Chapter 12 Flashcards
Passionate Love
- Strong feelings of longing, desire, and excitement toward a special person.
Companionate Love
- Mutual understanding and Caring
Physiological difference
- Presence of PEA
Passionate Love
Important for starting relationships
- exists for a brief period of time
Companionate love
is important for making it succeed and survive
Sternbers triangle
Passion
- Emotional state with high bodily arousal
Intimacy
- Feeling of closeness, mutual understanding, and concern.
Commitment
- Conscious decision; remains constant
Different types of relationships
Exchange relationships - More frequent in broader society - Increases societal progress and wealth Communal relationship - More frequent in close intimate relationships - More desirable, healthier, and mature
Attachment Theory
Theory developed along two dimensions - Anxiety and Avoidance Four attachment styles - Secure attachment - Dismissing avoidant attachment - Fearful avoidant attachment - Preoccupied attachment
Self and Relationships
- Self-expansion and Inclusion of Other in the Self
- Cognitive Interdependence
- Relational-interdependent Self-Construal
Self-esteem and Love
- Popular belief that you need to love yourself before you can love others
- Not demonstrated in theory or facts
- Self-esteem
Self- Love and Loving others
- Narcissists
- Self-acceptance
Maintaining Relationships
Good relationships tend to stay the same over time
- Popular myth that they continue to improve
- Key to maintaining a good relationship is to avoid a downward spiral
Investment Model
Three factors to explain long-term relationships
- Satisfactions
- Alternatives
- Investments
Considered together they predict the likelihood of maintaining the relationship
Thinking Styles of Couples
Difference in terms of attribution - Relationship enhancing - Distress-maintaining style Optimism in the relationship Devaluing alternatives
Theories of Sexuality
Social Constructionist Theories
- Evolutionary Theory
- Gender differences based in reproductive strategies
Social Exchange Theory
Sex and Gender
Men have a stronger sex drive than women
- Coolidge effect
Separating sex and love
- Men are more likely to seek and enjoy sex without love
- Women are more likely to enjoy love without sex
Homosexuality
Homosexuality challenges theories of sexuality - Most cultures condemn homosexuality - Natural selection does not support it EBE - Erotic becomes exotic Difficult to test and verify this theory
Extradyadic Sex
Rare or common?
Association of breakups
Reason for straying
Jealousy and Possessiveness
Cultural and Evolutionary Perspectives
Causes of Jealousy
Culture and Female Sexuality
Paternal uncertainty
Double standard
