The Counselor: Person and Professional Flashcards
One of the most important instruments you have to work with as a counselor is —– as a person.
yourself
List of being an effective therapist is included here.
The Counselor as a therapeutic person (Personal Characteristics of Effective Counselors)
Effective therapists know who they are, what they are capable of becoming, what they want out of life, and what is essential.
Effective therapists have an identity.
They can give and receive help and love out of their own sense of self-worth and strength.
Effective therapists respect and appreciate themselves.
exhibit a willingness and courage to leave the security of the known if they are not satisfied with the way they are. They make decisions about how they would like to change, and they work toward becoming the person they want to become.
Effective therapists are open to change.
Aware of early decisions they made about themselves, others, and the world.
Effective therapists make choices that are life-oriented
Does not hide behind rigid roles or facades, who they are in their personal life and in their professional work is congruent.
Effective therapists are authentic, sincere and honest.
able to put the events of life in perspective. They have not forgotten how to laugh, especially at their own weakness and contradictions.
Effective therapists have a sense of humor
they do not dismiss their errors lightly, yet they do not choose to dwell on misery.
Effective therapists makes mistakes and are willing to admit them.
not riveted to the past, nor are they fixated on the future. They are able to experience and be present with others in the “now.”
Effective therapists generally, live in the present.
aware of the ways in which their own culture affects them, and they respect the diversity of values espoused by other culture. Sensitive to the unique differences arising out of social class, race, sexual orientation, and gender.
Effective therapists appreciate the influence of culture.
based on respect, care, trust, and a real valuing of other
Effective therapists have a sincere interest in the welfare of others
capable of entering the world of others without getting lost in this world, ad they strive to create collaborative relationships with others. They readily entertain another person’s perspective and can work together toward consensual goals.
Effective therapists possess effective interpersonal skills.
can accept the rewards flowing from their work, yet they are not slaves to their work.
Effective therapists become deeply involved in their work and derive meaning from it.
They have the courage to pursue their dreams and passions, and they radiate a sense of energy.
Effective therapists are passionate.
Are able to maintain healthy boundaries.
Effective therapists are able to maintain healthy boundaries
As part of the therapist’s training, personal therapy offers a model of therapeutic practice in which the trainee experiences the work of a more experienced therapist and learns experientially what is helpful or not helpful.
Personal Therapy for the Counselor
THE COUNSELOR’S VALUES AND THE THERAPEUTIC PROCESS:
THE ROLE OF VALUES COUNSELING
THE ROLE OF VALUES IN DEVELOPING THERAPEUTIC GOALS
As counselors we need to guard against the tendency to use our power to influence the client to accept our values because it is not our function to persuade clients to accept or adopt our value system.
THE ROLE OF VALUES COUNSELING
refers to counselors directly attempting to defi ne a client’s values, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors. It is possible for counselors to impose their values either actively or passively
VALUE IMPOSITION
The general goals of counselors must be congruent with the personal goals of the client.
THE ROLE OF VALUES IN DEVELOPING THERAPEUTIC GOALS
How many are issues faced by beginning therapists?
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A certain level of anxiety demonstrates that you are aware of the uncertainties of the future with your clients and of your abilities to really be there for them. Self-doubts are normal; it is how we deal with them that matters.
- Dealing with your anxieties
In determining the appropriateness of self-disclosure, consider what to reveal, when to reveal, and how much to reveal. The most productive form of self-disclosure is related to what is going on between the counselor and the client within the counseling session.
- Being yourself and self-disclosure