What is Life Coaching? Flashcards
What is Life Coaching?
ICF definition: Partnering with clients in a thought provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.
- Collaborative relationship between coach and client, where a client is looking for self-discovering, self-awareness and deeper sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.
- Happens in an environment where the client can express freely, feel profoundly heard, manage internal blocks, clarify intentions and desires and become more self-directed.
- Coaches are trained in: Listening, Empathy, reflections, and powerful questions
- Most important element: relationship between coach and client. Client centred, the client is the expert of their own life, is creative, resourceful and capable of growth
- Coaches are trained in listening, empathy, reflection, asking powerful questions.
Responsibilities:
ICF states:
To the client’s:
-Clarifying and aligning with what the client wants to achieve
-Encouraging the client’s self-discovering
-Elicit client’s self generating solutions and strategies
-Holding the client responsible and accountable.
As a Coach:
-Ongoing training, experience and professional development
-Coach’s personal process is not part of the coach-client relationship
-Practice with integrity
Coaching vs Counselling
Coaching: Focuses on the present and how to move into desired future. touches on the past to gain understanding of the present
- focuses on the present and how to move into the desired future
- doesn’t attempt to heal traumas from the person’s past
Counselling: Delves into the client’s past in order to support healing from past traumas. A counsellor is trained in therapeutic interventions, trauma, provides support for addictions and mental health disorders.
8 ICF Core Competencies
1- Demonstrates ethical practice 2- Coaching mindset 3- Establishes and maintains agreements 4- Cultivate trusts and safety 5- maintains presence 6- listens actively 7- evokes awareness 8- facilitates client's growth
Definition of Life Skills
- initially designed to meet the learning needs of socio-economically disadvantaged people.
- problem solving behaviours used in the management of personal affairs
- can be applied to all areas of life: personal, family, career, social
- facilitates life long skills: personal management, problem solving, communication and critical thinking
Presence:
Is the here and now. Being completely in the moment with the client. presence develops trust, safety and rapport with clients
Importance of presence:
being present with a client free of distractions, filters and assumptions and listen in a new deeper way
Stages of Group Development:
Forming Storming Norming Performing Termination
Levels of listening:
Active listening:
-listen to what the client says and doesn’t say
Level 1 - Listening To - Internal Listening
-awareness/attention is on oneself
Level 2 - Listening For - Focused Listening
-all the attention/focused is on the client
Level 3 - Listening With - Global listening
-listening to the client with all the senses
5 Phases lesson plan
Stimulus: intro to problem, topic or skill Evocation: share of feeling or reactions Objective Inquiry: learn resources Skills practice: practice skills learned Evaluation: assessment of learned skills
Importance: focuses on learning generic skills that can be transferred to many situations
Rationale: explains the reason or purpose of the lesson and why is needed
6 Steps to Problem Solving
1-Recognize there's a problem 2-Identify and own the problem 3-brainstorm possible solutions 4-choose possible solutions 5-implement the decision 6-evaluation
Creates order
reduces anxiety, fear, concern
works best if approached in an organized way
involves divergent (creative) and convergent (logical) thinking
Attending Skills
verbal and non-verbal behaviours to demonstrate to the client the coach is listening to fully understand what the client is experiencing
B- Body Language-strong physical attending, client at ease
E- Eye contact-main way to feel safe
F- Following-keeping track of what the client is saying
I- I-Thou-meeting client where they are
R- Relaxation-listener is relaxed
Communication Styles
Passive - Agressive - Passive-agressive - Assertive
Most effective: Assertive
passive aggressive
develops pattern of avoiding expressing opinions, needs and wants
- fail to assert for themselves
- allow other to infringe their rights
- speaks softly, poor eye contact and over apologetic
- slumped body language
aggressive
dominates others
- uses humiliation to control others
- criticizes, blame or attacks others
- speaks loudly, is demanding and overpowering
- interrupts frequently, uses “you” statements
- overbearing or intimidating posture
passive-aggressive
appears passive on the outside but really acts out of anger. Usually feels powerless, stuck and resentful
- have difficulty acknowledging own anger
- uses sarcasm
- uses subtle sabotages to get even
assertive
clearly voices opinions, needs, feeling and wants
- good eye contact
- uses “I” statements
- listens well and doesn’t interrupt
- feels in control of self
Powerful questions, importance. Most effective?
invite inquiry and compassionate curiosity
most effective: WHAT and HOW
WHEEL OF LIFE
-measures levels of satisfaction of the actual moment 8 areas: family and friends significant other/relationship career finances health home environment fun/leisure personal growth
SMARTER GOALS
specific measurable action plan realistic timely emotional motivation relevance
6 Change Process
1 - Pre-Contemplation 2- contemplation-client is considering making a change, but doesn't know what or how to change, feeling undecided. 3-Preparation 4-Action 5-Maintenance 6-Termination
Emotions and Feelings
-emotions and feelings show up because these are encouraged, the client is challenged to visit hard places and go deeper into the experience so they can learn more about themselves. It is important to explore these with the client to gain depth.
Emotions: Responses that happen in the brain. Instictive-Produce physical reactions
Feelings:Conscious experiences of our emotions
6 Emotions:
anger - fear - disgust - joy - sadness - surprise
Empathy
ability to understand and connect with the emotional experience of another person and have a compassionate and appropriate response.
-builds trust and safety, encourages honest communication and emotional processing
Empathic Responses:
includes tone of voice, body language, ability to match the emotional intensity of the client’s when they share
Important to validate and normalize clients’ feelings and emotions that emerge
-empathy happens when the emotions are processed and the client can move forward
Metaphor
a figure of speech where a comparison is made between two things that have some important in common.
Foster connections, build relationships, capture things more vividly. Provide a unique insight of client’s perception
-Powerful coaching tool that bypasses the critical mind, allows the client to access creativity and clarity
- helps client identify the situation in a way that is more relatable
- helps the client identify a situation and understand it from a different point
- helps explain something more precisely in how the client is feeling
