Term 1 - Self Concept Flashcards
What is self-concept?
How you FEEL about yourself.
How you see and think about yourself.
What is feedback?
How you speak to others about the things they do well, and the things that they are not so good at.
(Information given to someone about their behaviour, performance and actions)
Who is your peer?
Someone in your age group; classmates
What does “boost” mean?
increase or improve
How can people boost your self-concept?
They can help you discover how to do things.
They can notice your good qualities.
They can believe in you.
They can encourage you to try again when something does not go right.
What are qualities?
Characteristics
Traits
Behaviour
What does a good self-concept look like?
When you see yourself in a positive way.
When you feel proud of what have done or accomplished.
When you are confident that there is more you can do.
What does a good self-concept do?
It helps you feel proud of yourself and what you can do.
It gives you courage (bravery) to try new things.
It makes you believe in yourself.
It helps you to like yourself even if you make mistakes.
Who are your siblings?
Brothers and/or sisters
What does a poor self-concept look like?
Feeling that you are not important.
It makes you sad and prevents you from trying new things.
It can keep you from making friends or doing well at school.
Does a healthy self-concept mean that you are perfect?
No, there is always room for improvement, but you are okay with not being perfect.
You accept yourself - the good and the not-so-good.
You recognize your good qualities even though you are not great in everything.
What is feedback?
When someone tells you if you did something well or if you can improve on something.
That is: Listening to advice from others is called receiving feedback.
What is Positive feedback?
If the advice you are given is helpful it is positive feedback.
What is Negative feedback?
If the feedback hurts your feelings or is mean and unhelpful it is negative feedback.
What is Constructive criticism?
When negative feedback is fair and said in a positive way
(Constructive = helpful)
(Criticism = an opinion that says something you are doing is wrong)
Which is more useful: Positive or negative feedback?
Both, because they help you to become aware of what you do and say. This allows you to change your behaviour if necessary.
Name some appropriate ways of giving feedback.
- First say what the person did well.
- Say only 1 or 2 things that he can work on.
- Give useful ideas about how to improve.
- Be polite.
- Encourage the person to try harder.
What effect does an inappropriate way of giving feedback have on a person?
It embarrasses him/her
What are some tools that you can use to receive feedback?
- Calm down
- Listen to their point of view (might have a valid point)
- Ask them to listen to you and plan what you want to say.
- Discuss consequences.
- Parents are there to protect their children at all times, so talk to your parents about why they feel the way they do.
- Take time and think about your discussion.
What is Empathy?
To understand the reasons for a person’s feelings and behaviour without judging (criticising) the person; to imagine yourself in someone’s situation.
What is the difference between empathy and compassion?
When you have compassion you not only imagine yourself in their situation and experience the feelings they are feeling. You also do something to lighten or take away the negative emotions of that person.
Can you control your feelings?
No, but you can control the way you react to it.
Is it wrong to feel angry?
No, but it is wrong to hurt others because of it.
Name some skills to manage emotions.
- Think about your feelings before you act.
- Wait before you think or do something. Take deep breaths, run, go for a walk or listen to calming music.
- Cry or punch a pillow.
- Do not hurt anyone or yourself.
- Talk, write or draw about your feelings.
- Solve the problem when you have calmed down.
What is the best way to explain your feelings?
I feel (angry / sad / disappointed) because…
Describe a true friend.
Someone who is there for you in good and bad times. They do not always have the answers to your problems, but they are always there to listen to you.
What are the qualities of a good friend?
- listen to each other
- do not hurt each other’s feelings
- try to understand each other’s feelings or moods (empathy)
- help each other solve problems
- give compliments
- can disagree without hurting each other
- trustworthy
- respect each other
- dependable
- give each other room to change
- care about each other
Who do you have relationships with?
- Peers (class mates)
- Older people in your life (parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, teachers…)
- Strangers (bus driver, stranger in the park, shop assistant)
With whom can you have unsafe relationships?
Anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable (insecure, unsafe), who hurts you or who have a negative (harmful) influence on your life.
A safe relationship is:
A relationship in which you feel comfortable and safe, and that has a positive influence on your life
What are 8 characteristics of a safe relationship?
- Truth
- Honesty
- Love (through good times and bad)
- Service
- Acceptance (for who you are)
- Loyalty (stick up for you, defend you)
- Safe
- Confidence (let’s you feel good about yourself)
Difference between good and bad relationship
Good relationship helps you to:
- share experiences, dreams, emotions, fun activities
- develop social skills
- feel good about yourself- feel accepted
- cope with sadness, tragedy, change
Bad relationship:
- puts pressure on you to do stuff that you don’t think is right
- encourages you to conform to (follow) certain behaviour and beliefs
Benefits (advantages) of good and safe relationships:
- closeness with others
- listening ear in good and bad times
- shoulder to lean on
- friendship
- tell you the truth when others might not
- HAPPINESS (biggest benefit)
What are some ways to meet new friends?
- get involved in activities you enjoy (sports, art…)
- talk to new people you meet (as long as you are comfortable)
- have a positive attitude (be nice to be around with)
What do you need to develop a good relationship?
trustworthiness comfort laughter happiness feeling safe and accepted humor
What are the ingredients for a bad relationship?
distrust discomfort tears hurt feeling unsafe fear
