ADH Comparisons Flashcards
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
the accepting, calm tone of the poem
Rossetti departs from the sort of funereal elegies and songs of remembrance we associate with Victorian poetry
Rossetti’s ‘Song’ is unusually stoic and free from tragic self-pity or sorrow, we see in this poem the quality that Philip Larkin so admired in Christina Rossetti: her ‘steely stoicism’
similar to Nora at the end of the play — accepting and calm
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
the lack of need for love and affection
whilst roses represent love, the cypress tree traditionally symbolises mourning because cypress branches were carried at funerals
by declaring that she has no need for love and mourning, the speaker reassures the lover that she will not be jealous or resentful if they continue living their life rather than mourn the speaker
link to how Nora realises by the end of the play she doesn’t need Torvald’s ‘love’ and affection anymore, it is meaningless
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
weariness and tiredness
Rossetti uses alliteration and sibilance to create a song-like tone
phrases such as ‘sad songs’ highlight the melancholy voice of the speaker
the soft ‘sh’ sounds in the words ‘shady’ and ‘showers’ reinforce her weary tone, which mirrors Nora’s weariness and tiredness towards the end of the play
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
expression of emotion
this poem is concerned with natural and spontaneous expression through song or poetry, such as the song of the ‘nightingale’
poetry provides a natural outlet for the speaker’s emotions – like Nora’s tarantella allows her to express her emotions
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
endurance and continued growth
grass is a plant that can be stepped on, drowned in rain, or put through drought and continue to grow
“Being the grass” is a likely metaphor for enduring, and continuing to move forward with life
parallels with Nora’s wishes for Torvald when she leaves, she wants them both to move on and grow
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
uncertainty
the narrator focuses on what they will not experience, and in each example, a sense of sorrow is instilled in the poem
there will be no “shadows;” no “rain,” and no “painful” songs from the nightingales
each word creates an image of dark, with the rain especially emulating the image of tears
repetition is used to great effect, influencing what the speaker “shall not” know of, without really understanding what they “shall” be
links to Nora’s uncertainty at the end of ADH, she ventures out into the unknown and neither she nor the audience can be sure of what will happen to her, all we know is that she will be free of Torvald’s control
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
giving freedom of choice to another person
it is meaningless to insist someone to remember her after her death
therefore, she gives her dearest one the freedom to remember of forgetting as he wishes
like Nora gives Torvald freedom at the end of the play to finally strip himself of his façade and grow as a person
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
fatalism
the poem also suggests us that no one can escape from the torturous grip of the death
it reflects a quite melancholic and inflicted heart of the speaker – similar to Nora’s fatalistic attitude
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
outward shows of behaviour
by questioning the mourning ritual, perhaps the narrator is criticising the showing of behaviour for the sake of outward appearances and suggests some more sincere ways to express one’s sadness is better
like Nora’s realisation that Torvald’s ‘love’ for her is merely a façade and doesn’t mean anything
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
contrasts between the relationships in this poem and the play
Torvald views Nora as his “pet” rather than his wife, to him, being a wife means being property
whereas in this poem, the speaker tells her lover to move on after her death, which is the opposite of the possessive and controlling relationship based on selfishness seen between Torvald and Nora
the narrator instead assures that she won’t be sad or bitter if her beloved decides to move on, she actually encourages it, giving them freedom to choose
Song: When I Am Dead My Dearest
common attitudes and themes expressed in both texts
contemplation, calm, weary, confidence, acceptance, self-awareness, tolerance (about death), curiosity, melancholy, solemn, sombre, indifference/nonchalance, ambiguous towards death, loss
Remember
growth, maturity and acceptance
begins with a strong, clear and commanding tone but this weakens as the command to remember is replaced by the suggestion that the speaker is happy to be forgotten if its means those she has left behind will be happy
the speaker recalls how, in previous meetings, there was reluctance to turn away from her lover, yet this is now a necessity that they both must deal with and she has realised this
the speaker’s tone changes, urning from the instruction to remember, she suddenly chooses to accept that she may be forgotten and declares that it would be far better that the beloved forgot and was happy than remembered and was sad
this demonstrates maturity, growth and acceptance, much like Nora’s journey
Remember
attempts to gain control
the regularity of the iambic beat reinforces the sense of control the speaker attempts to establish over the matter of death and the beloved’s reaction to this, something she suggests she has little control over
similarity to Nora trying to gain some form of control over her own life
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possession
the speaker anticipates a time when her lover will no longer be able to ‘hold’ her ‘by the hand’
by using the image of hand-holding, Rossetti suggests a kind of possession
by indicating that her lover will no longer be able to hold her by the hand the speaker suggests that he will no longer have any part in her or be able to possess her in the same way as he was perhaps used to
links to Torvald’s possession of Nora
love is a kind of possession (but not necessarily of the demonic kind) – the hand holding and the speaker’s inability to “turn” away, for example
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loneliness and isolation
the speaker anticipates entering the ‘silent land’ which she perceives to be ‘far away’ from life on earth
as well as indicating physical distance, the idea of silence can suggest both positive and negative associations
rest, sleep and tranquillity —the final book of the New Testament, Revelation, describes heaven as a place of rest for all who enter (Revelation 14:13)
an absence of life and communication — it is a place where there can be no more intimacy, talking of future dreams or holding hands, it is a place of loneliness and isolation
links to Nora’s isolation, or perhaps the peace she will find in the wider world now that she has escaped the confines of her home
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the role of women
Remember can be read as highlighting the passive role expected of women in Victorian society
if the speaker is female, we see her as the recipient of the dominant male’s actions, who: holds on to / possesses her, talks at her (‘You tell me’), lays down what the future is to hold for her (‘our future that you plann’d’) and advises her (‘counsel’)
in the light of this, perhaps the speaker’s inner thoughts come from a ‘dark’ place and are rebellious and resentful of this treatment
Remember
plain and direct speech
plain and direct speech, calm and measured
like Nora’s discussion with Torvald at the end of the play
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talk of death
‘going away’ is the poem’s metaphor and euphemism for death, which contrasts hugely to Krogstad’s vivid description of Nora’s corpse, who makes no attempt to use euphemisms
the word ‘death’ never actually appears in the poem, demonstrating an attempt to avoid being overly morbid using the harsh word ‘death’ and possibly upsetting the addressee
this is like Rank not telling Torvald of his illness to shelter him from the ugly
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sacrifice
love is about sacrifice more than anything and the speaker proves her love by saying she would rather her lover be happy than remember her and be in pain
perhaps she is restraining herself from expressing her desire to be remembered for the sake of those she has left behind, she would rather them be happy
links to the sacrificial role of women in ADH, having to sacrifice parts of themselves for the happiness and wellbeing of others — here the speaker sacrifices being remembered to allow others to be happy
she wishes for her beloved to be happy, even if that means forgetting her, the narrator sacrifices her personal desire to be remembered in an expression of consideration for him, she prefers to spare him the pain of guilt and mourning
Nora has to make a sacrifice to save her husband and is then punished for it, but also at the end of the play has to sacrifice her family to be herself and find her own identity
in this poem, the speaker has to sacrifice her true desire to be remembered in order to make her loved ones happy
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power imbalance
emphasises his position of power in their relationship because he has planned everything: “our future that YOU planned”
this suggests that her lover’s ‘plans’ may not have accorded with her own, yet he dictated her future
perhaps he was making plans without her agreement, dominating the relationship, as was the societal norm
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the ending
the poem ends in peace and acceptance
the simple rhyme of ‘had’ and ‘sad’ gives a feeling of resolution and completeness
unlike in ADH, in which the ending is far from resolved and peaceful
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ambiguity
an alternative view is that the poem ends with the negative emotion of sadness rather than acceptance because the very last word is “sad”
maybe deep down the speaker actually does want her lover to remember her in death, there seems to be an ambiguity with the final line
much like how Torvald’s final line in ADH is open to interpretation, has he come to a realisation? or is he still ignorant?
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strong female voice
the only voice in the poem is that of a woman and it is a commanding tone, often using imperatives and instructing those she has left behind on how to deal with their loss
the narrator also gives the person her permission to forget her
this is similar to Nora in the final stages of the play as she makes up her mind and cannot be influenced by Torvald or by what society would expect of a woman
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desire to be forgotten
Dr Rank desires to be forgotten and not see any of his loved ones whilst he is dying
perhaps he doesn’t want to cause any pain or “ugliness” that make affect anyone else
the speaker in the poem also gains control of her life by commanding loved ones to “not grieve” as she would prefer for them to be happy