S1 - Why We Struggle

Question 1

S1 - Why We Struggle

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Shame is an ____ emotion

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inhibitory emotion

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Shame is profoundly connected to ____

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feelings of self worth

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Shame gets in the way of…

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feeling like we’re enough

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Shame = feelings of

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not good enough, unworthy, worthless

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We live in a ____ culture

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“how to”

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how-to defined

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giving detailed & practical advice about the way to do something.

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how to doesn’t …

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work

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If ‘how to’ worked then…

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none of us would be struggling (w/debt, obesity, worthiness)

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Tips & tricks & how to doesn’t work with …

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worthiness & feeling like we’re enough

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Transformation happens in …

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hard conversations

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We live in a Culture of ____

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deep scarcity

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scarcity is defined as ____

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never enough

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scarcity synonyms

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lack, shortage, deficit, need

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scarcity’s opposite

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abundance, wealth, adequate, sufficient, actualised

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Why do we struggle?

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we feel like we’re never enough

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List of Cultural “not enough” messages to individuals:

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Never good enough, rich enough, safe enough, powerful enough, certain enough, perfect enough, special enough, attractive enough, smart enough, successful enough, etc

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Most dangerous “not enough” message in work place:

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not relevant enough

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biggest shame trigger in work

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not relevant enough

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Toxic Cultural Message:

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If you’re not doing extraordinary huge public things you are not enough

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An ordinary healthy fulfilled life =

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is a meaningless life

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Idea we’re never extraordinary enough
plays out in …

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social media & reality tv

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Being “ordinary is =

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a shame-based fear

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shaming being “ordinary” goes back to =

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scarcity mindset

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we are hyper-aware of ____

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lack

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we live in a culture of __ & __

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scarcity & fear

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everything in media creates feelings of __ & __

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scarcity & fear

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To get out of scarcity & fear we need to have…

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conversations about vulnerability & shame

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3 Elements of Scarcity Cultures:

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1 Cultures prone to shame
2 Cultures deeply seeded in comparison
3 Cultures fractured by disengagement

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1st Element of Scarcity Cultures

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shame-based

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2nd Element of Scarcity Cultures

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comparison-based

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3rd Element of Scarcity Cultures

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disengaged

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Theodore Roosevelt said

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“Comparison is the thief of joy”

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Only way to change scarcity culture is …

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to be subversive and create a new culture

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New Culture Examples:

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new work culture
new family culture
new community culture

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Solution is a million …

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small subversive acts of kindness

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personal solution is to realise =

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I’m enough

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personal solution is to live =

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whole-heartedly

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2 irreducible needs of men, women & children =

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love & belonging

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In the absence of __ & __ there is always suffering

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love & belonging

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____ is the most important human expereince

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Love