Week 3 Flashcards
What is the most important aspect of parenting according to the speaker?
What you do after what you have done
What did the speaker realize was the most important part of his interaction with his daughter after yelling at her?
Admitting he made a mistake and reconnecting with her
What lesson did the speaker’s daughter learn when he admitted his mistake?
It’s okay to admit you made a mistake
What is the Oreo Cookie Theory?
Giving choices commensurate with the child’s ability to respond responsibly
What does the rule of thumb state regarding giving choices?
Give big choices to big kids and little choices to little kids
What choice did the speaker give his three-year-old daughter regarding Oreo cookies?
Keep one cookie or put all back
How did the speaker reinforce the policy about fighting in the car?
By clearly stating the consequences of their actions
What happens when children are given choices according to the speaker’s experiences?
They learn self-control and responsibility
True or False: The speaker believes that parents should always control their children’s behavior.
False
What significant lesson can children learn from their parents’ mistakes?
The importance of admitting mistakes and rebuilding relationships
What did the speaker use to get his children’s attention during discussions?
Big words or significant phrases
What lesson does the speaker want to impart regarding choices and responsibility?
At the very moment you make a decision, you are committed to it
This emphasizes the importance of understanding the consequences of one’s choices.
True or False: The speaker believes that consequences should be framed as threats to teach responsibility.
False
The speaker advocates for teaching responsibility through natural consequences rather than threats.
What is the relationship between choice giving and self-responsibility as discussed in the text?
Choice giving promotes self-responsibility by allowing children to experience the consequences of their decisions
This approach helps children learn accountability from a young age.
Fill in the blank: If a child chooses to eat, they choose to get to have _______.
dessert
This illustrates the direct relationship between choices and rewards in the context of meal times.
What should parents do if a child throws a tantrum after being given a choice?
Leave the room
This reduces the audience for the tantrum and helps the child learn to manage their emotions.
What is one rule of thumb regarding giving choices to children?
Don’t overdose on choices
Giving too many choices can overwhelm a child, like taking too much medication.
At what age does the speaker suggest is appropriate to begin giving choices to children?
Around two years old
This is when children begin to understand and process choices effectively.
What is the significance of allowing children to calm themselves to sleep?
It helps them learn self-soothing skills for later in life
This promotes independence and emotional regulation.
What does the speaker suggest about the impact of allowing children to make choices early on?
It prepares them for making life’s most important choices later
Early practice in decision-making fosters a sense of responsibility.
What is a significant challenge in counseling children compared to adults?
Consideration of the relationship with the parent and the child’s dependency on adults
Children often rely on parents to facilitate arrangements for therapy.
What factors impact a parent’s level of involvement in their child’s therapy?
- High divorce rates
- Increasing numbers of single parents
- Changing parental roles
- Cultural issues
- Increasing levels of stress in families
- Greater personal isolation
What is the role of interviews with parents and teachers in child therapy?
To provide useful information about the child’s life outside the playroom and cues for understanding the child’s play
This information can enhance the therapist’s sensitivity and empathy.
What is the risk of the therapist using outside information about a child?
It can color or structure the therapist’s perception, leading to interpretative biases
Example: A therapist may misinterpret a child’s play based on knowledge of family events.
What is the focus of a child-centered play therapist?
The child and the relationship in the playroom, without preconceived notions from outside information.
How should therapists handle sessions with parents?
Ideally, another therapist should counsel the parents separately to maintain objectivity.
When splitting therapy time between parents and children, who should be seen first?
The parent(s) should be seen first to reduce the child’s feelings of being ‘told on.’
What is Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT)?
A 10-session filial therapy model where child-centered play therapists train parents to use therapeutic skills with their children.
What skills do parents learn in CPRT?
- Responding empathically to feelings
- Building self-esteem
- Helping with self-control and self-responsibility
- Setting therapeutic limits
True or False: Play therapy can be effective without parental involvement.
True
What is the impact of a child changing in therapy on their parents?
Parents unconsciously perceive the change and respond differently, encouraging further change in the child.
What is the significance of the therapist’s initial meeting with parents?
To build trust and understand parents’ needs and concerns without overwhelming them with information.
What should the therapist explain during the initial parent consultation?
- What play therapy is
- Why it is used with children
- How it works
- What to expect during the process
What is the purpose of familiarizing parents with the playroom?
To help parents relax and understand the environment their child will be in.
Fill in the blank: The primary task of the therapist during the initial parent meeting is to build a _______.
[relationship with the parents]
What is the primary purpose of preparing parents for their child’s first visit to the playroom?
To help parents understand how to respond to their child’s reluctance and facilitate a smoother transition to play therapy
Preparation can ease anxiety and promote independence for the child.
What should parents be informed about regarding their child’s confidentiality during play therapy?
Children should experience confidentiality of specific actions and words in the playroom
Parents are not allowed to observe sessions to ensure children feel free to express themselves.
True or False: Parents are allowed to ask their child specific questions about what happened in the playroom after a session.
False
It is recommended that parents refrain from quizzing their child to respect the private nature of the play therapy.
What are some key skills taught to parents in Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT)?
- Reflection of content and feelings
- Choice giving
- Building self-esteem
- Returning responsibility
- Limit setting
These skills aim to help parents respond positively to their child’s behavior.
