PUA

Question 1

AA

Answer 1

Approach Anxiety. This is the general feeling of being too afraid to approach women.

Question 2

Abundance Mentality

Answer 2

This is basically the idea that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Internalize that idea, and rejections will be easier to handle (also, it’ll help you not to get so worked-up about a single approach/interaction).

Question 3

Agree and Amplify

Answer 3

This is something you say in response to a question or “shit-test” (see glossary H-Z), in which you agree with whatever the person says, and then take it to a more extreme level. Example: A girl might tell you she’s too old for you, and you might say “Yeah, I just hope you’re not too weak to push me around in my stroller.”

Question 4

AFC

Answer 4

Average Frustrated Chump. This is basically a guy who isn’t great at talking to women, probably a bit shy and insecure. He might be introverted, he might be a “nice guy,” he might be an asshole- mainly, he’s frustrated and he’s a chump.

Question 5

AMOG

Answer 5

Alpha Male Of the Group/Alpha Male Other Guy. This is a guy (usually a stranger, but can be a friend) who basically tries to make you look bad in front of a woman. He doesn’t necessarily need to be an “alpha”-type, just someone who’s giving you trouble for whatever reason. [Note: AMOG is most often used to represent this type of guy. In other words, don’t refer to yourself as an “AMOG.” The connotation is usually negative.]

Question 6

ASD

Answer 6

Anti-Slut Defense. This is anything a woman might say because of societal/peer pressures and slut-shaming. It’s partly why it’s not a great idea to simply invite a woman back to your place for sex. It’s often much better to give her “plausible deniability”

Question 7

Attraction

Answer 7

Attraction essentially refers to how attracted a girl is to you. Examples: You can build attraction through DHVs (see below), by making a move, by doing “push/pull”, by flirting/teasing, or any number of things.

Question 8

Bitch-Shield

Answer 8

This is when you get an immediate negative reaction from a woman upon approaching her. [Note: the reason why we define “bitch-shield” is because it can sometimes be overcome. In other words, sometimes the girl isn’t actually a bitch- she might just be used to getting approached. Instead of bailing, you can say something else to try to “win her over.” However, sometimes she legitimately doesn’t want to interact with you.]

Question 9

Buying Temperature

Answer 9

This is basically how the woman feels about you (and especially, how horny she is) at a given time. It’s a good idea to make a move when the buying temperature is really high, and generally not a good idea to do it when it’s low. Many PUAs believe the buying temperature will reach a peak at some point, and will quickly start to fade after that peak. I tend to agree.

Question 10

Calibration

Answer 10

This refers to your ability to “read” people and tailor your actions to their (potential) reactions. Example: If you’re dealing with a woman who’s more insecure, or maybe more serious in general, you should probably calibrate to her by not teasing her too much or making too many jokes.

Question 11

Caveman

Answer 11

This is when you aggressively escalate physical contact, like a caveman. Example: Picking a girl up and carrying her to your bedroom.

Question 12

Chick Crack

Answer 12

This refers to anything that usually spikes a woman’s interest. Examples: Palm reading, The Cube, talking about shoes/clothes, gossiping, chick flicks, etc.

Question 13

Cockblock

Answer 13

This refers to basically anyone who interferes with you, be it the woman’s friend, a random guy, or even one of your friends. It’s generally a good idea to handle potential cockblocks before it becomes a problem- usually it means you should be talking to the girl’s friends and being friendly with them.

Question 14

Cold Reading

Answer 14

This is when you make a statement to a woman about her personality/habits/preferences/etc, usually with little to no knowledge of who she is. Example: You might tell a girl “I bet you’re the sort of person who has a ton of acquaintances, but only 2 or 3 people you’d consider really good friends.” That statement tends to be true for most people, but it seems personal and specific to the girl.

Question 15

Comfort

Answer 15

Comfort is basically how comfortable the girl feels with you. Comfort is very closely related- and often overlapping- to “rapport” (see glossary H-Z). Examples: You can build comfort by sharing commonalities, by having more relaxed body language, by disqualifying (see below), by being open and honest, or any number of other things that will make the girl feel more comfortable with you.

