Ch. 8 Soc. Dvlp in Adolescence Flashcards
How should parents seek to cope w/ thrusts of independence from their teenagers?
PP 356
keeping the lines of communication open. Teenagers need to feel that their parents are a resource they can turn to.
Techniques for effective communication b/w adults and young people
PP. 357
Active listening
“I”-Messages
No-Lose Problem Solving
Collisions of Values
Active listening
understanding the sender’s message or their feelings and repeating in your own words. the aim is to feed back only what s/he feels the sender’s message meant… Reflecting feelings or restating content.
when a teenager feels his/her parents are listening, he/she will be more apt to listen to the parents’ point of view b/c children feel they r being heard n understood.
“I” Messages
PP 357
nonblaming messages that communicate only how the sender or the message believes the receiver is adversely affecting the sender. I-messages do not provide a solution, nor are they put-down messages.
I-messages help teenagers learn to assume responsibility for their own behavior
No-lose problem solving
PP 358
parents and youth solve their conflicts by finding their own unique solutions acceptable to both. Ea person in the conflict treats the other with respect, neither person tries to win the conflict by the use of power, and creative solutions.
Two basic premises
- people have the right to have their needs met
- what is in conflict b/w the two parties involved is not their needs but their solutions to those needs.
6 steps in the no-lose method:
- id and defining the needs of ea person
- generating possible alternative solutions
- evaluating the alternative solutions
- deciding on the best acceptable solution
- wkng out ways of implementing the solution
- following up t evaluate how it worked.
Collisions of Values
- parents can influence her offspring’s values by modeling the values they hold as important.
- act as a consultant to them
- modify values
The task of becoming independent involves
Pp 356
attaining emotional, social, and economic independence.
What does emotional independence involves
progressing from emotional dependence on parents or others to inc independence while still being able to maintain close emotional ties.
What does social independence involves
becoming self-directed rather than other-directed.
other-directed
strongly motivated by the need for social acceptance that much of what the group says is what adolescents think and do
self-directed
people think things out for themselves and make decisions based on their personal interests.
Economic independence
earning sufficient money to meet one’s financial needs. Also involves learning to limit one’s desires and purchases to one’s ability to pay.
Adolescent Rebellion include:
adolescent being in conflict w/ parents, being alienated from adult society, engaging in dangerous and reckless behavior, being in emotional turn oil and rejecting adult values.
Parental Styles
Authoritative: understanding children better provides control and consistent support.
Authoritarian: tell children what to do how to do it. More controlling.
Permissive: nondirective and avoid trying to control their children.
what’s the strongest predictor of delinquency
PP 359
family’s supervision and discipline of children