Ch.9 Flashcards

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What is interpersonal attraction?

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Desire to form or maintain an interpersonal relationship with them

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2
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What is short term initial attraction?

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The degree to which you sense potential for developing an IP relationship with someone

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What is the long term maintenance attraction?

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Level of liking or positive feelings that motivates one to maintain or escalate an IP relationship

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Why do we form relationships?

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Appearance, similarity, complementarily, Reciprocal Attraction, Competence, Disclosure, proximity, rewards.

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5
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What is the matching hypnosis?

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Tendency to seek out individuals who represent the same level of physical appearance/ attractiveness as oneself.

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What is the social exchange theory?

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Seeking out people who can give us rewards that are greater or equal to the costs that we encounter when dealing with them.

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What is verbal immediacy?

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A direct compliment or comment about the positive regard for that person.

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What is nonverbal immediacy?

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Behaviors that reduce the physical and psychological distance between each other

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9
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What are the five stages of relational escalation?

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Initiating- showing interest, first exchange is innocent

Experimenting- small talk, getting to know each other through first date type questions

Intensifying- more time spent together, getting to know friends and family, trying to look physically attractive, showing they are attracted

Integrating- Social circles merge, “we” instead of “me” behavior rituals form

Bonding- symbolic public gesture of relationship (engagement, marriage, sharing residence, etc)

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What are the five stages of re-relational de-escalation?

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Differentiating- Asserting your individual identity, “we” orientation shifts to “me”

Circumscribing- Comm. decreases in quantity and quality, partners withdrawal from each other mentally or physically

Stagnating- Excitement is gone, take each other for granted, “still water”

Avoiding- Create physical distance between each other, make excuses to avoid each other

Terminating- Ending the relationship ( closure, divorce, etc.)

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11
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What are the three dialectical tensions (pg.282)

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Connection vs. Autonomy

Openness vs. Privacy

Predictability vs. Novelty

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12
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What are the characteristics of Relationships?

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Relationship are constantly changing

Relationship are affected by culture

Relationship require maintenance

Relationship require commitment

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13
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What are the types of relational transgressions?

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Minor Vs. significant

Social vs relational

Deliberate vs. unintentional

One time vs. incremental

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14
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What are the strategies for relational repair?

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  1. TALK about the violation
  2. Explicitly acknowledged that the transgression was wrong
  3. A sincere apology
  4. Some type of compensation
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15
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What are the two steps to forgive a transgression?

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An explicit statement

A discussion of the implications of the transgressions and future of the relationship

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16
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What are the different types of relational maintenance strategies?

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Positivity- keep the climate polite and upbeat; avoid criticism

Openness- talking about relationship (needs, concerns, and desires)

Assurance- letting The other person know (verbally & nonverbally) that you are committed to him/her

Social networks – being your partner’s friend, and also sharing friends

Sharing tasks - helping one another take care of life chores (washing car, clothes,); doing stuff together