Skills Flashcards
Sticky Eyes
Pretend your eyes are glued to the other with sticky warm taffy. Don’t break eye contact even after she is finished speaking. Instead, look away ever so slowly, reluctantly stretching the gooey taffy until the tiny strings eventually break.
The Flooding Smile
Don’t flash an immediate smile upon greeting. Instead look at their face for a second, pause, soak in their persona, Then… Let a big warm responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes.
Epoxy Eyes
Watch the speaker but let your glance bounce to your target each time the speaker finishes a point.
The Greeting
Open-Eye-Flood-Hi!-Lean
Heart aimed directly at the person. Unbutton or Zip your Coat. Warm sticky eyes- eye color? Evolve Flooding Smile. Greet and Identify Imperceptible Lean & Synchronize
Make a Mood Match
Match your partners mood and tone, if only for a moment
Opening remarks
Banal , not indifferent, rather sincere and passionate opening remarks…tuning in more to tone than to text. Not complaining, rude or unpleasant
Whatzit
I couldn’t help but notice … What IS that
Whoozat
That man/women over there looks interesting. Who is he/she? Will you introduce me?
Or, just gather enough information to then introduce yourself
Breaking in
Stand near the tight group…wait for a word or two to use as a wedge..excuse me, I couldn’t help overheating that you ..,.
Parroting - keep the rhythmic sound of a tennis volley going
Repeat the last few words your conversation partner says, putting the ball back in their court
What do you do?
I help people moving into the area find a new home, vs. I’m a real estate agent
What do you do?
For a good while I helped company’s put out the best image possible. I worked in advertising in terms of print media. Deadlines were structured around the release of a new product. For example the
Awesome
Excellent, wonderful, awe-inspiring, impressive, fearsome,
Like
Fond of, attached to, admire, respect, enjoy, attracted to, have a soft spot for, preference for, appreciate, hooked on, have a thing for
Love
Treasure, adore, think the world of, cherish, have a weakness for, crazy about
Work
Position, profession, calling, cultivate, negotiate
School
Prepare, prime, approach,
Fine
Nicely, all right, reasonably well,
Become like water
technically, the water never changes. It stays true to its nature. And yet, it manages to adapt to its surroundings to create a perfect fit, or to find the perfect flow.
Okay
Agreed, yes, of course, absolutely, fair enough,
Good
Principled, admirable, praiseworthy, appropriate, fitting, accomplished, valued, true, kind, thoughtful, generous, genuine, authentic, convincing, persuasive, telling, valid, sound, compelling, cogent, solid, bright, pleasant,
Cogent
Clear, convincing, compelling, reasonable, coherent, relevant
Valid
If it is assumed that the premises are True AND the Conclusion logically follows, then the argument is valid
The premises are related to the conclusion in such a way that IF the were true then the conclusion is also true.
To be a sound argument not only is it valid but the premises ARE in fact true
Argue
Contend, assert, reason, maintain hold, defend
