don't give a damn as a strategy Flashcards
Someone tells a tragic sob story expecting you to emotionally crumble.
“Pain exists. I observe it. I do not absorb it.”
You feel a small guilt pang when you don’t react ‘enough’ to their sadness.
“I owe them basic courtesy, not my soul.”
They say: ‘If you don’t feel devastated, you’re part of the problem!’
“Their frame. Not my reality.”
You’re tempted to explain yourself to prove you’re a good person.
“Goodness doesn’t require performance.”
Someone weaponizes their pain to bait you into self-blame.
“Their pain is real. Their hooks are rejected.”
You feel your heart soften and want to merge emotionally.
“Compassion witnesses. It does not drown.”
They aggressively demand: ‘Don’t you CARE?!’
“I choose where my care goes. This isn’t it.”
Guilt-flavored pressure tries to seep in during a group session.
“I am a witness, not a martyr.”
You worry about appearing ‘cold’ or ‘narcissistic.’
“Holding my frame is strength, not selfishness.”
Energy spike (emotional chaos in the room).
“Glass Wall Technique: ‘Slide off. Not mine. Stay sealed.’”
“I don’t care — because I choose what matters to me.”
Detachment, not spite.
Power lies in selective caring.
“You can only move what you can emotionally reach. I’m out of your reach.”
No emotional reach = no manipulation.
You are invisible to emotional fishing.
“Minimal Output = Maximum Power.”
Talk less. Reveal less. React less.
Maximum protection with minimal effort.
“I don’t owe you my emotions. I don’t owe you my energy. I don’t owe you a damn thing.”
Complete energetic sovereignty.
No leaks, no debts, no apologies.
“Care is currency. I spend it where I choose — not here.”
Care is a resource, not a default setting.
You are the banker of your soul’s treasury.
