Never Split The Difference Flashcards
Labels are simple and effective
Labels are simple and effective
It seems like
It seems like
It sounds like
It sounds like
It looks like
It looks like
It feels like
It feels like
You seem like
You seem like
You sound like
You sound like
You look like
You look like
Leave I out
Leave I out
The word I can cause an interruption
of the other sides thinking.
Labels can be used to gather information
at times better than questions.
Label Vs Question Example
Label Vs Question Example
What are you thinking about this?
What are you thinking about this?
It seems like you’re giving this a lot thought.
It seems like you’re giving this a lot thought.
It seems like you’re thinking about something here.
It seems like you’re thinking about something here.
It seems like you saw some things you liked.
It seems like you saw some things you liked.
You can almost do an entire negotiation with labels
You can almost do an entire negotiation with labels
Labels increase your odds.
Labels increase your odds.
Negative labels
Negative labels
It seems like you hate X
It seems like you hate X
It seems like you dislike X.
It seems like you dislike X.
It seems like you despise X.
It seems like you despise X.
It seems like X is a problem for you.
It seems like X is a problem for you.
It seems like you have disdain for X.
It seems like you have disdain for X.
Labeling Negatives Is A Negotiation Superpower
Labeling Negatives Is A Negotiation Superpower
Negatives have 3 to 9 times the impact on decision making.
Negatives have 3 to 9 times the impact on decision making.
Labeling negatives
diffuses negatives.
Don’t deny the negative
label it.
The NO Question
The NO Question
Is now a bad time?
Is now a bad time?
Would it be out of the question?
Would it be out of the question?
Is it ridiculous?
Is it ridiculous?
Would it be impossible?
Would it be impossible?
Is it a bad idea?
Is it a bad idea?
Am I out of line?
Am I out of line?
Have you given up on?
Have you given up on?
The secret to gaining the upper hand in negotiation
is giving the other side the illusion of control.
The key to power negotiations
is deference.
Deference
respect shown for another person esp. because of that person’s experience, knowledge, age, or power.
Mirroring
Mirroring
Repeat the last (or critical) 3 words of what someone else has said
Repeat the last (or critical) 3 words of what someone else has said
I need the quarterly report on my desk by the end of the day.
End of the day?
I need it for my 1 o’clock meeting tomorrow.
1 o’clock?
I like to review it beforehand, so that I’m prepared for the meeting.
Prepared for the meeting?
NO Simulation
NO Simulation
Do you feel like your organization has reached peak productivity?
Do you feel like your organization has reached peak productivity?
Are you hoping that productivity will improve on its own?
Are you hoping that productivity will improve on its own?
Are you against having a hard look at our technology
to see how we could improve your overall performance and actually save you money in the long run?