Question 16

Day Two

Answer 16

This refers to the second time you meet a woman (usually for a date or some type of get-together). It’s often a pretty significant day, especially if you haven’t gotten very intimate prior to this day. This would be a good time to start getting more intimate with her.

Question 17

DHV

Answer 17

Demonstration of High Value. This refers to anything that makes you out to be a cool guy. Example: A DHV story is when you tell a cool story about yourself.

Question 18

DHV Story

Answer 18

This is a more positive and humble alternative to bragging- if you recently took a trip to Spain and had a crazy awesome time, it might not be a good idea to say “I took a trip to Spain and had a crazy awesome time!” but instead say “When I was in Spain, blah blah blah happened and it was really cool.” This takes the focus off of you (so you’re not really bragging), while still getting the point across that you’re well-traveled and have had some cool experiences.

Question 19

Disqualifier

Answer 19

This is something you say or do to “disqualify” yourself (or her) as a potential lover. The point of this is to make it so the woman doesn’t think you’re a scumbag who just wants to get in her pants (and you shouldn’t be). Examples: You might tell a girl “You’re like the dorky little sister I never had!”, or you might even do something crazy like pick your nose in front of her. It’s essentially saying “I’m not going out of my way to try and impress you. I’m doing the sorts of things I’d normally do in front of anyone else (or even when I’m by myself).”

Question 20

EV

Answer 20

Eliciting Value. This is basically when you ask the woman about her values, her hopes and dreams, and/or things that are important to her. Examples: If she seems to really love her family, you can ask her to go into more detail about her family. If she mentions a particularly positive/negative experience, you can ask how it made her feel- try to sympathize with her and relate to her.

Question 21

Flake

Answer 21

This is when a girl cancels a date/hangout, or just doesn’t show up. Some women can be very “flakey,” meaning they always change their plans or for some reason can never show up to something (maybe they just don’t like you, or maybe that’s just how they are in general).

Question 22

Fluff

Answer 22

Smalltalk.

Question 23

Frame

Answer 23

The context in which something is perceived. Example: If you want to appear to be a cool guy, it might be helpful to think of yourself as a cool guy and act like it (even if you aren’t)- i.e., frame yourself as a cool guy. It can also refer to more specific instances/situations. Example: If a girl asks what you do for a living, you can reframe the situation and ask her what she does for a living, instead of (or before) answering yourself.

Question 24

Freeze-Out

Answer 24

This is when you stop sexual activity, usually in response to the girl saying she wants to stop or slow down. When you do a freeze-out, be cool about it. Don’t be a dick.

Question 25

Full Close/Fuck-Close/F-Close

Answer 25

This is when an interaction culminates with sex.

Question 26

FR

Answer 26

Field Report. This is a written account of what you experienced during an interaction/night, which you then post on seddit (if you want to).

Question 27

Group Theory

Answer 27

This is the idea that attractive women- especially at night- will most likely be found in groups. So, if you want to interact with a girl, you’ll probably also need to interact with the group. Don’t simply focus on her.

Question 28

HB

Answer 28

Hot Babe. This basically refers to any girl. Typically seen in front of a number (1-10). The HB “scale” doesn’t just refer to how beautiful a woman is- it also refers to how highly she’s valued by other people, as well as how highly she values herself. An HB10 is generally a model or actress- you may never get an opportunity to interact with an HB10, simply because of how high-valued and off-limits they tend to be. Comparatively, an HB1 is typically a girl who’s ugly, and/or has an ugly personality, and/or isn’t valued highly by other people, and/or doesn’t value herself highly. An HB7 is typically your “average” girl (because guys usually don’t want to admit to going after anyone lower than a 7). The way you interact with an HB9 should usually be a bit different from how you’d interact with an HB6. Why? The HB9 probably gets cat-calls all the time, probably gets complimented all the time, is used to having guys bend over backwards for her, and all kinds of shit like that. In order to differentiate yourself from every other guy, you probably shouldn’t do those things. Whereas for an HB6, she’s not used to that sort of treatment, so it might be a good idea to do those things (except for the cat-calling).

