Personalizing

Question 1

Personalizing Negative Example:

(Interpreting events, especially the words or actions of others, as specifically targeted toward us and/or as an attack on us. This process inaccurately connects external events to our self-image, self-opinion and self-definition, and ultimately relinquishes response-ability for our own choices and actions. Example words: I, me, mine.)

“I’m under constant attack by society, finances and relationships.”

Answer 1

Personalizing Positive Challenge:

“Is someone attacking you right now? Can you point them out to me?”

Question 2

Personalizing Negative Example:

(Interpreting events, especially the words or actions of others, as specifically targeted toward us and/or as an attack on us. This process inaccurately connects external events to our self-image, self-opinion and self-definition, and ultimately relinquishes response-ability for our own choices and actions. Example words: I, me, mine.)

“They make hamburgers too big, out of disregard for my health.”

Answer 2

Personalizing Positive Challenge:

“If they make a hamburger, what do you have to do to get fat from it?”

Question 3

Personalizing Negative Example:

(Interpreting events, especially the words or actions of others, as specifically targeted toward us and/or as an attack on us. This process inaccurately connects external events to our self-image, self-opinion and self-definition, and ultimately relinquishes response-ability for our own choices and actions. Example words: I, me, mine.)

“She doesn’t want me here. She asked how long I’d be staying.”

Answer 3

Personalizing Positive Challenge:

“How do you know she wasn’t just planning her time?”

Question 4

Personalizing Negative Example:

(Interpreting events, especially the words or actions of others, as specifically targeted toward us and/or as an attack on us. This process inaccurately connects external events to our self-image, self-opinion and self-definition, and ultimately relinquishes response-ability for our own choices and actions. Example words: I, me, mine.)

“He abandoned me. Every football season he was glued to the TV.”

Answer 4

Personalizing Positive Challenge:

“How do you know when to take that personally?”