Core Pattern

Question 1

Name the four phases in working with shadows in NC?

Answer 1

1. Blame
2. Name
3. Shame
4. Claim

Question 2

Describe client (i.) behaviour and (ii.) task in the blame phase

Answer 2

(i. ) projects shadow on others
(ii. ) to become aware of behaviour

Question 3

Describe client (i.) behaviour and (ii.) task in the name phase

Answer 3

(i. ) identifies shadow element
(ii. ) to identify it as part of self

Question 4

Describe client (i.) behaviour and (ii.) task in the shame phase

Answer 4

(i. ) recognizes defences against shadow
(ii. ) to recover agency and wholeness

Question 5

Describe client (i.) behaviour and (ii.) task in the claim phase

Answer 5

(i. ) incorporates shadow into identity
(ii. ) to act more consciously and accountably

Question 6

In maturing strengths in NC with shadow work, what are clients invited to do in Situate? What could be used as inquiry questions?

Answer 6

To notice reactive use of strength

What is your typical response in old story?

Question 7

In maturing strengths in NC with shadow work, what are clients invited to do in Search? What could be used as inquiry questions?

Answer 7

To (i.) explore defenses to protect old story and (ii.) values at risk i.e in using strength - what triggers you in others / is the related thinking / story?

(i. ) What triggers you in others / is the related thinking / story?
(ii. ) How (a.) does this show up and (b.) what would you like instead (might use word association)

Question 8

In maturing strengths in NC with shadow work, what are clients invited to do in Shift? What could be used as inquiry questions?

Answer 8

Engage with shadow elements

(i. ) Which of those word triggers you;
(ii. ) In imagining something that transcending and incorporating (a.) the reactive strength and (b.) the alternative (from Search), what comes to mind/do you think would be a useful action/attribute? (Can again use word association)

Question 9

In maturing strengths in NC with shadow work, what are clients invited to do in Sustain? What could be asked as inquiry questions?

Answer 9

Integrate the new approach (word resonate with most) into old strength

(i. ) Invite a pivot discussion
(ii. ) How does this (new concept) takes (a.) the best of old strength and temper/texture it with (b.) the alternative (from search)

Question 10

What is the template for maturing a strength in the moment?

Answer 10

1. One of my strengths is ____ . However, I get defensive when _____ (I feel / think that someone ____ );
2. Because I ___ (think ____ ). This shows up most often as ____ (behaviour / experience);
3. I would grow by ____ (incorporate the Shadow aspect);
4. Therefor I will develop / grow this strength by ____ (BEAM).