Chapter 12

Question 1

Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

Answer 1

Intimacy—friendship, emotional closeness, high regard and caring for the other, trust, mutual understanding, happiness together, etc.
Passion—physical attraction, fascination, romance, and sexual relations.
Decision/Commitment—decision to commit to loving the person through good times and bad and to maintain the relationship over time.

Question 2

Consummate Love: The Ultimate Achievement

Answer 2

Intimacy+Passion+Decision/Commitment

Question 3

John Lee’s Many Colors of Love

Answer 3

Different love styles portrayed as different colors

Question 4

Pragma

Answer 4

ludus + storge; a practical style of loving, carefully seeking a mate with their list of desired traits.

Question 5

Mania

Answer 5

eros + ludus; intense, obsessive emotional dependency on the attention and affection of one’s partner.

Question 6

Agape

Answer 6

eros + storge; selfless, devoted lover, putting partner’s interests above their own. Similar to Maslow’s “being love” and Sternberg’s “empty love”—not very common.

Question 7

Eros

Answer 7

emotional feeling of love following strong physical attractions; they fall in and out of love often (similar to Sternberg’s infatuation).

Question 8

Ludus

Answer 8

self-centered in pursuit of fun; enjoys the chase, but doesn’t maintain a commitment (similar to Sternberg’s fatuous love).

Question 9

Storge

Answer 9

affection that develops from friendship (similar to Sternberg’s companionate love).

Question 10

5 Love Languages

Answer 10

1. Acts of service
2. Receiving gifts
3. Quality time
4. Words of affirmation
5. Physical touch