Emotional intelligence Flashcards
What is EI?
Emotional intelligence is psychological, where one understands and handles any
kind of emotion with ease while remaining calm.
Why is EI important?
EI people are healthy mentally. EI people remain calm and appropriate, and help others affected by awkward feelings to make them feel in peace. They provide great leadership and higher performance at work.
What are the features of EI?
Show of Authenticity (share what is appreciated, boundaries) Demonstration of Empathy (Connect with others, but don’t agree with everything) Apologetic and Forgiving (Recognizing their mistakes, as for forgiveness they free themselves from the emotions associated with being hurt) , Being Helpful (to those in need, and that builds trust) , Always Thinking About Feelings (thinks about different feelings and how it may impact others) , Benefit from Criticism (feedbacks are useful)
Talk about Show of Authencity
High emotional intelligence people, especially those who are more social, tend to stick to their
principles and values. When sharing about themselves to others, they usually stand by their
boundaries rather than sharing everything about themselves to others. As such, authenticity does not
imply that you have to share all about yourself. However, you share about yourself to people who
matter and those who understand you and appreciate your thoughts and feelings.
Talk about Demonstration of Empathy
These individuals tend to demonstrate empathy to people as they readily understand other people’s
feelings and thoughts. They, therefore, readily connect to others and agree on what is essential.
Emotional intelligence enables them to develop more profound and more productive relationships
with others. Instead of becoming judgmental and avoiding those who feel different, they comfort and
make them feel important to society. Despite being empathetic, these people are cautious when it
comes to decision making, therefore avoiding agreeing to every person’s motive.
Talk about Apologetic and Forgiving
Another feature of emotional intelligence people is that they quickly understand their mistakes. They
usually have the courage and strength to apologize even without errors, therefore, indicating value to
a relationship. The same applies to forgive and forget, even in the most resentful situations. As such,
having emotional intelligence provides a mind that readily forgives and free from your emotions
from those who hurt you.
Talk about Being Helpful
As emotional intelligence entails understanding and managing your emotions and that of others, then
helping them becomes part of what the ability accompanies. As one of the most significant rewards
to others, helping becomes a habit to these people, and they never tire or discriminate against others.
However, they help each person in need without asking too many questions. As such, it helps those
who follow similar footsteps as well as building trust among people to help others.
Talk about Always Thinking About Feelings
Emotional intelligence primarily dwells on one’s feelings which often change suddenly or slowly
depending on the situation or environment. When an individual has a higher emotional intelligence
capability, then he or she frequently thinks about different feelings and how it may impact others.
They usually ask about common questions regarding their self-awareness, reflecting on everyday
activities, and people who may be influenced by their emotions. As such, systematic thinking and
learning about emotions provide insights used to their advantage in managing their feelings and that
of others.
Talk about Benefit from Criticism
Nobody experiences fun when it comes to negative feedback, especially from people you trust and
those close to you. However, these types of reputation are quite effective in life as they teach you a
few lessons about a particular aspect. Besides, it enables you to learn more about how others think
mainly about you and things to change and become better in what you do. Receiving these negative
feedbacks may become a challenge to others, but those with the ability to check their emotions
benefit a lot. With the use of emotional intelligence, these people can learn to manage their emotions
and move around calmly without focusing on the thoughts of others.
People with Low Emotional Intelligence
When low emotional intelligence people are faced with any negative emotion, they tend to become
violent or rather more reactive when compared to those with high emotional intelligence. For
instance, when an individual with low emotional intelligence faces negative criticism, they may
initially go into denial and withdraw from a given group to avoid shame. They become lonely and
prevent any form of help offered towards them. In some cases, others may opt to use substances to
keep their minds active and evade others and what they are feeling. Others may harm themselves by
cutting, starving, purging, or engaging in dangerous behaviors. The primary drive to these activities
is influenced by a lack of control of emotions which are usually hurting, such as criticism .
People with High Emotional Intelligence
High emotional intelligence people have all it takes to absorb and express reasonably about how they
feel about a particular sensation. For instance, when these group people are offended, they would
initially pause before acting and think what their next word or rather the best harmless action to take.
They would also acknowledge what the next person is feeling or have in mind before deciding on
providing their contribution or conclusion of what will become. Thinking first is usually their first
step to prevent escalating the problem or causing more harm to themselves and others. Another
critical aspect of high emotional intelligence people is helping themselves and people affected by a
given emotion. In this case, high emotional intelligence people act entirely different when compared
to low emotional intelligence individuals.
What are the components of EI?
Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation, Social Skills, Empathy, Intrinsic Motivation,
Talk about the component of EI : Self-awareness
This is the ability to recognize and learn about your emotions as well as understanding the effects
accompanied by your feelings. When you are an emotionally intelligent individual, you become aware of
several aspects about yourself and others while keeping in mind about what is wrong and right.
Self-awareness also builds the ability to determine the strengths and limitations for quick
development of measures to avoid negative impacts to an individual and to others. As among the
primary components of emotional intelligence, self-awareness provides a complete guide to an
individual to quickly learn what to do when facing a given emotion, which may harm both them and
another person when mishandled.
