P-u Flashcards
1
Q
Flirting
Statement
Aimed at no one (low risk)
A
“That’s a ridiculous statement.”
2
Q
Flirting
Tease
Aimed at her (medium risk)
A
“Wow, you are a ridculous person for making that statement.”
3
Q
Flirting
Flirt
Aimed at us / our relationship (high risk)
A
“Wow, you are a ridculous person… I don’t know if we’re going to get along.”
4
Q
Flirting
Flirt Progression (Ex. 1)
e.g. strange interest
A
- “That’s a strange interest.”
- “You’re a strange person for being interested in that.”
- “You’re a stange person for being interested in that, and I don’t date strange people.”
5
Q
Flirting
Flirt Progression (Ex. 2)
e.g. weird home state
A
- “That’s a weird home state.”
- “I’m not quite sure about what that says about you as a person?”
- “Yeah, I thought you were cute, but now I’m not so sure we’re going to get along.”
6
Q
Sensual Topics
A
- Drugs
- Travel
- Risk Taking
- Breaking the Law
- Adventures
- Crazy “moves, places”
7
Q
False Time Constraints
A
- “I have to go in a second, but…”
- “I can’t stay super long, but…”
- “I have somewhere to be in a bit, but…”
- “I’m getting tired of this club, I might have to leave soon, maybe a drink or two, but I might not stay all night.”
8
Q
Key Lines
Qualifying
A
- “You don’t seem like the worst person to hang out with…”
- “It would be fun to take you on an adventure, but I don’t trust you yet…”
- “There is this great place, maybe I’ll take you there, but let’s hang out here a little longer.”
- “I don’t take a lot of people there, maybe one day, probably not tonight.”
9
Q
The Wall Exercise
A
- L1: keep talking, despite no response
- L2: estabilish premise (e.g. “I like you, but you’re so flat”
- L3: H-V frame (e.g. you’re wanted, the wall likes you, you’re used to getting positive social feedback)
10
Q
Reminder
Too Much Power
A
Once you have enough power, focus on getting to know her and moving forward, not on acquiring more and more power
11
Q
Push-Pulls
A
- If you say a neg., follow w/ pos.
- If you say a pos., follow w/ neg.
- If you say something neutral, follow it w/ either
12
Q
Push-Pulls (Exs)
A
- “You’re style is so 80’s, but you seem confident so I’ll let it pass.”
- “You’ve got nice style, but clearly you’re trying too hard.”
- “You’re wearing Bedrocks… Bedrock crew!”
13
Q
Openers
Openers (Beginner)
A
- “Hey, I like your look, and so I wanted to come meet you.”
- “Hey, you seem very interesting, and so I wanted to come meet you.”
- “Hey, I don’t normally approach strangers, but I was struck by your [smile/energy/style] and I just had to come say hello.”
- “Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice your book/phone case/t-shirt. I’m also a big fan of [author/band/TV show]. What’s your favorite [book/album/episode]?”
14
Q
Openers
Openers (Intermediate)
A
- “That necklace is so 20 years ago, but you have some confidence so I’ll let it pass.” (neg → pos)
- “You have a really cool look, but clearly you’re trying a little too hard.” (pos → neg)
- “You’re wearing a black shirt… black shirt crew!” (neutral → positive)
- “You’re wearing a black shirt… we’re too similar… it’s not going to work.” (neutral → neg)
- “You’re wearing a black shirt… really? I little more unoriginal please?” (neutral → neg)
15
Q
The 5 A’s
A
- Assertive (saying, doing, and standing up for what you want)
- Assured (Being confident that you’re high-value, being a bit cocky, and being confident in making moves)
16
Q
Key Lines
A
- “I got to go in a minute…”
- “You and I are not going to get along…”
- “Stop loooking at me like that…”
- “You’re trouble…, but what’s your (other person’s) name?”
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“Can you please stop being so cute, I’m trying not to like you.”
- “Look, I’m even holding your hand now… we have to stop.”
- “I have to get up early in the morning, but I guess you could come over for just a few minutes…”
- ‘Cuse me. I absolutley love your look. It’s so v elegant… Miami… but not quite.
- Actually, idk, you and i might not get along, but I feel like you won’t be boring
- “I got to go in a minute…”
- Have set stories, jokes, lines that work, but use them at the right time
- “I could maybe be tempted for a very quick drink with a Russian girl. Could be maybe fun?”
17
Q
When to Leave an Interaction
A
Expected Value
18
Q
Things to Master
A
- Keeping the Frame
- M2W
- Us Together
- Her Chasing Me
- Teasing
- Flirting
- Push-Pulls
- False-Time Constraints
- Cold Reads
- Qualifying Them
- Deescalating
19
Q
Closing Lines
A
- What are your thoughts on dried fruit?
- “Are you adventurous?”
20
Q
Shit Tests
Ways to Pass
A
- Agree + Exaggerate
- Misinterpret
- Ignore / Side-Step
