Week1 Flashcards
what are the key concepts of week 1?
1-Practice praising your child by being enthusiastic and specific about the behavior warranting special attention and add a gentle touch
2-Use various antecedents before a behavior to increase likelihood of compliance
3-Use shaping technique to reward small chunks of desired behavior
4- Employ simulation technique to encourage your child to practice desired behaviors in a pretend or game-like scenario
5-Use modeling technique to show the desired behaviors you would like to see in your child by acting it out yourself or pointing it out in everyday life
what is the use of the special behavior ?
- Develop a new behavior [wearing cloths, cleaning toys]
- Get rid of unwanted behavior,
what are the key ingredients for the ‘ special praise ‘ ?
- Select a behavior
- Praise effusively
- State the specific behavior
- Add a gentle touch
Ex” Good Job Mir! you cleaned the room just as i ask ! touch or a hug.
How to exactly use the ‘ Special Praise ‘ ?
1- Should praise right after the selected behavior.
2-Break the behavior into small increments
what are the things we need to avoid when use the special praise techneaque ?
1- Vacuous Praise
2- Praising the person. instead praise the behavior. “ Mira u r a good girl because u did this “
3- We love you when you do this. we love her regradless.
4- U make mama and daddy happy when you do this.
5- Caboose . which is saying negative things after the praise . Like “ why don’t u always be like this “
Does your child exhibit the following behaviors?
Not complying with parental requests Having a bad attitude Speaking offensively or harshly Breaking things Having catastrophic tantrums Showing disrespect Being careless in playing with siblings Stealing Arguing Lying Hitting peers, parents, teachers, or principals Confronting others Bullying Fussy eating Playing disruptively with peers Not sharing Not engaging in self-care (bathing, brushing teeth, getting dressed) Not going to bed on time Breaking curfew Not letting parents know where you are Not taking medicine Not socializing with other children
Extra Books to read if needed
Kazdin, A.E. & Rotella, C. (2008). The Kazdin Method for parenting the defiant child: With no pills, no therapy, no contest of wills. Boston: Houghton Mifflin. (Also available in Spanish!)
Kazdin, A.E., & Rotella, C. (2013). The everyday parenting toolkit: The Kazdin Method for easy, step-by-step lasting change for you and your child. Boston: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
What is Antecedents ?
- What we can do before a behaviour take place to make the desired behaviour more likely to occur.
- The various things we can say or to increase the likelihood of a desired behaviour to happen
What is the ABC stand for ?
Antecedents: various
things you can say and do that increase the likelihood
the behavior will occur
Behavior: The selected behavior.
Consequences: what we do after the behavior is completed
what are the types of Antecedents ?
1-Prompt
2-Positive Setting
3-Negatice setting
what is prompt antecedent ?
Normal way of asking something from your child.
ex: Please clean your room.
what is Positive Setting antecedent ?
Positive way of asking the child that increases the odds of having the child comply with the request.
or How a request is asked to increase the odds of having the child comply
what is Negative Setting antecedent ?
Negative way of asking the child that decreases the odds of having the child comply with the request.
or How a request is asked to decrease the odds of having the child comply
what are the things you want to avoid to increase the odds of selected behavior to occur ?
1- Add pressure when asking. 2- Aggressive way of asking. 3- The tone, body language and facial expression [frowned, loud voice]. 4- Threats 5- Vague request. 6- not giving choices.
Give bad phrases to ask your child
1- “ I told you million time “
2- “ Do as I told you “
3- “ You know how to do it , just do it “
What are the ley ingredients to a positive antecedent ?
1- Gentle Tone of voice with matching body language and facial expression.
2- Offer Choices.
3- Say Please before you ask.
4- Be clear and specific in your requests.
5- offer your help if needed.
6-Offer a playful challenge.
Give an example of “ Pilayful challenge “
with a mischief smile “ I bet you can’t do that ! No child ur age can do that until they are grown ups ! “
Give examples for clear request and vague request .
” Please pick up all the toys and place them in the blue basket”
Vague “ Go clean your room”
Child show reduced interest in activities around the house, what is the solution ?
established some family rituals and routines that the child enjoys.
how can you control the time ur child on tv or iPad ?
gently but firm time to use them
What do you do when you try everything and it does not work ?
1- Drop all effort and ignore. ex: child doesn’t go to the washroom “ It is ok you will be able to do it when you are a little bit older “. this free the pressure off the child.
2- Say it as a request and with gentle voice so the child doesn’t fee that he/she is confined by this request and has a freedom of choice or give options . when the child feels free he/she might do it.
