Relational Maintenance

Question 1

Self Disclosure

Answer 1

• As people increase affection they seem to reveal more hidden aspects of themselves
  -Motivation could be to achieve catharsis or communication release & “tell it like it is”

Question 2

Baxter & Wilmot “Taboo” topics

Answer 2

• May occur at any relationship stage
  -Most avoided subject is the relationship itself

Question 3

Lying

Answer 3

Best predictor of relational termination because of lying is the perceived importance of the info.

-Mutual Influence or involvement with the lie
- Multiple Exposures How often you se this person
-Familiarity of behaviors of the other person

Question 4

Before the Fight

Answer 4

1.) Recognizing not all conflicts will be resolved
2.) Solving problem as team
3.) Desire to solve problem not to win
4.) Concern for other’s feelings
5.) Can see many possible outcomes

Question 5

During the Fight

Answer 5

-Dissatisfied couples engage in cross-complaining, Arguments about arguing
-Satisfied couples acknowledge Validity of other complaints, end earlier

Question 6

After the Fight

Answer 6

-Review of the conflict
-Review progress on reviewed solutions
-Reassurance rituals
-Hypothetical discussions

Question 7

Love Defined

Answer 7

-Love is a circular process

Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing ones own or another spiritual growth

Question 8

Falling in Love

Answer 8

-Loving someone and falling in love is different
-Falling in love is a sex linked erotic experience

Question 9

Ego Boundaries

Answer 9

-Extension of ones limits
-we are attracted, invested, and committed more than ourselves
-Not present in kids
-In chemical process of love we go back to thinking as kids

Question 10

Appreciation/Thank you on relationships

Answer 10

-Thank you might be more important tan ILY’s
-More satisfaction with relationships

Question 11

I love you research

Answer 11

1.) Males are more likely to say ILY first to have females commit prematurely
2.) Makes say ILY because they are bad at holding in feelings
3.) Females are less likely to say ILY last because they can distinguish feelings better
4.) Females are less likely to be proactive

Question 12

Sex Talk

Answer 12

-In beginning of relationship men will initiate more and women will accept or deny
-As relationship progresses more complex initiation patterns will develop

Question 13

Giving Gifts

Answer 13

-Way of periodically making a statement about the relationship and can be done effectively or ineffectively

Question 14

Giving Compliments

Answer 14

– If a compliment is perceived as being genuine and addresses something valued than it may help with relationship maintenance