Chapter 12: Attraction and Love

Question 1

propinquity effect

Answer 1

liking people with whom we have greater contact

Question 2

mere-exposure effect

Answer 2

liking a person more if we have been exposed to him or her repeatedly

Question 3

homophily

Answer 3

having contact with people who share our social characteristics

Question 4

matching phenomenon

Answer 4

individuals choosing partners who match them (attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness)

Question 5

perceived similarity

Answer 5

when an individual believes his or her partner is similar on important characteristics

Question 6

intimate relationship

Answer 6

relationships where intimate interactions occur on a regular and predictable basis (affection, mutual trust, and partner cohesiveness)

Question 7

flirting

Answer 7

communicating attraction to another (sometimes expressing interest in intimacy)

Question 8

romantic script

Answer 8

a story about what love should be like, involving characters, a plot, and a theme

Question 9

passionate love

Answer 9

a state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal

Question 10

companionate love

Answer 10

a feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person you have an intimate relationship with

Question 11

operational definition

Answer 11

defining a concept or term by how it is measured - ex: defining intelligence based off an IQ score

Question 12

two-component theory of love

Answer 12

Bercheid and Walster’s theory that two conditions mjust exist simultaneously for passionate love to occur: physical arousal and attaching a cognitive label (love) to the feeling

Question 13

misattribution of arousal

Answer 13

when a person in a state of physiological arousal (e.g., from exercising or being in a frightening situation) attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present

Question 14

intimate experiences

Answer 14

the meaning a person gives to their interactions with another person

Question 15

self-disclosure

Answer 15

telling personal things about yourself

Question 16

sexual self-disclosure

Answer 16

telling personal sexual things about yourself

Question 17

intent

Answer 17

what the speaker means

Question 18

impact

Answer 18

what someone else understands the speaker to mean

Question 19

effective communicator

Answer 19

a communicator whose impact matches their intent

Question 20

“I” language

Answer 20

speaking about yourself, using the word “I”; not mind reading

Question 21

mind reading

Answer 21

making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels

Question 22

levelling

Answer 22

telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly

Question 23

editing

Answer 23

Censoring things that would be hurtful or irrelevant to your partner

Question 24

paraphrasing

Answer 24

saying in your own words what you think your partner meant

Question 25

nonverbal communication

Answer 25

communication through body language

Question 26

validation

Answer 26

telling your partner that, given their pov, you can see why they think in a certain way

Question 27

fighting fair

Answer 27

a set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive