What is Life Coaching? Flashcards
What is Life Coaching?
ICF definition: Partnering with clients in a thought provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.
- Collaborative relationship between coach and client, where a client is looking for self-discovering, self-awareness and deeper sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.
- Happens in an environment where the client can express freely, feel profoundly heard, manage internal blocks, clarify intentions and desires and become more self-directed.
- Coaches are trained in: Listening, Empathy, reflections, and powerful questions
- Most important element: relationship between coach and client. Client centred, the client is the expert of their own life, is creative, resourceful and capable of growth
- Coaches are trained in listening, empathy, reflection, asking powerful questions.
Responsibilities:
ICF states:
To the client’s:
-Clarifying and aligning with what the client wants to achieve
-Encouraging the client’s self-discovering
-Elicit client’s self generating solutions and strategies
-Holding the client responsible and accountable.
As a Coach:
-Ongoing training, experience and professional development
-Coach’s personal process is not part of the coach-client relationship
-Practice with integrity
Coaching vs Counselling
Coaching: Focuses on the present and how to move into desired future. touches on the past to gain understanding of the present
- focuses on the present and how to move into the desired future
- doesn’t attempt to heal traumas from the person’s past
Counselling: Delves into the client’s past in order to support healing from past traumas. A counsellor is trained in therapeutic interventions, trauma, provides support for addictions and mental health disorders.
8 ICF Core Competencies
1- Demonstrates ethical practice 2- Coaching mindset 3- Establishes and maintains agreements 4- Cultivate trusts and safety 5- maintains presence 6- listens actively 7- evokes awareness 8- facilitates client's growth
Definition of Life Skills
- initially designed to meet the learning needs of socio-economically disadvantaged people.
- problem solving behaviours used in the management of personal affairs
- can be applied to all areas of life: personal, family, career, social
- facilitates life long skills: personal management, problem solving, communication and critical thinking
Presence:
Is the here and now. Being completely in the moment with the client. presence develops trust, safety and rapport with clients
Importance of presence:
being present with a client free of distractions, filters and assumptions and listen in a new deeper way
Stages of Group Development:
Forming Storming Norming Performing Termination
Levels of listening:
Active listening:
-listen to what the client says and doesn’t say
Level 1 - Listening To - Internal Listening
-awareness/attention is on oneself
Level 2 - Listening For - Focused Listening
-all the attention/focused is on the client
Level 3 - Listening With - Global listening
-listening to the client with all the senses
5 Phases lesson plan
Stimulus: intro to problem, topic or skill Evocation: share of feeling or reactions Objective Inquiry: learn resources Skills practice: practice skills learned Evaluation: assessment of learned skills
Importance: focuses on learning generic skills that can be transferred to many situations
Rationale: explains the reason or purpose of the lesson and why is needed
6 Steps to Problem Solving
1-Recognize there's a problem 2-Identify and own the problem 3-brainstorm possible solutions 4-choose possible solutions 5-implement the decision 6-evaluation
Creates order
reduces anxiety, fear, concern
works best if approached in an organized way
involves divergent (creative) and convergent (logical) thinking
Attending Skills
verbal and non-verbal behaviours to demonstrate to the client the coach is listening to fully understand what the client is experiencing
B- Body Language-strong physical attending, client at ease
E- Eye contact-main way to feel safe
F- Following-keeping track of what the client is saying
I- I-Thou-meeting client where they are
R- Relaxation-listener is relaxed
Communication Styles
Passive - Agressive - Passive-agressive - Assertive
Most effective: Assertive
passive aggressive
develops pattern of avoiding expressing opinions, needs and wants
- fail to assert for themselves
- allow other to infringe their rights
- speaks softly, poor eye contact and over apologetic
- slumped body language
aggressive
dominates others
- uses humiliation to control others
- criticizes, blame or attacks others
- speaks loudly, is demanding and overpowering
- interrupts frequently, uses “you” statements
- overbearing or intimidating posture