What is shaping?
Rewarding small steps that resembles the complete behavior that you want .
How do you perform shaping ?
1- Select the behavior . Ex pick up all the dishes.
2- Select small portion. Ex pick up her own plate.
3- Select the consequences.
4- Consequences for the behavior . Ex praise, points, previlige .
5. Increase another portion of the selected behavior. Pick up her dishes and Mami’s dishes.
True or false. Knowing is the same as doing. True/false ?
After knowing something it has to be practiced to become a habit.
Things to avoid when doing “Shaping”
1- Setting the Bar too high.
2- Not helping your child.
How to get a child to practice a behavior using “ Simulation “ technique ?
1- Select the desired behavior.
2-explain to the child the simulation. pretend game of how to act wanted the behavior.
3- Play the game.
4- Praise the god behavior as part of the game.
5- Use a playful challenge to encourage more practice.
After practicing the simulation , you can get the child to do in real scenario . give an example?
you can say to the child “ Lets play ‘ Get ready for school game’,
How to make something as habit?
1- Repeated practice of something
2- Practice change the brain.
How often should you run simulation games?
Once or twice a day for a week or so.
How to perform “Modeling” ?
1- Select a behavior. Ex being kind.
2- List concrete example of that behavior.
3- Model these characteristics. Or point them out when seen on TV or street.
4-praise when you see your child that characteristic
How can I be an askable parent ?
I should model and talk with them about little stories about me or things happened to me . Tell them how you felt in that story .talk about mondane things …
How can I model to have my child talk to me about anything?
I should model and talk with them about little stories about me or things happened to me
How to lock a characteristic after a child follows a model ?
Special Praise to lock the characteristic
Modelling is influenced by how much often you show the behaviour,,, true or false ?
True
Some modelling affect show later on a later child’s age… true or false ?
True
How to nourish child imagination ?
1- Scatter novel toys that the kid can assemble [ you have to play with and respond to your child.
2- Play with your kid imaginative games “ you are dinosaur coming from far planet ‘ for ex.
3- Try to revoke their imaginative thinking.
4- Avoid words like ‘ this not right ‘ or ‘ it is not correct’. the process should be fun.
5- Encourage question, no matter how weird they are.
What are the risks of having a very imaginative kid?
Struggle with deadlines and organization . this means we should encourage creativity and meeting deadlines and organization is important too.
we consistently overestimate the child
1-selfcontrol,
2-ability to persevere and stay on task,
3-consistency of performance,
4-social ability.
we have to lower our expectations .True or false?
True
We tend to parent subjectively, setting the
behavior bar with a toosmall sample group drawn from personal experience: our own first child, a neighbor’s child, or our own unreliable childhood memories of how our parents raised us … true or false ?
True
we shouldn’t enforce unreasonable expectation on our child.
true
Modeling: Children pickup from their parents, Peers, relatives or TV . True or false
True
You don;t need to explain what you do to ur child for him to learn [ Beating, shouting, smoking, how to treat each other, the way we interact with friends and strangers and what we
say about them when they’re not around, how irritable we are on a bad day, how we
handle errors by others, how we treat animals, whether we use a Kleenex or our sleeve ]. True or false
True
How do you know what your child know about you?
Ask the child “ how does Daddy do when you don’t listen ?” and observe what the child.
Modeling can teach a child how to handle conflict, react to stress or fear, or interact with
others… true or false ?
True
Talk to your child to fix a behavior
when everything is calm [ you don’t want to teach drowning person swimming while drowning]
To achieve good modeling
1- Write concrete list of skills you want to model
2- Make available any material regarding the skill
3- Directly talk about the behavior when the situation diffused.
4- Be consisten with what you say . Don’t hit ur child while asking him not to hit his peers . Don’t shout to ur child to be quite instead walk to them and speak in low vulume .
5- Foster a good relationship with ur child . dinner conversation, play with them .
What is the frist thing to do when you start a behavior change program
Identify the behavior you want to get rid of
what is The best way to develop compliance ?
1- Special Praise
2- Develop compliance
Well behaved children comply 80 % of the time
True
If a child is inconsistent in complying use
Shaping [ Break down to steps ]
Antecedents [ Please, Smile when you talk , Special Mira challenge]
special Praise
It is a good thing to tell your relatives about good thing ur child did.
True
What should i do when my child doesn’t comply ?
Ignore Caleb and walk away to not give attention that reinforces negative behavior.
In this scenario be calm and be non-punitive in your tone rather than show you are mad.
Or no Ipad tonight, no desert , cookie or we are not going on adventure.