Question 29

Hired Gun

Answer 29

Basically any girl in a job that pays her to interact with customers. A hired gun will usually be very friendly to you- maybe even flirty- but you have to be able to judge whether she’s just doing her job, or actually flirting with you.

Question 30

Instant Date/Insta-Date

Answer 30

This is when you take a woman somewhere (in a date-like situation) right after meeting her.

Question 31

IOD

Answer 31

Indicator of Disinterest. This is anything that indicates disinterest. It can refer to your own disinterest or the girl’s. Examples: Turning away from the conversation, or looking around the room as if out of boredom.

Question 32

IOI

Answer 32

Indicator of Interest. This is anything that indicates interest. It can refer to your own interest or the girl’s. Example: Making eye contact and smiling.

Question 33

Kino

Answer 33

Touching.

Question 34

Kiss Close/K-Close

Answer 34

This is when the interaction ends with a kiss, or when a kiss (but not much more) occurs at some point during the interaction.

Question 35

LMR

Answer 35

Last-Minute Resistance. This is when the girl puts up some sort of defense before sex, usually when you’re both naked or nearly naked. The girl might actually be uncomfortable or not want to have sex for whatever reason, or she might be giving token resistance. It’s your job to make a value judgment and decide how you should handle it, based on what she says, or her body language, or the general vibe, or whatever signs you can interpret.

Question 36

LTR

Answer 36

Long-Term Relationship.

Question 37

Manage Expectations

Answer 37

This is when you tell a woman what you want out of the relationship (so she doesn’t get the wrong impression or expect the wrong outcome).

Question 38

Neg

Answer 38

This is something you say that is the opposite of a compliment, but does not appear to be intended as an insult. It should typically only be used when the girl has a big ego. [Note: Most PUAs don’t use negs and don’t recommend their usage.] Example: “Nice nails, are they real?”

Question 39

NLP

Answer 39

Neuro-Linguistic Programming. This is the idea that the brain responds to certain words/actions/sights/sounds/etc. at a subconscious level and can be “trained” to make certain associations. Examples: If I mention the Statue of Liberty, you’re probably already picturing it in your mind. You might be thinking about America, or the color green/teal, or freedom. You’re able to make these associations based solely on my mentioning of the Statue of Liberty. Or, if I tell you that the number 6 is an awesome number and the color orange is an awesome color, and then tell you to think of a vegetable, you’ll most likely think of a carrot. [Note: NLP isn’t really backed by science and isn’t supported by most PUAs.] This wikipedia article gives a more thorough explanation.

Question 40

Number Close/#-Close

Answer 40

This is when you get a girl’s number (but don’t do much beyond that).

Question 41

Obstacle

Answer 41

Obstacle

Question 42

One-Itis/Oneitis

Answer 42

This is when you have an unhealthy infatuation with a certain girl (usually the feeling isn’t mutual). Typically, this feeling turns you into a bumbling fool. It’s also usually accompanied by the fact that you’re too afraid to make a move on the girl, or have already tried and failed.

Question 43

Opener

Answer 43

This is anything you say to open up a conversation. People tend to equate “pick-up lines” to openers. Don’t ever use a shitty, cheesy pick-up line as an opener unless it’s a joke.

Question 44

Peacocking

Answer 44

This is when you dress in an outrageous manner. Though it can also mean you have one or two items, or articles of clothing, that are at least slightly flashier than the rest of your outfit. The point of peacocking is to make yourself more noticeable, and ideally, you want to be wearing something that can easily be used as a conversation-starter (if that’s your prerogative).

Question 45

PCF

Answer 45

Prince Charming Fallacy. This is when a girl hypothesizes about a certain situation, and imagines that someone like Brad Pitt is the person she’s interacting with. Sure, it’s “sexy” when Brad Pitt does it, but in most situations, you’re probably not Brad Pitt, so her imaginary example probably won’t apply to you in the same way. As most of us probably know, chick flicks aren’t a great model to follow when you’re dating someone in real life, because of the Prince Charming Fallacy. You’re not the studly male lead in the movie, so even if you copy his “moves” exactly, you likely won’t get the same reactions.

