connie to take. There is no attempt in this option to either resolve the relationship with Wendy or strike up new friendships, leaving Connie isolated in the work environment
(b) Ring Wendy and ask her out for lunch or coffee to catch up.
This is not a bad option, as it allows Connie to reconnect with Wendy, but it does not help her in terms of finding new companions at work.
(c) Contact Wendy and arrange to catch up but also make friends with her replacement.
This is the most effective action for Connie to take, as this gives her an option to rekindle her friendship with Wendy but also leaves her open to a relationship with the replacement who is now sharing her office.
(d) Spend time getting to know the other people in the office and strike up new friendships.
Similarly to option b, this action only targets one of the components of this situation. While Connie will make new friends, she still will not have gotten back in touch with Wendy.
- Max is only a few years from retirement when he finds out his position will no longer exist, although he will still have a job with a less prestigious role. What action would be the most effective for Max?
(a) Carefully consider his options and discuss it with his family.
(b) Talk to his boss or the management about it.
(c) Accept the situation, but still feel bitter about it.
(d) Walk out of that job.
Question 3.
Max is only a few years from retirement when he finds out his position will no longer exist, although he will still have a job with a less prestigious role. What action would be the most effective for Max?
Answers/marks; b:1 a: 0.5 c,d:0
(a) Carefully consider his options and discuss it with his family.
This action would help Max figure out what his alternatives are in this situation and get support from his family. However, because it does not include communicating with the management who are ultimately making the decisions about the job, it is not the most effective option.
(b) Talk to his boss or the management about it.
This is the best option for Max as it presents him with the opportunity to voice his concerns to management, and possibly even try to negotiate a more favourable outcome.
(c) Accept the situation, but still feel bitter about it.
Since he still has a few years left in the job, suppressing any bitterness about being effectively demoted from his previous role is not a suitable strategy for Max in the long term.
(d) Walk out of that job.
If Max were to simply walk out of the job, there is no guarantee that he would be able to find another opportunity equal to or better than the one he just left and so this is not a viable option.
- Sam starts a new job where he doesn’t know anyone and finds that no one is particularly friendly. What action would be the most effective for Sam?
(a) Have fun with his friends outside of work hours.
(b) Concentrate on doing his work well at the new job.
(c) Make an effort to talk to people and be friendly himself.
(d) Leave the job and find one with a better environment.
Question 4.
Sam starts a new job where he doesn’t know anyone and finds that no one is particularly friendly. What action would be the most effective for Sam?
Answers/marks; a,b,d:0 c:1
(a) Have fun with his friends outside of work hours.
This action would help Sam feel better when he is outside of the work environment and enjoying his free time. However, it does little to resolve how he feels at his new job.
(b) Concentrate on doing his work well at the new job.
There is no real indication that the standard of Sam’s work is the issue at the new job, and so in the context of the attitudes of his colleagues this would do little to improve the situation.
(c) Make an effort to talk to people and be friendly himself.
This is the most effective action for Sam to take. As he has only started at this job, it would be more effective to try and get to know his new colleagues more over time than to give up before giving it a chance.
(d) Leave the job and find one with a better environment.
This action may not be effective for Sam, as there is no guarantee he will be able to get a job with a better work environment and that, as the new employee, he won’t feel the same there.
- Andre moves away from the city in which his friends and family live. He finds his friends make less effort to keep in contact than he thought they would.
What action would be the most effective for Andre?
(a) Try to adjust to life in the new city by joining clubs and activities there.
(b) He should make the effort to contact them, but also try to meet people in his new city.
(c) Let go of his old friends, who have shown themselves to be unreliable.
(d) Tell his friends he is disappointed in them for not contacting him.
Question 5.
Andre moves away from the city in which his friends and family live. He finds his friends make less effort to keep in contact than he thought they would.
What action would be the most effective for Andre?
Answers/marks; a:0.75 b:1 c,d:0
(a) Try to adjust to life in the new city by joining clubs and activities there.
Regardless of the reasons his old friends are not keeping in regular contact with him, Andre is still living in this new city and so should make efforts to meet new people and form relationships there. What stops this from being the most effective answer is that it does not address Andre’s concerns about his old friends distancing themselves.
(b) He should make the effort to contact them, but also try to meet people in his new city. This is the most effective action for Andre to take as it allows him to socialise in the new environment he is in, without writing off his previous friendships. Attempting to get in contact with them also provides the opportunity to find out whether there are any other factors to why they haven’t been keeping in touch, rather than assuming they’re just being unreliable.
