Theories of Romantic Relationships: Duck's Phase Model

Question 1

Overview of Duck’s theory

Answer 1

Ending of relationship is a process that takes time and goes through four distinct phases. Each phase is marked by one partner reaching a threshold.

Question 2

First stage of breakdown

Answer 2

Intra-psychic phase:
One of the partners becomes more and more dissatisfied with the relationship. They do not tell their partner yet.

If the dissatisfaction is great enough there is
progression to the next phase.

Threshold: I can’t stand this anymore

Question 3

Stage 2 of breakdown

Answer 3

Dyadic stage- Comes to a point where they cannot avoid talking about their relationships any longer. There are serious confrontations over a period of time. There are complains about lack of equity. There are two possible outcomes:
-Determination to continue breaking up the relationship
-Renewed desire to repair it. If the rescue attempt fails, another threshold is reached

Threshold- I would be justified in withdrawing

Question 4

3rd Stage of breakdown

Answer 4

Social phase:
This is where the break-up is ‘aired’ and made public, e.g. to family and friends.
It is also where the social implications (such as care
of children) are negotiated.
If the relationship is not saved here (perhaps by
the intervention of family) it goes to the final stage

Threshold: I mean it

Question 5

4th phase of breakdown

Answer 5

Grave-dressing phase:
-Here the ex-partners begin the organisation of their
post-relationship lives.
-They begin publicising their own accounts of the
breakdown and what (if any) is the nature of the new
relationship with the ex-partner.
-Partners who develop their own versions of where the blame for breakdown actually lies, frequently employ self-serving attributional bias

Threshold 5: It’s now inevitable

Question 6

5th stage of breakdown (later version)

Answer 6

Resurrection phase:
Each partner prepares themselves for new relationships by defining themselves and building on past mistakes and experiences