normal conversation Flashcards
meta honesty
be honest about what you are feeling when you are talking to someone like nervous with girls scared with teacher
risk and nonrisk
you have to balance the risk and nonrisk things risk like aksing questions cracking jokes where you left vulnerability where you can be easily attached specially if you can clarify this builds a real good impression
Respect likeability and trust
disagreement in conversation builds respect while likeability is built by agreement
and when you stand out and manage both you build both this has to be managed in person
friends respect while girls likeability
make the next person speak mores
the mores the next person speaks more the like you also make sure that you also give a statement in every answer and don’t ask too many questions
Learn to give emotions to people
like fear fantasy humour and all
making people agree directly
directly don’t give opinion listen to them go with them make them listened and then after some times give an opinion
Emotions
learn to have emotions while talking altering voice modulation
peel the onion
asking them why they did that what motivated them
mirroring
mirror the last their word it makes them feel heard
after giving them your opinion
let them explain what they understand
talk something absurd
this helps you build rapport and makes the next person soo comfortable
Taking to introverted
go slowly let them lead soften their edges see what people are scared of when you show your weakness they will show their weakness
get to things that excite them
aakh me chamak or large eyes