Unleash Your Power Flashcards
What are the 3 steps to creating lasting change?
BELIEVE YOU WILL FIND A WAY
1) Raise your standards
- Things you accept, and don’t
2) Change your limiting beliefs
3) Change your strategy
- Science experiment, fine tune
FULLY COMMIT TO A DECISION
What does it take to make a decision?
BE FULLY COMMITTED TO YOUR DECISION!!!
- Committed to the result of the decision
- Decisions shape our destiny!
- Being truly commided to your decision is the hardest part
- HAVE LONG TERM FOCUS
What five filters do we make our decisions through?
1) Core beliefs
2) References
3) Habitual Questions
4) Life Values
5) Unconscious rules L
Every thing we do is to?
- Avoid pain & seek pleasure
- Control what you link to pleasure and pain and you control everything
- Nothing in life has meaning until we give it
- Replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones
What should you do with disempowering beliefs?
Replace them with empowering ones
What are the 6 steps of Neuro Associative Conditioning?
- How to change anything in your life
1) Decide what you really want and what you don’t want
- have something to move toward
2) Get leverage: associate massive pain to not changing now and massive pleasure to changing
- knowing that you didn’t live up to your own standards should be enough pain
- preserving our own integrity & identity is one of our strongest beliefs
DID YOU LIVE UP TO YOUR OWN STANDARDS?
3) Interrupt limiting patterns
- turn image of boss into a cartoon
4) Creat new empowering alternative
- or model people who have turned things around
5) Condition the new pattern until it is consistent
- Timing is important i.e. gift or celebration of a win do right after
6) Test it
- Think of the situation that worried you
What is the most powerful way to motivate people?
through personal development
What do you have to do to engrain a new pattern?
CONDITION CONDITION CONDITION
What is one of the most enjoyable experiences someone can have?
Pleasant surprises
What are two things you should learn to do regularly to enjoy life?
1) Learn to laugh
2) Plan for pleasure
What is success the result of?
The result of good judgement.
Good judgement is the result of experience.
Experience is the result of bad judgement!
What is the ultimate success formula
1) You clearly decide what you want
2) You are willing to take massive action
3) You notice what is working and what is not
4) You continue to change your approach until you achieve what you want, using whatever life gives you along the way.
What determines your destiny?
Your decisions.
Also what you link pleasure and pain to.
What is the force that shapes your life?
Pleasure and pain.
Everything you and I do is to either avoid plain or our desire to gain pleasure.
What is the success?
Learning how to use pleasure & pain instead of having them use you.
Ex. Mother Teresa - sees other peoples pain and she feels pain
What drives our behaviour?
Our instinctive reaction to pain and pleasure.
Does actual pain drive us?
No what drives us is the belief that something will lead to pain.
What does the only true security in life come from?
Every single day you are improving your self in some way.
Don’t worry about maintaining the quality of your life if every single day you are working on improving it.
What is the greatest leverage you can create for yourself?
Knowing that we didn’t live up to our own standards is the ultimate pain.
What is one of the strongest forces in the human personality?
The drive to maintain personal integrity.
What is the most important thing to remember about conditioning?
To reinforce the desired behavior immediately.
Conditioning is critical. This is how we produce consistent results.
What should you do if you really want to improve the quality of your life?
Learn to laugh.
What should you focus on?
Where you want to go, not on what you fear.
What state do you have to be in to succeed?
A determined state!
What’s the first skill you must master? (1-3)
The ability to change your state instantly no matter what the environment or, no matter how scared or frustrated you are.
Condition yourself so you feel good no matter where you are.
2) The ability to change your state in any environment consistently
What is all you really want in life?
To change the way you feel.
- Develop a plan for pleasure everyday
What is the main difference between the people who succeed in life and those who don’t?
The quality of questions they ask.
The better questions you ask the better answers you get.
If you focus on things that overwhelmed you than that’s what you will be.
Questions immediately change what we are _____ on and therefore change how we _____.
Focusing, Feel
In everything you can focus on what is disempowering or what is empowering and you will find whatever you look for.
______ type of language can transform us instantly.
Metaphors.
What are the four different ways people deal with emotion?
1) Avoidance
- We avoid situations that produce negative emotions
2) Denial
- Dissociation with feelings. “It doesn’t feel that bad”
3) Competition
- You think you have got it bad…
4) Learning and using
- If you want to make your life work you must make emotions work for you
What are the 6 steps to emotional mastery?
1) Identify what you are feeling
2) Acknowledge and Appreciate Your Emotions, Knowing They Suppport you
3) Get curious about the message this emotion is offering you.
4) Get confident
5) Get certain you can handle this not only today but in the near future as well
6) Get excited, and take action
How do you manage fear and what is it?
Fear is usually the anticipation that something is going to happen.
Be prepared for it.
Hurt
Usually generated by a sense of loss.
Maybe you didn’t lose anything?
Maybe you are judging too soon.