Relationships Flashcards

1
Q

Why do people engage in pre-marital sex?

A

Love
Experimentation
Acceptance
Sexually Frustrated

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2
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Why are people single?

A
Religion (nun/priest)
Still looking
Divorced
Widowed
Broken up
Freedom
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3
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Benefits of being single?

A
Freedom
1 night stands
Pleasure
Focus on other things
Cheaper
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4
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Drawbacks on being single?

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Lonely, unloved, bored, no kids, jealous

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5
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Why should priests get married?

A
Relate to congregation
Protestants can
More priests
Reproduce 
Less lonely
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6
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Why shouldn’t priests get married?

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Not fully committed to God
Distracted
Jesus was celibate & unmarried

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7
Q

What are civil partnerships?

A

Gives gay people rights and responsibilities of straight couples in marriage.
Not in a church

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8
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Where are civil partnerships legal?

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All of UK & Ireland

Illegal in NI

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9
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Verses which prohibit homosexual acts.

A
Genesis 2
Romans 1:289 (natural relations)
Genesis 2:24 (man leaves for wife)
Matthew 22:1-14 (parables at wedding feasts)
Leviticus 18:22 (gay sex is wrong)
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10
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Why is gay okay?

A

Everyone is different.
Christian idea is an abomination - outdated and narrow-minded
Born gay. Sex is natural

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11
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What do the churches say about homosexuality?

A

RC - no. Disordered. Called to chastity

Church of Ireland - incompatible with scripture. Accepted celibate gay priest

Presbyterian - sexually confused. Help work through insecurities

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12
Q

Average age of marriage?

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1987: 28 and 26
2007: 34 and 32
2015: 30 and 28

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13
Q

Average cost of wedding?

A

£20,000

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14
Q

Why get married?

A
Companionship
Not alone
Better taxes & expenses
Public welcoming into family
Tell others you love each other
1 special person to love
Harder to break up
Baby due
Better for kids
Control sexual desire
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15
Q

What should you consider before marriage?

A
Children
Finances
Living situation
Future prospects
Is it love?
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16
Q

Verses about marriage?

A

Exclusive (2 Samuel 11:12-25)
Built on love & respect (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Sacred (Genesis 2:21-24)
Involves give & take (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)

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17
Q

Parts of a wedding ceremony?

A
Intro and declaration of purpose
Vows
Ring exchange
Warning 
Pronouncement
Sign register
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18
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What is the intro & declaration of purpose?

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Short sermon on marriage

It’s importance and purpose

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19
Q

What are vows?

A

Lawful.
Some make up own.
Have and hold better or worse richer or poorer

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20
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What is ring exchange?

A

Promise of unending love and commitment.

Symbol.

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21
Q

What is warning?

A

Quote Jesus
Mark 10:9
1 man mustn’t separate them

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22
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What is pronouncement?

A

State couple is now married

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23
Q

What is signing register?

A

Lawful. Need registrar and witnesses.

24
Q

How to prevent marital breakdown?

A

Good prep : classes/courses

Communication. Repentance. Forgiveness
(Ephesians 4:26-27, don’t let sun go down on anger)

External help: RELATE & ACCORD

25
Q

Where are civil partnerships legal?

A

All of UK & Ireland

Illegal in NI

26
Q

Verses which prohibit homosexual acts.

A
Genesis 2
Romans 1:289 (natural relations)
Genesis 2:24 (man leaves for wife)
Matthew 22:1-14 (parables at wedding feasts)
Leviticus 18:22 (gay sex is wrong)
27
Q

Why is gay okay?

A

Everyone is different.
Christian idea is an abomination - outdated and narrow-minded
Born gay. Sex is natural

28
Q

What do the churches say about homosexuality?

A

RC - no. Disordered. Called to chastity

Church of Ireland - incompatible with scripture. Accepted celibate gay priest

Presbyterian - sexually confused. Help work through insecurities

29
Q

Average age of marriage?

A

1987: 28 and 26
2007: 34 and 32
2015: 30 and 28

30
Q

Average cost of wedding?

A

£20,000

31
Q

Why get married?

A
Companionship
Not alone
Better taxes & expenses
Public welcoming into family
Tell others you love each other
1 special person to love
Harder to break up
Baby due
Better for kids
Control sexual desire
32
Q

What should you consider before marriage?

A
Children
Finances
Living situation
Future prospects
Is it love?
33
Q

Verses about marriage?

A

Exclusive (2 Samuel 11:12-25)
Built on love & respect (Ephesians 5:25-33)
Sacred (Genesis 2:21-24)
Involves give & take (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)

34
Q

Parts of a wedding ceremony?

A
Intro and declaration of purpose
Vows
Ring exchange
Warning 
Pronouncement
Sign register
35
Q

What is the intro & declaration of purpose?

A

Short sermon on marriage

It’s importance and purpose

36
Q

What are vows?

A

Lawful.
Some make up own.
Have and hold better or worse richer or poorer

37
Q

What is ring exchange?

A

Promise of unending love and commitment.

Symbol.

38
Q

What is warning?

A

Quote Jesus
Mark 10:9
1 man mustn’t separate them

39
Q

What is pronouncement?

A

State couple is now married

40
Q

What is signing register?

A

Lawful. Need registrar and witnesses.

41
Q

How to prevent marital breakdown?

A

Good prep : classes/courses

Communication. Repentance. Forgiveness
(Ephesians 4:26-27, don’t let sun go down on anger)

External help: RELATE & ACCORD

42
Q

What is RELATE?

A

Non religious marriage counselling
Accepts LGBT
National Marriage Guidance Counsel

43
Q

What is ACCORD?

A

Catholic marriage counselling

44
Q

What is divorce?

A

Legal process involving civil authorities which ends in declaration that marriage is ended.

45
Q

How many marriages in NI end in divorce?

A

1 in 3

46
Q

Why do people get divorced?

A
Lack of commitment
Conflict
Finances
Unrealistic expectation of marriage
Too young
47
Q

In what cases are you allowed to get divorced?

A

Adultery
Behaviour making unrealistic to stay together
Lived apart for 2 years & both agree
Desertion for 2 years

48
Q

What problems might a couple experience after a divorce?

A
Let down
Fearful of future
Suffering
Stress
Single parent 
Finances
49
Q

How might a child feel after a parents’ divorce?

A

Torn between parents
Like bereavement (loss of parent)
Stress (bedwetting, tearfulness, poor schoolwork, bad behaviour)

50
Q

What does the bible say about divorce (3 verses)

A

Malachi 2:16 - hate it
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 - man can divorce wife if find indecent
Matthew 5:31+32 - only if adultery

51
Q

What is remarriage considered in the bible?

A

Adultery

52
Q

What does the RC church say about divorce?
What does the Church of Ireland say?
What does the Presbyterian Church say?
What does the Methodist Church say?

A

Wrong - only if marriage wasn’t valid
Needs agreement of Rector & Bishop
Only if totally broken down. Blessing becomes curse
Permitted in most cases

53
Q

What is cohabitation? Why would you choose it?

A

Living together when not married

Manage married life, if really love each other

54
Q

What does the bible say about Cohabitation? (2)

What is it considered by Christians?

A

1 Corinthians 6:18 - sexual immorality
1 Thessalonians 5:22 - every form of evil
Unnecessary temptation

55
Q

What is a civil partnership?

When did it become legal in UK?

A

For LGBT couples, same rights as hetero couples, not in church though.
2006