Chapter 6 Knowledge Check: Love and Loving

Question 1

Which decade in the history of love did romantic love become the norm method of choosing a mate?

Answer 1

1930s

The norm of what is the best method of finding a mate has changed throughout history. Since then, romantic love has been the mainstream experience of people seeking relationships today.

Question 2

True/False

The culture one is raised in influences how they display emotions and how they react to emotions displayed by others

Answer 2

True

Social psychologists and researchers have an abundance of research on how the experiences of “love” and “loving” we learn as children are manifested in the culture we group up. By adulthood, that culture has influenced how we display emotions and how we adapt reactions to the emotions of others

Question 3

_____ is an obsessive following or contacting of another person in an attempt to engage in a relationship

Answer 3

Stalking

Stalking is a negative side of passionate love in which a person is obsessive about engaging with the other person either in person or online. in fact, cyber-stalking is a rising crime

Question 4

Which of the following is an emotional reaction to a perceived third-party threat to a valued relationship?

Answer 4

Jealousy

Jealousy manifests due to perceived threats that can be real or imaginary. Everyone can get jealous at times where their valued relationship seems in jeopardy because of a third-party

Question 5

The ancient Greeks believed the love quality of _____ to be a spiritual love that looks out for the interests of others

Answer 5

Agape

Agape is a self-sacrificing, spiritual love that looks out for the well-being of others—even those outside the relationship

Question 6

Which concept was defined by John Money as a blueprint of love that we carry internally?

Answer 6

Love map

John Money is a world-famous sexologist who believed that “ideal” love is an experience shaped by our definitions of love in infancy and childhood. His idea of love maps are the blueprints of what we expect in our expectations of love in an “ideal” situation that we carry internally

Question 7

Which of the following is an example of a simple infatuation?

Answer 7

Fantasizing about a teacher

Infatuation is an intense, short-lived passionate urge towards another person. Simple infatuation is often a fantasy or daydream toward a physical attraction.

For example, people often fantasize about teachers or celebrities regarding their physical attractiveness

Question 8

True/False

When a person starts to fall in love, the neurotransmitters in their brain give a feeling of a “high”

Answer 8

True

While there are physical manifestations of love, the brain is also an important component of giving us a hint that we are in love. Researchers have linked neurotransmitters activity to a certain moment of attraction between two people

Question 9

Which of the following is an emotional manifestation of a passionate love?

Answer 9

Intense sexual attraction

Passionate love is a type of romantic love that is driven by emotions and intense feelings towards another person.

For example, people who experience passionate love usually experience sweaty palms, a pounding heart, or “butterflies” in their stomach. These physical feelings can also manifest into emotional feelings or intense adoration, an all-consuming desire to promote the other person, and intense sexual attraction

Question 10

How does Sternberg describe the component of passion?

Answer 10

A driving force of physical attraction and sexual consummation

Rober Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love recognizes the importance of eight different types of love in relationships to demonstrate the importance of how love changes over time. Sternberg believed passion is the most intent and immediate stage in a relationship where physical attraction and romantic feelings draw us toward another person

Question 11

True/False

When it comes to compassionate love, partners must be patient to build rewards

Answer 11

True

Compassionate love is a deep, affectionate bond between two people in which consistent rewards are used to show appreciation.

For example, a reward given by one partner may be trying to make their partner laugh every day. However, these rewards take time and patience to build on the compassionate love

Question 12

_____ is an emotional bond that ties a child to its parent

Answer 12

Attachment

Attachment is formed through affection-based situations where a bond is formed between parent and child. This bond is an important foundation for a lasting interpersonal relationship

Question 13

Which experience of love is a type of love where an adult immediately meets and gratifies the needs of an infant?

Answer 13

Dependent love

Dependent love is an important process between adults and infants because it provides instant gratification for both parties.

For example, a baby cries and the mother comes to comfort them immediately. The baby learned that he/she can be dependent on this individual love and comfort

Question 14

Which experience of love is a type of love where individuals simply provide for the needs of the individual without seeking reciprocity?

Answer 14

Altruistic love

Altruistic love is the first type of love we experience from our parents where our needs are being provided for without a request for reciprocity

Question 15

Which of the following types of attachment types can be characterized by allowing others to depend on you and promoting a warm, trusting relationship?

Answer 15

Secure attachment

Hazan and Shaver classified three types of adult relationships within the context of love. The category of secure attachment types comprises adults who are confident in their ability to allow others to be dependent on them and they have no issue maintaining relationships that promote self-esteem

Question 16

Which theoretical perspective of love suggests that couples go through four stages of love that deepens their connections?

Answer 16

Wheel Theory of Love

Reiss described the process of love as a rolling wheel that includes four stages for people to go through to deepen their connections. These stages include rapport, self-revelation, mutual dependency, and personality need fulfilment

Question 17

True/False

Polyamorous couples report lower levels of fulfillment with their primary partners than people in monogamous relationships

Answer 17

False

Polyamorous couples report that their needs are more fulfilled by their partners than monogamous couples do. Research shows there may be benefits to distributing needs across multiple partners, and that it is possible to have loving committed relationships with more than one partner

Question 18

Which type of romantic relationship is the practice of an intimate relationship with more than one partner?

Answer 18

Polyamory

Polyamory is an intimate, romantic, and/or sexual relationship with more than one partner at a time. This form of intimate relationship is actually increasing in the United States, despite a strong social norm to be monogamous

Question 19

With _____ love, individuals weight the costs and benefits of love before entering the relationship

Answer 19

Pragma

Pragma lovers are practical and logical in the way they navigate romantic relationships.

For example, they may have a checklist of “the perfect mate” before they engage in a relationship

Question 20

According to Lee’s Six Types of Love Styles, which type of love is playful, flirtatious, and casual?

Answer 20

Ludus

Ludus lovers do not care about commitment nearly as much as they care about playing the game of love.

For example, these lovers are carefree and casual about how they love to maintain a nonchalant attitude about lfie.