Close Relationships Flashcards
Relationship
Two people that have a mutual influence on each other and are interdependent.
Close Relationship
A relationship where there is frequent interaction over a long period of time, many different kinds of activities and events are shared, the influence on each other is strong, and strong emotions are aroused.
Social Exchange Theory
The rewards and costs we give and receive in a relationship. We select partners who we think will provide us with the greatest rewards so that we can maximize our profits (not necessarily tangible).
Profits
The rewards minus the costs in a relationship.
Norm of Reciprocity
When we receive rewards, we’re expected to return them. Also, when someone reveals something personal, we feel obligated to reply with a comparable disclosure.
Comparison Level
The baseline for what we feel we deserve. We evaluate our relationships based on past experiences and what we know about relationships from other sources.
Comparison Level Alt
Evaluating our relationships based on how our relationship compares to others that are currently available to us.
Equity Theory
Coordinates outcomes in regard to concerns with fairness in relationships. Each person’s profits are proportional to their contributions.
Conflict
A process that occurs when the actions of one member of the relationship interfere with the actions of the other.
Common Approaches to Resolve Conflict
- Voice
- Loyalty
- Neglect
- Exit
Voice
When couples voice their problems and try to compromise.
Loyalty
A passive approach to problem-solving in which couples wait until the problem passes and hope things get better with time.
Neglect
Partners spend less time with or ignore each other.
Exit
When the relationship ends.
Constructive Approach
Resolving conflict through either voice or loyalty. Couples tend to continue their relationships.
Destructive Approach
Resolving conflict through either neglect or exit. Couples tend to end their relationships.
Self-disclosure
Sharing personal information and intimate feelings with another person.
Risk of Disclosure
Indifference, rejection, loss of control, and betrayal.
3 Major Themes of Love
Attachment, caring, trust & self-disclosure…caring is most important to being in love.
Passionate Love
Emotions are central, it involves uncontrollable passions, and there is a preoccupation with the other person. This type of love can strike very suddenly but fade very quickly.
Companionate Love
A practical type of love, in which emotions are moderate. Affection and warmth are emphasized. This is the basis for enduring relationships.
