Advanced Approach and Conversation Tactics Flashcards
Push/Pull and Punishment/Reward
Challenges at her. Make her feel she might not measure up to your standards. Then pay her compliments when she DOES pass one of your tests.
What is the fundamental difference between men and women?
Guys are always looking for reasons to find women to qualify them whereas women instantly begin to find reasons to disqualify us
“Responsible” type push/pull tactic….
“I plan on staying out late and getting a little crazy. I don’t want you to get into any trouble…I can tell you’re nice, responsible type of girl who’s probably got a curfew”
Playboy model convention (push/pull tactic)….
“Have you noticed the women in this place? There must be a million dollars worth of plastic surgery in this room, it looks like a playboy model convention. It’s nice to talk to
Someone normal for a change”
Why do girls do not want to be complimented in her “normalcy” in a bar/club setting?
They want to be noticed for their sex appeal, and you seem to be completely overlooking that
What is the “you are the prize mindset”?
If there are a hundred guys in the room, you must believe your the guy who stands ABOVE the herd. When you approach her, your not going to let her radar kick into high gear an start “screening” you for defects. YOU have the high standards who’s giving HER a chance
Instead of asking boring questions like “So what do you do for fun?” Or “what kind of music are you into?” You can ask her what?
“You seem like someone who doesn’t take herself too seriously–you work hard but you definitely play hard too, am I right?”
ANY TIME she says or does something that you agree with…what line should you use?
“That’s good to know. I wasn’t sure about you at first Britani, but maybe I misjudged you”
Why should you continue to “test” her spontaneity and sense of adventure?
Subconsciously, she will want to live up to that image
How should you playfully “punish” her when she answers one o your qualifying questions incorrectly?
“Lisa, your telling me you’ve NEVER been to (……)? Hold on, I don’t know I this relationship is going to work out….
What is calibration?
Your ability to take in and process information in any social situation you are in and use that calibration to behave in the best manner.
How to read a women from afar….
A.) look at her clothing….what does it tell you about her personality? A way a women dresses says a lots out her. We dress to reflect our internal image….
B.) Physical gesturing….reserved and quiet/using her hands a lot when she’s talking
C.) Jewlery….Always look for something very charactered. Maybe a ring, look at it and pick up on it. There’s always a story behind it
D.) Tone of voice
E.) Tone of voice and physical gesturing interact.
What should you look for when looking for “physical type”?
Always express criteria and communicate that she has to qualify herself to you—-hot girls
6-9 cute/practical girls….you can be more relaxed
Elite women…non bar goers: Very perceptive, building value by demonstrating your intellect.
Unattractive women…you must handle them differently.
What is the renaissance man?
Simply a guy who has varied interests…many different kinds of books….latest things hgoing on the world…many different interests in many different areas.
Why are the unattractive bitchy types bitchy in the first place?
To push away guys to justify why she didn’t want them in the first place.
She does it because of jealousy about the women she’s with.
Attractive women do this by comparison because she will be the pick of the litter
