Self Talk

Question 1

Prove myself

Answer 1

I don’t need to prove myself in this situation. I can stay calm.

Question 2

Losing my cool

Answer 2

As long as I keep my cool, I’m in control of myself.

Question 3

Doubting myself

Answer 3

There is no need to doubt myself; what other people say doesn’t have to matter so much. I’m the
only person who can make me mad or keep me calm.

Question 4

Signal

Answer 4

My anger is a signal. It’s time to talk to myself and relax.

Question 5

Feeling threatened

Answer 5

I don’t need to feel threatened here.

Question 6

Feeling incompetent, weak

Answer 6

Nothing says I have to be competent and strong all the time. It’s okay to feel unsure or confused.

Question 7

Controlling others

Answer 7

It’s impossible to control other people and situations. The only thing I can control is myself and how I
express my feelings.

Question 8

Feeling uncertain, not in control

Answer 8

It’s okay to be uncertain or insecure sometimes. I don’t need to be in control of everything and
everybody.

Question 9

Being criticized

Answer 9

If people criticize me, I can survive that. Nothing says I have to be perfect.

Question 10

Someone went off the wall

Answer 10

If this person wants to go off the wall, that is nothing I need to do. I don’t need to respond to their
anger or feel threatened.

Question 11

Fight or flight?

Answer 11

It’s okay to walk away from a fight.

Question 12

Not feeling loved or approved of

Answer 12

It’s nice to have other peoples love and approval, but even without it, I can still accept and like myself.

Question 13

Making mistakes

Answer 13

It’s okay to make mistakes.

Question 14

People acting their own way

Answer 14

People are going to act the way they want to, not the way I want them to.

Question 15

I feel angry

Answer 15

I feel angry, that must mean I have been hurt, scared, or have some other threatening feeling
underneath the anger. It’s okay.