Fill in the blank: In play therapy, toys are like the child’s _______.
[words]
Play therapy allows children to express feelings and thoughts through play.
What is the significance of regular meetings with parents in play therapy?
They keep parents involved, provide feedback on progress, and strengthen the therapeutic relationship
Frequency is determined by the unique needs of the child and parents.
What should therapists do if a child is reluctant to go to the playroom?
Be patient, reflect the child’s feelings, and allow time for the child to decide to go
Parents should not intervene during this process.
Why is it important for parents to avoid making negative comments about the therapist or therapy?
Negative comments can undermine the child’s feelings and trust in the therapeutic process
Parents should maintain a positive attitude to support the child.
What should parents tell their child about attending play therapy?
They can say the child will be visiting a special playroom with toys to play with
The explanation should be simple and reassuring.
What emotional factors may influence a parent’s decision to seek therapy for their child?
- Guilt
- Frustration
- Inadequacy
- Anger
These emotions can affect the parent’s willingness to ask for help.
What common behaviors might parents hear during their child’s play therapy sessions?
- Yelling
- Throwing things
- Crying
Such behaviors are normal as children express themselves in the playroom.
True or False: It is advised for parents to consult their pediatrician if they have concerns about their child’s physical functioning.
True
This is appropriate when discussing issues like bedwetting or enuresis.
What is a critical aspect of the therapist’s approach during the initial parent interview?
Being sensitive to the parent’s emotional state and struggles
This helps in building a trusting relationship.
What can be an effective way for parents to support their child during the transition to play therapy?
By preparing them for what to expect and how to respond positively
This preparation can help ease the child’s anxiety about the new environment.
Fill in the blank: In play therapy, children learn to express their thoughts and feelings in ______ ways.
[constructive]
The goal is to help children manage their emotions and behaviors effectively.
What is a suggested activity to help a child settle at bedtime?
Reading a short story to the child just before tucking her into bed.
What does the parent say about the child’s need for attention?
He needs one-on-one attention.
What is one ethical consideration that play therapists must keep in mind when working with children?
Obtaining informed consent from parents or guardians.
According to Sweeney (2001), who is considered the client in the context of therapy for children?
The legal guardian, usually the parent.
What is a common challenge in counseling children mentioned in the text?
The ambiguity of legal and ethical aspects due to minors’ legal incompetence.
Who is considered the holder of the legal rights regarding consent and confidentiality for minors?
The legal guardian, most often the parent
This can create ambiguity in counseling children.
What is a significant issue regarding the rights of minors in play therapy?
Minors have fewer rights than adults due to their supposed limited experiences and cognitive abilities
This can lead to confusion about the roles of parents and children.
What must be secured from parents before beginning play therapy?
Appropriate informed consent
This is a complex issue for play therapists.
What is the principle of informed consent?
The consent must be given in a voluntary, knowledgeable, and competent state
Children are not considered to have this capability.
Who generally makes the decision for a child to enter play therapy?
The parent or legal guardian
This is due to children’s legal incapacity to consent.
What should a therapist verify before scheduling play therapy?
That the parent is the legal guardian
This includes obtaining copies of current court orders if necessary.
What is required before discussing a child’s case with school personnel or other agencies?
Parental permission
This is crucial to maintain confidentiality.
True or False: A therapist can discuss a child’s case with teachers without parental permission.
False
This rule generally applies, except in some elementary school contexts.
What should a therapist do if psychiatric evaluation and residential care is necessary?
Visit facilities and ask important questions about staff training and experience
This is to ensure appropriate care for young children.
What is the recommended age range for forming play therapy groups?
The age of members should not span more than two years
This is to ensure developmental appropriateness.
What is a concern regarding staff in psychiatric facilities for children?
Whether staff members seem to care about and understand children
Warmth and understanding are critical in therapy settings.
What should therapists check for in psychiatric facilities regarding play therapy?
Presence of a play therapy room
This is important for the therapeutic environment.
Fill in the blank: Obtaining a _______ may not result in the most current information regarding custody.
divorce decree
What is a general rule for placing children ages 5 to 6 in therapy?
They should be placed in individual or group play therapy
This is important for developmental compatibility.
Why is limit setting considered vital in play therapy?
Limit setting provides structure for the therapeutic relationship and helps foster emotional and social growth, preventing chaos in the therapeutic environment.
Total Limits
Total limits are explicit, unconditional boundaries set by therapists that clarify what behaviors are absolutely unacceptable, thereby reducing confusion for the child.
What is a common misconception about permissiveness in child-centered play therapy?
Permissiveness does not mean accepting all behaviors; it involves setting limits that help children learn self-control and responsibility.
ACT Model
The ACT model in therapeutic limit setting stands for Acknowledge feelings, Communicate limits, and Target acceptable alternatives to guide children in expressing themselves appropriately.
How should limits be communicated to children during play therapy?
Limits should be stated specifically, clearly, and in a calm, patient manner to convey certainty and reduce any anxiety from the therapist.
What is the primary focus of limit setting in therapy?
The primary focus is to emphasize the child’s feelings and desires while providing a structure for behavior, ensuring clarity and safety in the therapeutic relationship.
