Chapter 6 Guide Note Flashcards
Understand Collectivism and arranged marriages
In collectivist cultures, the goals of the collective, or the whole society, are emphasized over a person’s individual needs or wants, which are emphasized in individualistic cultures. Because of this desire to promote harmony within the cultural group, collectivists approach love differently than individualistic cultures do.
In collectivist cultures such as in India, marriages are typically arranged by the parents of the bride and the groom. Parents believe that joining certain bloodlines through marriage is beneficial to society, or to the collective. Today, though, more and more couples are eloping in secrete marriages, marrying someone they love.
In Muslim societies, romantic love is the source of much discussion today, particularly because love experiences in collectivist cultures have been seldom documented in scholarly literature. Traditionally, many marriages are arranged in these South Asian collectivist societies, a contemporary sweeping trend is elopement/secret marriages between love partners that take place without parental approval and/or knowledge.
In some villages in Pakistan, elopement marriage is viewed as an act of resistance against collectivist Muslim society traditionalism and as a rebellion against arranged marriages. This is an important trend to understand because it speaks to a gradual shift in this particular society’s social identity—a potential shift away from collectivism and toward individualism.
Define elopement
Secret marriages between love partners that take place without parental approval and/or knowledge
What is the central feature of love according to Beverly Fehr?
- Trust
- Care
- Honesty
- Friendship
- Respect
- Desire to promote the well-being of the other
- Loyalty
- Commitment
- Accepting the other without wanting to change the other
- Support
- A desire to be in the other’s company
- Consideration of and interest in the other
Describe romantic love
Romantic infatuation is often referred to as romantic love.
“A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction.”
“An object of extravagant short-lived passion.”
Romantic infatuation involves a complicated, often overpowering, blend of emotion and sexuality,
What is the role of phenylethylamine in the neuroscience of Love?
(PEA), which causes feelings of excitement and euphoria
The second neurotransmitter involved in passionate love. It is a chemical associated with amphetamines, and its effects on people’s moods and energy are similar to those of various stimulants. This is why people in love feel energized, upbeat, and optimistic
What is the difference between intimacy seekers and predatory stalkers?
Intimacy seekers - Desire to establish an intimate, loving relationship with their victim. They believe that their victim is their one and only soul mate and that fate has brought them together
Predatory stalker - Spy on the victim in order to plan a sexual attack
Companionate Love
Deep, tender, mature, affectionate attachment bonds shared between two people; companionate love may or may not include feelings of physical arousal
How does the triangle Theory of love created by Sternberg define love?
Definition - Robert Sternberg’s theory conceptualizes eight different types of love relationships, These relationships take into account that each individual will experience many types of love throughout life.
Recognizing that love is a process that undergoes change, Sternberg proposed that love relationships consist of three interconnected components; intimacy, commitment, and passion. Each of these interlocking components corresponds to one side of the love triangle; because love is not a fixed or static experience, the three components of love will not always be in perfect balance. All of the three components may not necessarily be present at the same time.
Intimacy - Refers to loving relationships characterized by feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness. Includes many components such as self-disclosure of personal and private aspects of our lives, respect, trust, affection, warmth, mutuality, and spirituality. As with companionate love, intimacy builds slowly and gradually over time and is a prominent feature of a love relationship.
Commitment - Refers to loving another person as a conscious act of will—it is a deliberate choice. It includes such things as being loyal to another person, being responsible and reliable, being trustworthy and trusting, and putting forth our best effort in a relationship. The process of commitment occurs gradually with the levels of commitment to the partner increasing somewhat slowly at first. Commitment—just as in the instances of loving and liking—is possible only after several rewards are reciprocated between the partners. After commitment begins to increase in a relationship, these levels accelerate and then gradually find a leveling-off point. If at any time during the relationship and of the key attributes of commitment are dishonored, violated, or lost, the love relationship becomes threatened or may even end.
Passion - The physical attraction and romantic feelings that initially draw us to another person. Passion is the driving force of romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation. Passion can still exist in a relationship whether sexual intercourse is a part of the relationship or not. Passion is the most intense and immediate. Passion peaks quickly. Over time, however, the initial excitement levels of passion reduce to a stable level; at the same time, liking and intimacy levels continue to rise, giving way to companionate love. Although some couples fear that they have “fallen out of love” when the passion begins to fade, others become comfortable with the calm stabilization of their love relationship. If a relationship is ended, an individual may experience feelings of loss. if this occurs, a person’s capacity for passion may be negative for a time until a sense of lose abates.
