Chapter 12: Attraction and Love Flashcards
Terms/Definitions
propinquity effect
liking people with whom we have greater contact
mere-exposure effect
liking a person more if we have been exposed to him or her repeatedly
homophily
having contact with people who share our social characteristics
matching phenomenon
individuals choosing partners who match them (attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness)
perceived similarity
when an individual believes his or her partner is similar on important characteristics
intimate relationship
relationships where intimate interactions occur on a regular and predictable basis (affection, mutual trust, and partner cohesiveness)
flirting
communicating attraction to another (sometimes expressing interest in intimacy)
romantic script
a story about what love should be like, involving characters, a plot, and a theme
passionate love
a state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal
companionate love
a feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person you have an intimate relationship with
operational definition
defining a concept or term by how it is measured - ex: defining intelligence based off an IQ score
two-component theory of love
Bercheid and Walster’s theory that two conditions mjust exist simultaneously for passionate love to occur: physical arousal and attaching a cognitive label (love) to the feeling
misattribution of arousal
when a person in a state of physiological arousal (e.g., from exercising or being in a frightening situation) attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present
intimate experiences
the meaning a person gives to their interactions with another person
self-disclosure
telling personal things about yourself
sexual self-disclosure
telling personal sexual things about yourself
intent
what the speaker means
impact
what someone else understands the speaker to mean
effective communicator
a communicator whose impact matches their intent
“I” language
speaking about yourself, using the word “I”; not mind reading
mind reading
making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels
levelling
telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly
editing
Censoring things that would be hurtful or irrelevant to your partner
paraphrasing
saying in your own words what you think your partner meant
nonverbal communication
communication through body language
validation
telling your partner that, given their pov, you can see why they think in a certain way
fighting fair
a set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive
