Other Info Flashcards
Attuned vs non-attuned care giving shows the child
Sensitivity vs mis-attunement Acceptance vs rejection Cooperation vs control — how are boundaries that the kid asserts respected or met with anger and discipline? Emotional availability vs remoteness
Can we verbalize our sense of acceptance vs rejection from a caregiver in childhood?
No, until the age of 8 we only have a felt sense
Some key benefits of secure attachment
- Think well of ourselves - Trust others - Regulate our emotions - Maintain positive expectations - Utilize our intellectual and emotional intelligence
Remember
What are the different “doors” to go through with clients? Are any better for men? How can you experiment to find what’s best for the client?
cognition, emotion, sense perception, inner body sensation (not good for men), movement. For men, colin thinks senses or movement are good for men. Doors depend on clients trauma and what holds too much pain for them to. Monitor the client’s state (hypoaroused, hyperaroused, settled) and experiment/adust
Reminder: A strenghts-based approach focuses more on how they got through the trauma than the content of what happened
The “writing with your left hand” metaphor for client change
When we’re asking clients to change the way they act, its like asking them to write with their left hand. Its difficult and slow and labor intensive and doesn’t come naturally. The more they practice, the more it becomes procedural learning. But if something upsetting or high stakes happens, they revert back to the more deeply ingrained patterns.
One way to help somebody in a sumbit response
Asking if they want hot tea