(c) Let go of his old friends, who have shown themselves to be unreliable.
Considering these were friends of Andre’s previously, it is a very definitive decision to take and not effective in either getting back in regular contact with them or finding out the reasons they had distanced themselves.
(d) Tell his friends he is disappointed in them for not contacting him.
This action gives Andre the opportunity to communicate how he feels. However, it does not take any real action to adjust to his new surroundings.
- Clayton has been overseas for a long time and returns to visit his family. So much has changed that Clayton now feels left out.
What action would be the most effective for Clayton?
(a) Nothing - it will sort itself out soon enough.
(b) Tell his family he feels left out.
(c) Spend time listening and getting involved again.
(d) Reflect on the reality that relationships can change with time.
Question 6.
Clayton has been overseas for a long time and returns to visit his family. So much has changed that Clayton now feels left out.
What action would be the most effective for Clayton?
Answers/marks; a,b,d:0 c:1
(a) Nothing - it will sort itself out soon enough.
This action assumes things will improve, with no named effort on Clayton or his family’s behalf to change them. As there is nothing to suggest this will definitely happen, this is not an entirely effective answer.
(b) Tell his family he feels left out.
Even though this option allows Clayton to express how he is feeling, it does not demonstrate any understanding of the fact that because he has been away for so long, it just may take time to fall back into old dynamics.
(c) Spend time listening and getting involved again.
This would be the most effective action for Clayton to take. While he has been away for so long, it is noted that a lot has changed, and it would benefit Clayton to understand these changes and then try to reintegrate himself.
(d) Reflect on the reality that relationships can change with time.
Unlike option b, this demonstrates the understanding that some things change over time. However, it does not include any action Clayton can take to reinvolve himself.
- Daniel has been accepted for a prestigious position in a different country from his family, with whom he is close. He and his wife decide it is worth relocating.
What action would be the most effective for Daniel?
(a) Realize he shouldn’t have applied for the job if he didn’t want to leave.
(b) Set up a system for staying in touch, like weekly phone calls or emails.
(c) Think about the great opportunities this change offers.
(d) Don’t take the position.
Question 7.
Daniel has been accepted for a prestigious position in a different country from his family, with whom he is close. He and his wife decide it is worth relocating.
What action would be the most effective for Daniel?
Answers/marks; b:1 a,c,d:0
(a) Realize he shouldn’t have applied for the job if he didn’t want to leave.
There is no indication that Daniel does not want to leave at all. Although it is mentioned that he is very close to his family and the job would take him away from them, it isn’t suggested that this is a big enough factor to affect his decision.
(b) Set up a system for staying in touch, like weekly phone calls or emails.
This is the most effective decision for Daniel. He still gets to avail of the opportunities his new job offers, but he will also remain in close contact with his family and preserve those relationships. It is also the only option that provides him with a way to do both things
(c) Think about the great opportunities this change offers.
This is not a bad perspective for Daniel to have, but in terms of weighting the decision’s effectiveness it does not help Daniel maintain his close relationship with his family.
(d) Don’t take the position.
As Daniel and his wife have already decided that the new job is worth relocating for, it would be unreasonable to give it up entirely.
- Mandy answers the phone and hears that close relatives are in hospital critically ill.
What action would be the most effective for Mandy?
(a) Let herself cry and express emotion for as long as she feels like.
(b) Speak to other family members to calm herself and find out what is happening, then visit the hospital.
(c) There is nothing she can do.
(d) Visit the hospital and ask staff about their condition.
Question 8.
Mandy answers the phone and hears that close relatives are in hospital critically ill.
What action would be the most effective for Mandy?
Answers/marks; a,c:0 d:0.5 b:1
(a) Let herself cry and express emotion for as long as she feels like.
This is not a very effective option, as it does not include any real action Mandy could take to make herself feel better or understand more about what is happening.
(b) Speak to other family members to calm herself and find out what is happening, then visit the hospital.
This is the most effective action for Mandy to take. It allows her to both collect her thoughts and calm down and check in on those who are ill.
(c) There is nothing she can do.
This is a very ineffective option as it does not include any action for Mandy to take at all.
(d) Visit the hospital and ask staff about their condition.
This is not an ineffective option, as Mandy will now have more information about her family’s condition and be able to check on them. However, it does not account for Mandy’s own emotional wellbeing and thus it is not the most effective action.
- Shona has not spoken to her nephew for months, whereas when he was younger they were very close. She rings him but he can only talk for five minutes.
What action would be the most effective for Shona?
(a) Realize that he is growing up and might not want to spend so much time with his family anymore.
