Apply NLP in Life Coaching Flashcards
What are the four questions you can ask to help a client change with the NLP model of change?
- What is the desired outcome? This is to clearly understand what the coaching practices are moving towards.
- What are the values that direct you? To understand why the coachee is making a change will give the coaching practices meaning for them.
- What are our strategies for change? This is about planning how the outcome will be achieved.
- What is your contingency plan if you do not achieve your outcome? There is a need to understand the coachee’s support and resources in the event that something prevents them from completing the process of change.
List at least 5 outcome questions you could ask to help your client achieve their goals (well-formed outcomes)
- What do you want?
- How will you know you have succeeded?
- Where, when, and with whom do you want this outcome?
- What resources do you have?
- Can you start and maintain this outcome?
- What are the wider consequences?
- Is the outcome in keeping with who you are?
- How do your outcomes fit together?
- What will you do next?
What is an ecology check and why is it important?
Ecology is checking how everything is affected as a whole system rather than just how it affects the individual. Does the change fit with the person’s goals and values? How will the change affect other people that are in their lives?
Ecology is important because it is possible to achieve the desired change/goals but realise too late about the negative consequences of achieving the goal. Ecology helps prevent undesired consequences by discovering them before they occur.
What are the steps in the 6 step reframing framework?
- Identify the behaviour the client wants to change, focus on the undesired behaviour.
- Create a signal for the undesired behaviour so they know when the undesired behaviour occurs.
- Determine the positive intention behind the undesired behaviour
- Brainstorm other ways to meet the positive intention behind the undesired behaviour.
- Choose the best alternative behaviour and check for any objections.
- Ecology check to make sure the new behaviour fits with the individual and the people in their life.
What are the steps for reframing with two or more parts?
- Externalise each part that has an interest in the conflict.
- Identify the positive intention of each part.
- Become more aware of the function, intent and context of each part.
- Work with the parts so they can become mutually compatible by getting each part to experience the values, beliefs, resources of the other parts.
- integrate or have the parts work together in mutual co-operation.
- review any unconscious objections that may still exist.
- If objections still exist repeat the steps above
- reintegrate the parts or the new combined part back into yourself
- check the effectiveness of the process by imagining a situation where the conflict used to exist to see if any conflict is still coming up
What are five characteristics of someone who NLP coaching would work well for?
- Being a visual thinker can help with many of the NLP Techniques
- Be able to reflect on your thought processes and make changes to them
- Be able to think abstractly about things can help with reframing and ecology checks.
- Being Introspective to look inside yourself for your thoughts, feelings etc.
- Being open to the process as a whole.
In NLP Coaching What are the four pillars framework for working with clients?
- Outcomes
- Sensory Acuity
- Behavioural Flexibility
- Rapport
Outcomes: Client needs to be clear about what they want before you can make changes.
Sensory acuity: Refers to peoples ability to use their senses to determine if what they are doing is working and to be open to new perspectives and behaviours etc.
Behavioural Flexibility: refers to being flexible and to make changes when their sensory acuity indicates that what they are doing is not working.
Rapport: Is building mutual trust and respect with other people and nlp has techniques for building rapport.
With Representational Systems what is the VAKOG acronym?
- Visual - sight
- Auditory - sound
- Kinesthetic - touch
- Olfactory - smell
- Gustatory - taste
What are the nine questions you can ask for making a well-formed outcome?
- What do you want?
- How will you know you have succeeded?
- Where, when, and with whom do you want this outcome?
- What resources do you have?
- Can you start and maintain this outcome?
- What are the wider consequences?
- Is the outcome in keeping with who you are?
- How do your outcomes fit together?
- What will you do next?
If you are looking at someone and they look up and to your left what eye accessing cue are they using?
To your left upwards represents a person using visual construction (VC). This indicates that the individual is picturing an image of something that they have not seen before. A question that could elicit this kind of processing is “What would a dog with wings look like?”
If you are looking at someone and they look up and to your right what eye accessing cue are they using?
To your right upwards represents a person using visual recall (VR). This indicates that the individual is seeing an image of something that they have seen before. A question that could elicit this kind of processing is “What colour are your partner’s eyes?”
If you are looking at someone and they look sideways to your left what eye accessing cue are they using?
To your left across to the side demonstrates a person using auditory construction (AC). This indicates that the individual is hearing a sound that they have not heard before. A question that could elicit this kind of processing is “What would your voice sound like an octave lower?”
If you are looking at someone and they look sideways to your right what eye accessing cue are they using?
To your right across to the side demonstrates a person using auditory recall (AR). This indicates that the individual is remembering sounds that they have heard before. A question that could elicit this kind of processing is “What sound is your phone’s ringtone?”
If you are looking at someone and they look down and to your left what eye accessing cue are they using?
To your left downwards is an expression of kinaesthetic construction (K). This indicates that the individual is in touch with their feelings, emotions, sense of touch, or proprioceptive feelings. A question that could elicit this kind of processing is “What does it feel like to have a cool breeze blowing in your face?”
If you are looking at someone and they look down and to your right what eye accessing cue are they using?
To your right looking downwards is an expression of our own internal dialogue (AD). This indicates that the individual is accessing their own internal dialogue. A question that could elicit this kind of processing is “Can you say something inside your head that you often say to yourself.”
