Ch.9-12 Flashcards
Women’s sex drive
More adaptable sex drives. Otherwise similar to men’s.
What are the 3 types of sexual attitudes?
- Procreation
- Relational
- Recreational
Procreation
Primary reason is to have children.
Relational
To express love and affection
Recreational
Primary reason is to have fun.
What are the influences on sexual behaviors?
Culture, media, peers, family, previous relationships.
Serial Monogamy
Sexually active with one partner.
Generally more adjusted than promiscuous adventurers or virgins
Changes to sexual behaviors in the 60s
Birth control pill
Indirect, Timid, and ambiguous behaviors
Gives deniability and protection from rejection.
Scheflen’s Five Stages of Courtship
- Attention
- Courtship readiness stage
- Positioning
- Invitations
- Resolution
Courtship readiness stage
Recognition of partner
Positioning
Commitment to one another.
Invitations
More physically intimate. (Should take more time)
Resolution
Accept invitations and engage in sex.
3 positive Initiation strategies
- Hinting/indirect strategies
- Expressions of Emotional and Physical Closeness
- Logic and Reasoning
Quasi-courtship
Stages 1-4 of scheflen’s model
2 negative initiation strategies
- Pressure and manipulation
2. Antisocial acts
Refusal
Women tend to be more upset when refused for sex.
Token resistance
Unclear, confusing, dangerous.
Communication about sex should be clear.
Safe sex
Abstinence is the safest sex. Unsafe sex occurs more frequently in close relationships.
Dynamic process that involves continually adjusting to new needs and demands.
Relational maintenance
Pro social Behaviors
- Positivity
- Openness
- Assurance
- Social Networking
- Task sharing
Antisocial behaviors
- Avoidance
2. Jealousy induction
Sex differences in relational maintenance
Women talk more together, men do more together.
3 challenges in maintenance behaviors in cross-sex friendships
- Emotional bond
- Potential sexual attraction
- Public presentation challenge
What are long distance relationships doing?
Increasing in number.
When couples are together they each are on their best behavior, when a part they focus on positive aspects.
(Issues can arise when proximity becomes closer.)
Idealization
Cohabiting is successful when there are long-term plans to get married.
Selection effect
Distribution of resources is fair for both relational partners
Equity theory
Focuses on balance between benefits and contributions in a specific area.
Specific equity
An overall assessment of balance between two people’s benefits and contributions.
General equity
An expressed struggle between interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals.
Conflict
Parents who have dysfunctional conflict skills will probably have dysfunctional parenting skills.
Spillover effect
Children pick up and mimic their parents conflict styles.
Socialization effect
Win/lose. Direct and uncooperative, generally ineffective.
Competitive
Direct and moderately cooperative. Part win/part lose
Compromise
Win/win. Cooperative and direct. Most effective.
Collaborating
Indirect and uncooperative. Passive aggressive. Lose/lose
Indirect fighting
Indirect and neutral. Lose/lose.
Avoiding
Cooperative and indirect. Lose/win
Yielding
Aggression equals aggression.
Negative reciprocity
Storing up pat grievances and releasing them during an argument.
Gunnysacking
Bringing up old arguments during a current one.
Kitchen sinking
Insulting or talking about a 3rd party in relation to the argument
Bringing in a 3rd party
Assuming you know your partners thoughts and feelings
Mind reading
Four horsemen of the apocalypse
- Complaints vs. criticisms
- Accepting responsibility vs. defensiveness
- Respect vs. contempt
- Physiological self-soothing vs. stonewalling
Assigning reason to someone else’s behavior.
Attribution
Focuses on logic and reasoning
Argumentative ness
Attacks the other person.
Aggressiveness
An individual’s ability to control or influence another
Power
People have to recognize your power.
Perception
Exists in relationships, you power compared to your partner’s.
Relational
Struggle over resources
Resource based
The person with less to lose holds greater power.
Less to lose
What does appearance and clothing do?
Triggers judgement about power.
Parent/child
Parent needs power, but it should be inversely related to the child’s age.
Individuation and seperation
Teenage years. Teens become individuals and separate themselves from their parents.
Obey without question.
Authoritarian parents
Children can do whatever they want.
Permissive parents
Middle ground between permissive and authoritarian. Children respect boundaries but still have freedoms.
Authoritative
Power is associated with height and vertical position
Principle of elevation
Based on male dominance and clearly specified roles.
Traditional marriages
Both partners raise the children and share household responsibilities.
Egalitarian marriages
Dominant and controlling messages.
One-up messages
Deferent or accepting messages
One-down messages
Neutral messages
One-across messages