Chapter 4 and 16 module 10 Flashcards
What is interpersonal communication?
A process of exchange where there is desire and motivation on the part of those involved to get to know each other as unique individuals
dyad
between to people
Self Discloser
the process of revealing information about yourself to others that is not readily known by them. / Personal info you have to tell others for them to know.
Johari Window 4 quadrants
1:open / arena - Things out in the open
2:Blind Spot - Things others notice that maybe you haven’t
3:Hidden / Facade - Things you hide from others intentionally
4:unknown - things you or others do not know about.
relational dialectics
A continuum of needs for each participant in a relationship that must be negotiated by those involved
Autonomy-Connection
Refers to our need to have close connections with others as well as our need to have our own space and identity.
Novelty-Predictability
The idea that we desire predictability as well as spontaneity in our relationships.
Openness-Closedness
refers to the desire to be open and honest with others while at the same time not wanting to reveal everything about yourself to someone else
neutralization
neither party gets everything they want
Separation
together and then apart
Segmentation
Divides needs according to the different segments of your life.
reframing
mixing two styles of dialectics
communication climate
the overall feeling or emotional mood between two people
confirming climates
Messages that demonstrate our value and worth with whom we have a relationship
disconfirming climates
Messages that suggest we are devalued and unimportant
three types of confirming messages
1: Recognition Messages
2: Acknowledgment Messages
3: Endorsement Messages
recognition message
A message that either confirms or denies another person’s existence.
acknowledgment message
Beyond recognition and confirming what they say or how they feel.
endorsement messages
Beyond recognition and acknowledgment-Recognizing a person’s feelings are valid.
how many steps in developing friendships
6
the 6 steps of developing friendships
1: Role-limited interaction
2: Friendly Relations
3: moving toward friendship
4: Nascent Friendship
5: Stabilized Friendship
6: Waning Friendship
Role Limited- 1st step of friendship
interactions based on social roles
Friendly Relations- 2nd step of friendship
beginning to look for commonality
Moving toward friendship-3rd step of friendship
making moves to foster a more personalized friendship
Nascent Friendship- 4th step in friendship
committing to spend more time together/ calling them friends, and hanging out
Stabilized Friendship- 5th step in friendship
Just knowing they are friends, even if they don’t hang out/ can last a lifetime
Waning Friendship- 6th and final stage
growing apart or an abrupt ending to a friendship
types of love
1: eros -passion and commitment
2: Ludus -Game Playing
3: storage -Love and Friendship
4: Pragma -Pragmatic Love
5: Mania -emotional intensity
6Agape -Selfless Caring