Question 46

Pivot

Answer 46

Essentially, a female wingman.

Question 47

Plausible Deniability

Answer 47

This is basically when you invite a girl somewhere for an “innocent” reason. Example: You might invite her back to your place for drinks, or to watch a movie. Usually you both know the real reason (sexytimes), but it’s more comfortable for her to say yes to drinks as opposed to sex. As a wise man once said, “Coffee doesn’t mean coffee.”

Question 48

Preselection

Answer 48

This is the idea that your value gets raised when you’re seen amongst other women.

Question 49

PUA

Answer 49

Pick-Up Artist. This usually refers to someone who makes a living by teaching other guys how to get girls, or just someone who prides himself on his ability to pick up girls.

Question 50

Push/Pull

Answer 50

This is when you give IOIs followed by IODs, followed by more IOIs. It can take any number of forms, and the ratio of IOIs to IODs can be 70:30, 50:50, or even 30:70 (or any other ratio), depending on how you want to approach it. If you’re new to it, you should be using 70-90% IOIs.

Question 51

Qualifying/Qualification

Answer 51

This is when you get the woman to “prove” that she’s a good match for you. Example: You might say “I don’t know if you’re adventurous enough.” If the woman replies by talking about some adventurous experiences, she’s qualifying herself to you. This is good, because it shows that she values you enough to seek your approval.

Question 52

Rapport

Answer 52

This refers to the feeling of familiarity or “closeness” with another person. Examples: You can build rapport by mirroring a girl’s body language, maintaining eye contact, talking about commonalities, and empathizing with her.

Question 53

SNL

Answer 53

Same-night lay. This is when you meet a girl and then fuck her that same day/night.

Question 54

Sarge/Sarging

Answer 54

This is when you go out to meet women. Many people think this term comes from the word “sergeant,” but it actually comes from the name of Ross Jefferies’ cat, Sargy (which may or may not come from the word “sergeant”).

Question 55

Set

Answer 55

A group of people. In the PUA context, this typically refers to a group of women (whereas a mixed set would be a group of men and women).

Question 56

Shit-Test

Answer 56

A shit-test is something a girl says or does in order to judge your response. It can be intentional or unintentional. Examples: She might tell you you’re too short for her, or she might simply ask what you do for a living. Sometimes you might want to answer truthfully; sometimes you might want to “agree and amplify” (see glossary A-G); sometimes you might want to reframe the situation; sometimes you might want to answer with an obvious lie (“I’m a priest”).

Question 57

Social Proof

Answer 57

This is the idea that your value gets raised when you’re seen entertaining a group and/or having a good time with other people (or even simply when it’s already known that you have many friends).

Question 58

State

Answer 58

Literally, your mental state at a given time. Being “in state” means your mental state is at the optimum level for social interaction, especially with women.

Question 59

Takeaway

Answer 59

This is when you leave an interaction (usually only temporarily). It’s basically meant to show that you’re not needy and/or not putting the woman (or sex) on a pedestal.

Question 60

Target

Answer 60

The girl you’re going for at the moment.

Question 61

Three-Second Rule

Answer 61

This is the idea that you should approach someone (or a group) within three seconds of seeing them. The longer you wait, the more likely you are to talk yourself out of it.

Question 62

Time Constraint/False Time Constraint

Answer 62

This is when you say you’ll be leaving shortly (even if you might not be leaving shortly). It’s meant to show that you won’t be a nuisance.

Question 63

Triangular Gazing

Answer 63

This is when you look into a woman’s eyes, then down at her lips, then back to her eyes (as many times as you want). It’s typically the lead-in to a kiss. The best way to tell if a girl wants to kiss you is to see if she’s doing triangular gazing.

Question 64

Unicorn

Answer 64

a mythological beast, often considered very rare. People might use this term in regard to seduction in various ways, when talking about something being rare, or non-existent, or whatever else that might apply to the situation.

Question 65

Wing/Wingman/Wingwoman

Answer 65

The person who helps you out.