Safe Conversations - Validation Flashcards
In the validation process, what a p_______ w______ is not for their partner to a______ with them. They want their partner to u_____________ t_____ and their _______ ___ _____.
In the validation process, what a person want is not for their partner to agree with them. They want their partner to understand them and their point of view.
Understanding another persons point of view happens when you s__________ any ______________ and try your best to g__________ _____________ w____ he or she th_____ and f______ the way they do. This m_______ ________________ may require a little effort but feeling understood reduces s________ and a_________, and leads to h_________ and h_________ relationships.
Understanding another persons point of view happens when you suspend any judgement and try your best to genuinely understand why he or she thinks and feels the way they do. This means understanding may require a little effort but feeling understood reduces stress and anxiety, and leads to healthier and happier relationships.
Everyone’s v______ and o__________ make perfect sense to them. The question is, can you Validate their different views and opinions without c_________ or j____________? In other words, do you want to be r______ or do you want to be k_____? When differences come up, you can’t be both.
Everyone’s views and opinions make perfect sense to them. The question is, can you Validate their different views and opinions without criticism or judgment? In other words, do you want to be right or do you want to be kind? When differences come up, you can’t be both.
When your partner expresses a d_____________ of o__________ or p______ of v_____, any n__________ reaction you have, even if you don’t e_________ it, is a reminder that you haven’t f________ accepted your partner just the way they are.
When your partner expresses a difference of opinion or point of view, any negative reaction you have, even if you don’t express it, is a reminder that you haven’t fully accepted your partner just the way they are.
When your partner e________ a d____________ of o__________, it’s an o_____________ to further a_________ and even a____________ them just as they are, by consistently asking, “L___ me s___ if I g___ t____” and then M______ b_____ what you h_______ them say. Then say, with g__________ c_________, “Is t_______ m_____ a_______ t_____?” This i__________ your partner’s ability to feel l________ and a__________ just as they are, without having to change the u________ way they see the world.
When your partner expresses a difference of opinion, it’s an opportunity to further accept and even appreciate them just as they are, by consistently asking, “Let me see if I got that” and then Mirror back what you heard them say. Then say, with genuine curiosity, “Is there more about that?” This increases your partner’s ability to feel loved and appreciated just as they are, without having to change the unique way they see the world.
Because everybody is d____________, being k_____ is a whole lot e________ way to l____ than being r______ because you don’t have to fix anyone other than y________!
Because everybody is different, being kind is a whole lot easier way to live than being right because you don’t have to fix anyone other than yourself!
Validation helps people feel s____ enough to get past their f____ of being v___________ when we’re o____ and h__________ with another person.
Validation helps people feel safe enough to get past their fear of being vulnerable when we’re open and honest with another person.
When you validate someone, you are not agreeing with them, you’re simply validating their r_____ to have their own p_____ o__ v____ about something.
When you validate someone, you are not agreeing with them, you’re simply validating their right to have their own point of view about something.
