Close Relationship (Psych 4700)

Question 1

Core components of Independent mode of relating

Answer 1

Values: self-promotion; autonomy
Central task: discovering (and making known) internal attributes
Role of Others: help one to self-evaluate
Rel’n Qualities: high degree of individuation; voluntary choice; generative tension; mutual trust

Question 2

Components of interdependent modes of relating

Answer 2

Values: self-effacement; respect
Central task: being aware of (& adjusting to) others’ expectations
Role of Others: help one to self-define
Rel’n Qualities: high degree of connectedness; reciprocal obligations; symbiotic harmony; mutual assurance

Question 3

Similar Distinctions & Caveats

Answer 3

Integrity(belonging-to) vs. intimacy(belonging-with); therapy: differentiation ( family operating in the mode of independence will benefit
more from an approach that facilitates each member’s differentiation, thereby helping them fulfill the central task of independence) vs. integration (a family of interdependence may be better served by focus on functionally integrating family members fulfill central task of interdependence)
Dichotomic thinking’s an oversimplification & substantial within-country variation exists
Other considerations: many ways to describe differences; North Am vs. East Asian lens

Question 4

Cultural Variation on relationship formation and development

Answer 4

Different rates of love vs. arranged marriages
Perception of passionate love
North America: idealized
China: negative connotations emphasized
Good mate in Japan: shiria (ingroup and marriage btw group members)i is seen as advantage
U.S. (high levels beg of relationship) vs. Japan ( obligations in the beginning and intimacy increase over time) intimacy

Question 5

Cultural variation conflict

Answer 5

Independent: seen as expected with diff need, goals or desires can lead to deepening relationship if handled well; used for renegotiating respective needs and enables to grow both indiv and as a couple; proactive & influencing stance
Interdependent: seen as best avoided; mutual interdependence; receptive & adjusting stance n contrast, conflict
is avoided and diverging views are adjusted without open expression in interdependent contexts, where fitting-in and harmony maintenance allow partners to
realize their mutual interdependence.