(b) Make plans to drop by and visit him in person and have a good chat.
(c) Understand that relationships change, but keep calling him from time to time.
(d) Be upset about it but realize there is nothing she can do.
Question 9.
Shona has not spoken to her nephew for months, whereas when he was younger they were very close. She rings him but he can only talk for five minutes.
What action would be the most effective for Shona?
Answers/marks; c:1 a,b,d: 0
(a) Realize that he is growing up and might not want to spend so much time with his family anymore.
This option, while demonstrating an understanding of the reasons her nephew might not be in touch as much, seems to abandon their relationship.
(b) Make plans to drop by and visit him in person and have a good chat.
This option, especially when it is not mentioned above that Shona knows exactly why her nephew is busy, could be intrusive if he has specific reasons for distancing himself and could further damage their relationship.
(c) Understand that relationships change, but keep calling him from time to time.
This is the best option as it allows Shona to maintain a relationship with her nephew, but also demonstrates that she is understanding of how the dynamic may have changed since he was younger and that he may have other priorities now.
(d) Be upset about it but realize there is nothing she can do.
Becoming upset about the situation but doing nothing to change it is an unhelpful action for Shona to take, as it will not help her to improve her relationship with her nephew.
- Mina and her sister-in-law normally get along quite well, and the sister-
in-law regularly baby-sits for her for a small fee. Lately she has also been cleaning away cobwebs, commenting on the mess, which Mina finds insulting.
What action would be the most effective for Mina?
(a) Tell her sister-in-law these comments upset her.
(b) Get a new babysitter.
(c) Be grateful her house is being cleaned for free.
(d) Tell her only to baby-sit, not to clean.
Question 10.
Mina and her sister-in-law normally get along quite well, and the sister-
in-law regularly baby-sits for her for a small fee. Lately she has also been cleaning away cobwebs, commenting on the mess, which Mina finds insulting.
What action would be the most effective for Mina?
Answers/marks; a:1 b,c,d:0
(a) Tell her sister-in-law these comments upset her.
Because it is already stated that Mina and her sister-in-law have a good relationship, Mina would be able to bring up how the comments and cleaning are making her feel. She should expect a resolution from her sister-in-law after this conversation.
(b) Get a new babysitter.
This option does not prevent the comments her sister-in-law makes, as they could happen any other time her sister-in-law visits.
(c) Be grateful her house is being cleaned for free.
This option invalidates Mina’s feelings about the comments her sister-in-law makes and does not include any action to resolve the situation.
(d) Tell her only to baby-sit, not to clean.
Similarly to b, this option stops her sister-in-law from physically cleaning but not from making any comments which we know also upsets Mina.
- Mallory moves from a small company to a very large one, where there is little personal contact, which she misses.
What action would be the most effective for Mallory?
(a) Talk to her workmates, try to create social contacts and make friends.
(b) Start looking for a new job so she can leave that environment.
(c) Just give it time, and things will be okay.
(d) Concentrate on her outside-work friends and colleagues from previous jobs.
Question 11.
Mallory moves from a small company to a very large one, where there is little personal contact, which she misses.
What action would be the most effective for Mallory?
Answers/marks; b,c,d:0 a:1
(a) Talk to her workmates, try to create social contacts and make friends.
This would be the most effective action for Mallory. If she wants to improve her social contacts at work, she must try to form relationships with her new colleagues.
(b) Start looking for a new job so she can leave that environment.
This would not be an effective solution to Mallory’s problem, as she may get a job in another large company and find herself in the same situation.
(c) Just give it time, and things will be okay.
This action is not very effective, as it is not at all proactive in improving her relationships with others she works with and assumes that eventually things will be like they were at her old job without any real reason to do so.
(d) Concentrate on her outside-work friends and colleagues from previous jobs.
As this option does not include any action Mallory could take to improve her work life, it is not very effective.
- A demanding client takes up a lot of Jill’s time and then asks to speak to Jill’s boss about her performance. Although Jill’s boss assures her that her performance is fine, Jill feels upset.
What action would be the most effective for Jill?
(a) Talk to her friends or workmates about it.
(b) Ignore the incident and move on to her next task.
(c) Calm down by taking deep breaths or going for a short walk.
(d) Think that she has been successful in the past and this client being difficult is not her fault.
Question 12.
A demanding client takes up a lot of Jill’s time and then asks to speak to Jill’s boss about her performance. Although Jill’s boss assures her that her performance is fine, Jill feels upset.
What action would be the most effective for Jill?
