Chapter 12

Question 1

Passionate Love

Answer 1

• Strong feelings of longing, desire, and excitement toward a special person.

Question 2

Companionate Love

Answer 2

• Mutual understanding and Caring

Question 3

Physiological difference

Answer 3

• Presence of PEA

Question 4

Passionate Love

Answer 4

Important for starting relationships

- exists for a brief period of time

Question 5

Companionate love

Answer 5

is important for making it succeed and survive

Question 6

Sternbers triangle

Answer 6

Passion
- Emotional state with high bodily arousal
Intimacy
- Feeling of closeness, mutual understanding, and concern.
Commitment
- Conscious decision; remains constant

Question 7

Different types of relationships

Answer 7

Exchange relationships
- More frequent in broader society
- Increases societal progress and wealth
Communal relationship
- More frequent in close intimate relationships
- More desirable, healthier, and mature

Question 8

Attachment Theory

Answer 8

Theory developed along two dimensions
- Anxiety and Avoidance
Four attachment styles
- Secure attachment
- Dismissing avoidant attachment
- Fearful avoidant attachment
- Preoccupied attachment

Question 9

Self and Relationships

Answer 9

• Self-expansion and Inclusion of Other in the Self
• Cognitive Interdependence
• Relational-interdependent Self-Construal

Question 10

Self-esteem and Love

Answer 10

• Popular belief that you need to love yourself before you can love others
• Not demonstrated in theory or facts
• Self-esteem

Question 11

Self- Love and Loving others

Answer 11

• Narcissists

- Self-acceptance

Question 12

Maintaining Relationships

Answer 12

Good relationships tend to stay the same over time

• Popular myth that they continue to improve
• Key to maintaining a good relationship is to avoid a downward spiral

Question 13

Investment Model

Answer 13

Three factors to explain long-term relationships
- Satisfactions
- Alternatives
- Investments
Considered together they predict the likelihood of maintaining the relationship

Question 14

Thinking Styles of Couples

Answer 14

Difference in terms of attribution 
- Relationship enhancing
- Distress-maintaining style
Optimism in the relationship
Devaluing alternatives

Question 15

Theories of Sexuality

Answer 15

Social Constructionist Theories
- Evolutionary Theory
- Gender differences based in reproductive strategies
Social Exchange Theory

Question 16

Sex and Gender

Answer 16

Men have a stronger sex drive than women
- Coolidge effect
Separating sex and love
- Men are more likely to seek and enjoy sex without love
- Women are more likely to enjoy love without sex

Question 17

Homosexuality

Answer 17

Homosexuality challenges theories of sexuality
- Most cultures condemn homosexuality
- Natural selection does not support it 
EBE - Erotic becomes exotic 
Difficult to test and verify this theory

Question 18

Extradyadic Sex

Answer 18

Rare or common?

Association of breakups

Reason for straying

Question 19

Jealousy and Possessiveness

Answer 19

Cultural and Evolutionary Perspectives

Causes of Jealousy

Question 20

Culture and Female Sexuality

Answer 20

Paternal uncertainty

Double standard