CH 10 Attraction & Intimacy

Question 1

Why do we feel attracted to people?

Answer 1

Proximity – We like people we see often (neighbors, classmates).

Familiarity – The more we see someone, the more we like them (mere exposure effect).

Physical appearance – We’re drawn to attractive people.

People think beautiful people have better traits (halo effect), even if it’s not true.

We usually match with someone at a similar level of attractiveness (matching phenomenon).

Similarity – We like people who are similar to us (values, interests, age).

Reciprocity – We like people who like us back!

Question 2

What is love?

Answer 2

Passionate love – The exciting, “can’t stop thinking about them” love.

Companionate love – Deep, calm love that grows over time (like in long-term relationships).

Question 3

Attachment styles (how we bond with others):

Answer 3

Secure – Trusting and comfortable.

Avoidant – Distant, doesn’t like closeness.

Anxious – Clingy, afraid of being left.

These usually start in childhood and show up in adult relationships.

Question 4

What keeps relationships strong?

Answer 4

Rewards – We like people who make us feel good or offer support.

Self-disclosure – Sharing secrets builds connection.

Good communication – Solving problems without yelling, blaming, or ignoring

Question 5

Matching phenomenon

Answer 5

We usually end up with partners similar to us in attractiveness and traits — not necessarily the most attractive people overall.

Question 6

Likeness breeds liking

Answer 6

People who are similar to us (in attitudes, values, etc.) are more attractive to us.

Question 7

Self-disclosure

Answer 7

Sharing personal info deepens closeness.

Question 8

Disclosure reciprocity effect:

Answer 8

When someone opens up, we tend to open up too

Question 9

Relationship satisfaction is higher when both partners feel:

Answer 9

Rewards are balanced (social exchange theory).

Effort and benefits are equal (equity theory)