Relationships Flashcards
Why do people engage in pre-marital sex?
Love
Experimentation
Acceptance
Sexually Frustrated
Why are people single?
Religion (nun/priest) Still looking Divorced Widowed Broken up Freedom
Benefits of being single?
Freedom 1 night stands Pleasure Focus on other things Cheaper
Drawbacks on being single?
Lonely, unloved, bored, no kids, jealous
Why should priests get married?
Relate to congregation Protestants can More priests Reproduce Less lonely
Why shouldn’t priests get married?
Not fully committed to God
Distracted
Jesus was celibate & unmarried
What are civil partnerships?
Gives gay people rights and responsibilities of straight couples in marriage.
Not in a church
Where are civil partnerships legal?
All of UK & Ireland
Illegal in NI
Verses which prohibit homosexual acts.
Genesis 2 Romans 1:289 (natural relations) Genesis 2:24 (man leaves for wife) Matthew 22:1-14 (parables at wedding feasts) Leviticus 18:22 (gay sex is wrong)
Why is gay okay?
Everyone is different.
Christian idea is an abomination - outdated and narrow-minded
Born gay. Sex is natural
What do the churches say about homosexuality?
RC - no. Disordered. Called to chastity
Church of Ireland - incompatible with scripture. Accepted celibate gay priest
Presbyterian - sexually confused. Help work through insecurities
Average age of marriage?
1987: 28 and 26
2007: 34 and 32
2015: 30 and 28
Average cost of wedding?
£20,000
Why get married?
Companionship Not alone Better taxes & expenses Public welcoming into family Tell others you love each other 1 special person to love Harder to break up Baby due Better for kids Control sexual desire
What should you consider before marriage?
Children Finances Living situation Future prospects Is it love?
Verses about marriage?
Exclusive (2 Samuel 11:12-25)
Built on love & respect (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Sacred (Genesis 2:21-24)
Involves give & take (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)
Parts of a wedding ceremony?
Intro and declaration of purpose Vows Ring exchange Warning Pronouncement Sign register
What is the intro & declaration of purpose?
Short sermon on marriage
It’s importance and purpose
What are vows?
Lawful.
Some make up own.
Have and hold better or worse richer or poorer
What is ring exchange?
Promise of unending love and commitment.
Symbol.
What is warning?
Quote Jesus
Mark 10:9
1 man mustn’t separate them
What is pronouncement?
State couple is now married
What is signing register?
Lawful. Need registrar and witnesses.
How to prevent marital breakdown?
Good prep : classes/courses
Communication. Repentance. Forgiveness
(Ephesians 4:26-27, don’t let sun go down on anger)
External help: RELATE & ACCORD
Where are civil partnerships legal?
All of UK & Ireland
Illegal in NI
Verses which prohibit homosexual acts.
Genesis 2 Romans 1:289 (natural relations) Genesis 2:24 (man leaves for wife) Matthew 22:1-14 (parables at wedding feasts) Leviticus 18:22 (gay sex is wrong)
Why is gay okay?
Everyone is different.
Christian idea is an abomination - outdated and narrow-minded
Born gay. Sex is natural
What do the churches say about homosexuality?
RC - no. Disordered. Called to chastity
Church of Ireland - incompatible with scripture. Accepted celibate gay priest
Presbyterian - sexually confused. Help work through insecurities
Average age of marriage?
1987: 28 and 26
2007: 34 and 32
2015: 30 and 28
Average cost of wedding?
£20,000
Why get married?
Companionship Not alone Better taxes & expenses Public welcoming into family Tell others you love each other 1 special person to love Harder to break up Baby due Better for kids Control sexual desire
What should you consider before marriage?
Children Finances Living situation Future prospects Is it love?
Verses about marriage?
Exclusive (2 Samuel 11:12-25)
Built on love & respect (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Sacred (Genesis 2:21-24)
Involves give & take (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)
Parts of a wedding ceremony?
Intro and declaration of purpose Vows Ring exchange Warning Pronouncement Sign register
What is the intro & declaration of purpose?
Short sermon on marriage
It’s importance and purpose
What are vows?
Lawful.
Some make up own.
Have and hold better or worse richer or poorer
What is ring exchange?
Promise of unending love and commitment.
Symbol.
What is warning?
Quote Jesus
Mark 10:9
1 man mustn’t separate them
What is pronouncement?
State couple is now married
What is signing register?
Lawful. Need registrar and witnesses.
How to prevent marital breakdown?
Good prep : classes/courses
Communication. Repentance. Forgiveness
(Ephesians 4:26-27, don’t let sun go down on anger)
External help: RELATE & ACCORD
What is RELATE?
Non religious marriage counselling
Accepts LGBT
National Marriage Guidance Counsel
What is ACCORD?
Catholic marriage counselling
What is divorce?
Legal process involving civil authorities which ends in declaration that marriage is ended.
How many marriages in NI end in divorce?
1 in 3
Why do people get divorced?
Lack of commitment Conflict Finances Unrealistic expectation of marriage Too young
In what cases are you allowed to get divorced?
Adultery
Behaviour making unrealistic to stay together
Lived apart for 2 years & both agree
Desertion for 2 years
What problems might a couple experience after a divorce?
Let down Fearful of future Suffering Stress Single parent Finances
How might a child feel after a parents’ divorce?
Torn between parents
Like bereavement (loss of parent)
Stress (bedwetting, tearfulness, poor schoolwork, bad behaviour)
What does the bible say about divorce (3 verses)
Malachi 2:16 - hate it
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 - man can divorce wife if find indecent
Matthew 5:31+32 - only if adultery
What is remarriage considered in the bible?
Adultery
What does the RC church say about divorce?
What does the Church of Ireland say?
What does the Presbyterian Church say?
What does the Methodist Church say?
Wrong - only if marriage wasn’t valid
Needs agreement of Rector & Bishop
Only if totally broken down. Blessing becomes curse
Permitted in most cases
What is cohabitation? Why would you choose it?
Living together when not married
Manage married life, if really love each other
What does the bible say about Cohabitation? (2)
What is it considered by Christians?
1 Corinthians 6:18 - sexual immorality
1 Thessalonians 5:22 - every form of evil
Unnecessary temptation
What is a civil partnership?
When did it become legal in UK?
For LGBT couples, same rights as hetero couples, not in church though.
2006
