attraction & relationships Flashcards
five key factors influencing who you like
similarity, proximity & propinquity, self-disclosure, situational factors, physical attractiveness
propinquity
of encounters, we tend to like people that we encounter most people
self-disclosure
disclosing information about ourselves to others
disclosure-liking effect
we disclose more to people we like and we like people more after we disclose to them ; because is breeds familiarity & trust, intimate information is rare and valued
what determines attractiveness?
symmetry, hormonal markers, and averageness (prototypical)
misattribution of arousal
dutton & aron love bridge study, signs of physiological arousal are misattributed as signs of romantic attraction ; can actually work both ways & decrease attraction as well, only amplifies inital feeling
halo effect
attractive people get more favorable evaluations across multiple social traits; career, legal, etc. ex. prison bae
triangular theory of love
3 factors/ components of love: intimacy, commitment, and passion
investment model of commitment
rewards, costs, comparison level, alternatives,
investment
what you have invested and put into the relationship that would be lost if the relationship ended
positive illusions
lying to yourself about how great your partner is, idealizing your partner to increase satisifaction, using positive attributions to explain behavior
two kinds of positive illusions
relationship enhancing illusions vs. distress maintenance attributions
relationship enhancing illusions
interpreting partner traits or behaviors in a way that minimizes negative valuations and promotes positive evaluations ex: “im sad you missed our date, but i love that you’re so dedicated”
distress-maintenance attributions
interpreting partner traits or behaviors in ways that maintain pre-existing negative evaluations ex: “why did you buy these flowers? what did you do?”
four horsemen of divorce
criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, and disgust/contempt
chameleon effect
more likely to mimic people we like, we like people that mimic us, being mimicked increases prosocial behavior
mimicry triggers reward processing and positive affect and activity in the ________
vmPFC and ventral striatum
anti-mimicry and lack of mimciry can trigger conflict processing & error detection, and increased activity ______
dACC and DLPFC
physiological ________ is linked to higher relationships satisfaction
synchrony
true or false: behavioral mimicry is indicative of physical attraction
false! behavioral mimicry is only linked to flirtation which is really only linked to flirting back, not to actual attraction
