unit 3: dating and love Flashcards
explain the experiment discussed in Catron (2015)
two strangers walk into the lab and are forced to answer Dr Aron’s 36 questions, then forced to stare into each other’s eyes for 4 min
they ended up getting married 6 months later
according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), what assumptions do most other researchers make when discussing hookup culture in college?
men are the minority on campuses, meaning that they have power in the sexual marketplace and that they are the ones actively looking for hookups
according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), is hookup culture causing dating to go extinct?
no. while hookups are more widespread than before, they have not replaced traditional dating, with both men and women still desiring to seek out romantic relationships
true or false: according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), women are more likely than men to regret their hookups afterward
false, it’s roughly the same between men and women
according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), approx how many recent marriages have began in a hook-up context?
one third
according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), who’s more likely to hook up: women with a college degree, or women of lower education?
women with a college degree
true or false: according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), binge drinking before hookups results in less enjoyment for both parties
true, despite the fact that it’s so common. this is in part because intoxication leads to more unprotected sex
according to Kuperburg and Padgett (2016), which three groups stand out as having lower rates of unprotected sex compared to other students?
- men hooking up with men
- women who were part of sororities
- students who met hookup partners in dorms
what does Cancian (1986) define as the feminized perspective of love that predominates in the US? what does Cancian’s paper propose instead?
feminized perspective states that women are much more capable of love than men, and for relationships to be more loving, men should be more like women. this paper proposes that love is both instrumental and expressive
what does Cancian (1986) highlight as the two enduring definitions of heterosexual love? what is cancian’s proposed definition?
- combine care and assistance with physical and emotional closeness (broad, affective and instrumental qualities)
- from pre-capitalist america, included work and feelings, split between masculine and feminine fragments by the separation of home and workplace (narrow, affective qualities only)
cancian: small numbers of people are affectionate and emotionally committed to each other, collective well-being as major goal, and feel obliged to provide care and practical assistance for one another, physical aspect too
based on a 1980 survey discussed in Cancian (1986), what do most people say makes a good love relationship?
good communication
according to Cancian (1986) how do men’s and women’s attitudes toward sex and love differ?
men separate sex and love, while women do not
what is the problem with what Cancian (1986) calls the feminized perspective on love?
emphasizes men’s power over women, which can lead to moral and political problems that could be mitigated with an androgynous approach
why is dating hard for millennials? (the atlantic video)
- barely any in-person interactions means less flirting with strangers in public
- reliance on dating apps
- stranger danger
according to the Atlantic video on Why Dating is Hard for Millennials, how have dating apps affected relationship diversity?
without the social barriers of in-person interactions, people are more likely to come across and date people of different racial or ethnic backgrounds
what is the Flo Rida theory (see podcast on online dating and romance), and how does it relate to a central problem with online dating?
people are like a flo rida song: not impressive upon first listen, but gets more interesting the more you hear it. online dating rewards hotness because people’s initial judgement is based solely off physical attraction. in reality, many couples did not find their partner attractive when they first met but now love them deeply
what is the primary consequence regarding depersonalization of dating apps?
it’s easier for people to be rude through a screen, causing women to get lots of disgusting messages over dms
according to Lamont (2018), what are the primary norms regarding heterosexual courtship rituals?
- men initiate, women react
- assumption that men and women have fundamentally different needs in the relationship