The Art Of Seduction

Question 1

what are the two elements of seduction?

Answer 1

first understand yourself and what is seductive about you, second your target and the actions that will penetrate their defenses and make them surrender

Question 2

what should u do while using this book?

Answer 2

train in your most seductive trait then try to accompany it with another one or two and beware of the anti-seductive

Question 3

the charmer

Answer 3

Charm is seduction without sex. Charmers are consummate manipulators,
masking their cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure and comfort. Their
method is simple: they deflect attention from themselves and focus it on their
target. They understand your spirit, feel your pain, adapt to your moods.
In the presence of a Charmer you feel better about yourself. Charmers
do not argue or fight, complain, or pester—what could be more seductive? By drawing you in with their indulgence they make
you dependent on them, and their power grows. Learn to
cast the Charmer’s spell by aiming at people’s
primary weaknesses: vanity and
self-esteem.

Question 4

what is the thing that charm can’t exist without?

Answer 4

sexual tension

Question 5

what is the secret to capturing people’s attention?

Answer 5

strike at the things they have the least control over: their ego, their vanity, and their selfesteem

Question 6

what is the most important thing about charm?

Answer 6

it should never be too obvious it must be subtle

Question 7

what are the 6 laws of charm?

Answer 7

1 - Make your target the center of attention
2 - Be a source of pleasure
3 - Bring antagonism into harmony
4 - Lull your victims into ease and comfort
5 - Show calm and self-possession in the face of adversity
6 - Make yourself useful

Question 8

how to make your target the center of attention?

Answer 8

u must listen and observe Let your targets talk, revealing themselves in the process. As you find out more about them—their strengths, and more important their weaknesses—you can individualize your attention, appealing to their specific desires and needs, tailoring your flatteries to their insecurities. By adapting to their spirit and empathizing with their woes, you can make them feel bigger and better, validating their sense of self-worth

Question 9

how to be a source of pleasure?

Answer 9

1 - distract them from their problems by giving them pleasure
2 - Being lighthearted and fun is always more charming than being serious and critical. An energetic presence is likewise more charming than lethargy

Question 10

how to Bring antagonism into harmony?

Answer 10

in the face of those who are aggressive, retreat, let them have their little victories. Yielding and indulgence will charm the fight out of any potential enemies. Never criticize people overtly—that will make them insecure, and resistant to change. Plant ideas, insinuate suggestions. Charmed by your diplomatic skills, people will not notice your growing power

Question 11

how to Lull your victims into ease and comfort?

Answer 11

The key to making your victims feel comfortable is to mirror them, adapt to their moods. People are narcissists— they are drawn to those most similar to themselves. Seem to share their values and tastes, to understand their spirit

Question 12

how to Show calm and self-possession in the face of adversity?

Answer 12

Never show anger, ill temper, or vengefulness, all disruptive emotions that will make people defensive.

Question 13

how to Make yourself useful?

Answer 13

creating a wide network of allies will give you the power to link people up with each other, which will make them feel that by knowing you they can make their lives easier. This is something no one can resist. Follow-through is key

Question 14

what is the first example of charming?

Answer 14

disraeli the prime minister and the crude queen where he complemented her and made her feel like a woman,
Our personalities are often molded by how we are treated: if a parent or spouse is defensive or argumentative in dealing with us, we tend to respond the same way. Never mistake people’s exterior characteristics for reality, for the character they show on the surface may be merely a reflection of the people with whom they have been most in contact, or a front disguising its own opposite. A gruff exterior may hide a person dying for warmth; a repressed, sober-looking type may actually be struggling to conceal uncontrollable emotions. That is the key to charm—feeding what has been repressed or denied.

Question 15

what is the second example?

Answer 15

pamela and hirrisman ,The world is full of self-absorbed people. In their presence, we know that everything in our relationship with them is directed toward themselves— their insecurities, their neediness, their hunger for attention. That reinforces our own egocentric tendencies; we protectively close ourselves up. It is a syndrome that only makes us the more helpless with Charmers. First, they don’t talk much about themselves, which heightens their mystery and disguises their limitations. Second, they seem to be interested in us, and their interest is so delightfully focused that we relax and open up to them. Finally, Charmers are pleasant to be around. They have none of most people’s ugly qualities—nagging, complaining, self-assertion. They seem to know what pleases. Theirs is a diffused warmth; union without sex

Question 16

what is the third example?

Answer 16

zhou and chiang in china , Time is the greatest weapon you have. Patiently keep in mind a longterm goal and neither person nor army can resist you. And charm is the best way of playing for time, of widening your options in any situation. Through charm you can seduce your enemy into backing off, giving you the psychological space to plot an effective counterstrategy. The key is to make other people emotional while you remain detached. They may feel grateful, happy, moved, arrogant—it doesn’t matter, as long as they feel. An emotional person is a distracted person. Give them what they want, appeal to their self-interest, make them feel superior to you. When a baby has grabbed a sharp knife, do not try to grab it back; instead, stay calm, offer candy, and the baby will drop the knife to pick up the tempting morsel you offer.

Question 17

what is the fourth example?