Answers/marks; b:0 a,d:0.5 c:1
(a) Talk to her friends or workmates about it.
While this may be an effective action for Jill to take, as talking about the situation with her boss did little to make her feel better, we cannot assume that talking to other colleagues or friends will make it better.
(b) Ignore the incident and move on to her next task.
This is not a very effective option, as it does not address Jill’s worries about the client or her performance.
(c) Calm down by taking deep breaths or going for a short walk.
This is the most effective action for Jill, as talking things through with her boss and receiving reassurance about her performance was not enough to make her feel better, it may be helpful to try something else.
(d) Think that she has been successful in the past and this client being difficult is not her fault.
This option is similar to (a) in that while it may be effective, it is not really different from receiving the reassurance from her boss that her performance is good, which as can be seen above, did not help her to feel better.
- Blair and Flynn usually go to a cafe after the working week and chat about what’s going on in the company. After Blair’s job is moved to a different section in the company, he stops coming to the cafe.
Flynn misses these Friday talks.
What action would be the most effective for Flynn?
(a) Go to the cafe or socialize with other workers.
(b) Don’t worry about it, ignore the changes and let Blair be.
(c) Not talk to Blair again.
(d) Invite Blair again, maybe rescheduling for another time.
Question 13.
Blair and Flynn usually go to a cafe after the working week and chat about what’s going on in the company. After Blair’s job is moved to a different section in the company, he stops coming to the cafe.
Flynn misses these Friday talks.
What action would be the most effective for Flynn?
Answers/marks; a,b,c:0 d:1
(a) Go to the cafe or socialize with other workers.
This is not the most effective action for Flynn to take, as it is implied that it is with Blair specifically that he enjoys having these talks.
(b) Don’t worry about it, ignore the changes and let Blair be.
This is not an effective action as it does not provide an option for Flynn to reconnect with Blair or start chatting to someone else.
(c) Not talk to Blair again.
Similarly to (b), this is quite an ineffective action as the question stem makes it evident that Flynn would like to go back to having these talks.
(d) Invite Blair again, maybe rescheduling for another time.
This is the most effective action for Flynn to take, as it allows him to re-establish his and Blair’s tradition but taking into account the changes in Blair’s life.
- Michelle’s friend Dara is moving overseas to live with her partner. They have been good friends for many years and Dara is unlikely to come back.
What action would be the most effective for Michelle?
(a) Forget about Dara.
(b) Spend time with other friends, keeping herself busy.
(c) Think that Dara and her partner will return soon.
(d) Make sure she keeps in contact through email, phone or letter writing.
Question 14.
Michelle’s friend Dara is moving overseas to live with her partner. They have been good friends for many years and Dara is unlikely to come back.
What action would be the most effective for Michelle?
Answers/marks; a,c:0 b:0.5 d:1
(a) Forget about Dara.
This is not an effective option for Michelle to tale, as it completely disregards her years of friendship with Dara
(b) Spend time with other friends, keeping herself busy.
This is not a wholly ineffective option overall, but is not the most appropriate answer as it does not address Michelle’s relationship with Dara.
(c) Think that Dara and her partner will return soon.
As the question clearly states that it is unlikely Dara will come back, it would not be in Michelle’s best interest to assume that it will happen.
(d) Make sure she keeps in contact through email, phone or letter writing.
This is the most effective action Michelle can take, as it allows her to remain friends with Dara even though she has moved overseas.
- Hannah’s access to essential resources has been delayed and her work is way behind schedule. Her progress report makes no mention of the lack of resources.
What action would be the most effective for Hannah?
(a) Explain the lack of resources to her boss or to management.
(b) Learn that she should plan ahead for next time.
(c) Document the lack of resources in her progress report.
(d) Don’t worry about it.
Question 15.
Hannah’s access to essential resources has been delayed and her work is way behind schedule. Her progress report makes no mention of the lack of resources.
What action would be the most effective for Hannah?
Answers/marks; b,d:0 c:0.75 a:1
(a) Explain the lack of resources to her boss or to management.
This is the most effective action for Hannah, as it allows her to immediately communicate the problems, she has faced in completing her work directly to management.
(b) Learn that she should plan ahead for next time.
This option is not necessarily incorrect, but it is not effective in dealing with the situation Hannah finds herself in currently.
(c) Document the lack of resources in her progress report.
This is an effective option but would not be considered the most effective as given the circumstances it would be more advisable to inform someone in management more immediately about the problem.
(d) Don’t worry about it.
This is not an effective action for Hannah to take, as without explanation of why she is behind she could suffer consequences of a problem that was not her fault.