Chapter 3: Starting with YOU: Understanding Yourself Flashcards

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What is the starting point for building communication skills?

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Self assessment

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What are some quality tools to assess your natural talents, attributes and life skills to grow your communication skills?

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Strengths assessment

Emotional intelligence

Conflict management

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Positive Psychology movement

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Focuses on the study of human strengths and virtues and the factors that contribute to a full and meaningful life

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What happens if you use your highest strengths?

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You are more engaged, more productive, more successful, healthier, and happier

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Tools for measuring strengths

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Clifton Strengths-Finder

Values in Action Inventory of Strengths (VIA)

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Strength begins with what?

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A talent

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Talent

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a naturally recurring pattern of thought, feeling, or behavior that can be
productively applied

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Strengths

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Strengths are defined as the ability to provide consistent,
near-perfect performance in a given activity

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Why identify and focus on strengths>

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It is meant to balance the negative side of psychology

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Benefits of discovering your strengths

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You will become more aware of your strengths and find new ways to apply them.
* Validates your uniqueness and builds confidence
* You will feelappreciation/thankfulness for your unique talents and how they effect your life.
* New excitement for life and your own potential
* New discernment for accepting or rejecting opportunities that fit or don’t fit your talents.
* You will be able to choose to do the things you can do best
— provides focus for your career and life.

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Emotional Intelligence

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It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results

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Four domains of Emotional Intelligence

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Self-awareness
* Self-management
* Social awareness
* Relationship management

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Self awareness

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Know your story and how it affects you

Make peace with your past—practice forgiveness

Know your beliefs, your emotions, and your behavior patterns

Take time to identify your individual feelings and emotions, such as anger, sadness, fear, and joy in various situations.

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Self Management

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Learn new stress management techniques that will help you stay
emotionally present in upsetting situations.

Learn skills for soothing and motivating yourself

Maintain healthy eating and exercise habits

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Social awareness

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Work at understanding nonverbal social signals—focus
on the other person in interactions

  • Develop a positive view of others
  • Work at understanding the basic human emotional needs of your clients and colleagues
  • Understand “games” people play and principles of personal integrity
  • Discomfort when hearing others express certain views tells you something important about yourself.

Examine your responses and the reasons for them.

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Relationship management

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Develop skills for reflective listening and developing your capacity for empathy

  • Become aware of ways you use nonverbal communication
  • Learn skills for healthy assertiveness
  • Learn conflict resolution skills—see conflict as an opportunity to grow closer to others.
  • Develop skills for support and affirmation of others— become an encourager
  • Use humor and play to relieve stress
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Two ways to Improve Emotional Intelligence

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  1. Relationship management
  2. Conflict Management
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Conflict

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Conflict can be defined as a disagreement in values or beliefs within oneself or between people that causes harm or has the potential to cause harm

19
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What is considered a catalyst for change and may be needed for change?

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Conflict

20
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Two basic choices for dealing with conflict

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Assertiveness and cooperativeness

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Assertiveness

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the degree to which you try to satisfy your own concerns

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Cooperativeness

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the degree to which you try to satisfy the other person’s concerns

23
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Modes of Conflict Management

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  1. Competing
  2. Collaborating
  3. Compromising
  4. Avoiding
  5. Accommodating
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Competing (what are the two basic choices in play)

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Assertive and uncooperative

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Competing

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This person is determined to get their own way with no regard for the other person’s concern.

This results in a win-lose solution in which only one party gets their way.

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Collaborating (what are the two basic choices in play)

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cooperative and assertive

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Collaborating

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This is when the participants work together to find a solution
that satisfies both parties.

Collaboration usually requires extra
time and patience to reach the ideal, win-win solution.

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Compromising (what are the two basic choices in play)

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an intermediate answer

29
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Compromising

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Only partially satisfies both people’s concerns.
* Placed in the center of the space, midway on both axis.
* Each person gives in to some degree and loses some of what they
wanted in the process.
* This is considered a lose-lose solution since neither party really gets
what they wanted

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Avoiding (what are the two basic choices in play)

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both unassertive and uncooperative

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Avoiding

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The avoidant person doesn’t even air their concerns and the other
person gets whatever they wanted.

Considered a lose-win solution since the other person does get their
way.

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Accommodating (what are the two basic choices in play)

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cooperative and unassertive

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Accommodating

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Placed on the far right end of the cooperativeness axis and the low end of the assertiveness axis.
* This person chooses to consider the other person’s issues without asserting their own wants or needs.
* This is also considered a lose-win situation. The accommodator has chosen to satisfy the other persons
concerns at the expense of their own