Answer 17

peter and his wife catherine , There will always be difficult people for us to face—the chronically insecure, the hopelessly stubborn, the hysterical complainers. Your ability to disarm these people will prove an invaluable skill. You do have to be careful, though: if you are passive they will run all over you; if assertive you will make their monstrous qualities worse. Seduction and charm are the most effective counterweapons. Outwardly, be gracious. Adapt to their every mood. Enter their spirit. Inwardly, calculate and wait: your surrender is a strategy, not a way of life. When the time comes, and it inevitably will, the tables will turn. Their aggression will land them in trouble, and that will put you in a position to rescue them, regaining superiority. (You could also decide that you had had enough, and consign them to oblivion.) Your charm has prevented them from foreseeing this or growing suspicious

Question 18

what is the symbol of the charmer?

Answer 18

The
Mirror. Your spirit holds a mirror up
to others. When they see you they see them
selves: their values, their tastes, even their flaws. Their
lifelong love affair with their own image is comfortable and hypnotic; so feed it. No one ever sees what is behind the mirror.

Question 19

what are some dangers of charm?

Answer 19

There are those who are immune to a Charmer; particularly cynics, and confident types who do not need validation. These people tend to view Charmers as slippery and deceitful, and they can make problems for you. The solution is to do what most Charmers do by nature: befriend and charm as many people as possible. Secure your power through numbers and you will not have to worry about the few you cannot seduce. Catherine the Great’s kindness to everyone she met created a vast amount of good will that paid off later. Also, it is sometimes charming to reveal a strategic flaw. There is one person you dislike? Confess it openly, do not try to charm such an enemy, and people will think you more human, less slippery. Disraeli had such a scapegoat with his great nemesis, William Gladstone.

Question 20

what is phase one?

Answer 20

Separation— Stirring Interest and Desire

Question 21

what is the goal of phase one?

Answer 21

slowly separate them from that closed world and fill their minds with thoughts of you.

Question 22

what are the steps in the first phase?

Answer 22

1 - Choose the right victim
2 - your first task is to get your victims’ attention, to stir interest in you. For those who might be
more resistant or difficult, you should try a slower and more insidious approach, first winning their friendship ( Create a false sense of security—approach indirectly)
3 - for those who are bored and less difficult to reach, a more dramatic approach will work, either fascinating them with a mysterious presence (Send mixed signals) or seeming to be someone who is coveted and fought over by others ( Appear to be an object of desire)
4 - Once the victim is properly intrigued, you need to transform their interest into something stronger—desire. Desire is generally preceded by feelings of emptiness, of something missing inside that needs fulfillment. You must deliberately instill such feelings, make your victims aware of the adventure and romance that are lacking in their lives ( Create a need—stir anxiety and dis
content).
5 - If they see you as the one to fill their emptiness, inter
est will blossom into desire. The desire should be stoked by subtly planting ideas in their minds, hints of the seductive pleasures that await them ( Master the art of insinuation).
6 - Mirroring your victims’ values, indulging them in their wants and moods will charm and delight them ( Enter their spirit).

7 - Without realizing how it has happened, more and more of their thoughts now revolve around you. The time has come for some thing stronger. Lure them with an irresistible pleasure or adventure ( Create temptation) and they will follow your lead.

Question 23

How do you recognize your victims?

Answer 23

By the way they respond to you. You should not pay so much attention to their conscious responses—a person who is obviously trying to please or charm you is probably playing to your vanity, and wants something from you. Instead, pay greater attention to those responses outside conscious control—a blush, an involuntary mirroring of some gesture of yours, an unusual shyness, even perhaps a flash of anger or resentment. All of these show that you are having an effect on a person who is open to your influence

Question 24

what is another way to recognize your victims?

Answer 24

by the effect they have on u

Question 25

what is The person who seems volcanically passionate hiding?

Answer 25

insecurities

Question 26

can u seduce someone with alot of time on their hands?

Answer 26

yes cuz they are waiting to be drawn out

Question 27

who are the perfect victims?

Answer 27

1 - they are people who think that u have something they don’t and they yearn for it maybe opposite of u
2 - people who are repressed especially later in life

Question 28

create a false sense of security , approach indirectly

Answer 28

If you are too direct early on, you risk stir ring up a resistance that will never be lowered. At first there must be nothing of the seducer in your manner. The seduction should begin at an angle, indirectly, so that the target only gradually becomes aware of you. Haunt the periphery of your target’s life—approach through a third party, or seem to cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving gradually from friend to lover. Arrange an occasional “chance” encounter, as if you and your target were destined to become acquainted—nothing is more seductive than a sense of destiny. Lull the target into feeling secure, then strike.

Question 29

what should u do when u make a friendship?

Answer 29

u should not imply anything romantic create a foundation first then make a small gesture a physical one maybe to make them think maybe there is something and then backoff and let them make the next move

Question 30

what are u after as a seducer?

Answer 30

the ability to move people in the direction you want them to go. But the game is perilous; the moment they suspect they are acting under your influence, they will become resentful

Question 31

what should be your first move?

Answer 31

make the target come to u and if u can’t approach them steadily by applying friendship rules or play cat and mouse games seem interested then back off and you must find ways to calm any sense of mistrust that the other person may experience

Question 32

what should u never do first?

Answer 32

apply pressure if u do u will inspire insecurity

Question 33

what should u not discuss in the first stages?

Answer 33

love or affection or emotions let them imagine who u are

Question 34

are less colorful-words better or worse?

Answer 34

better