Mid-Term

Question 1

________ shatters relationship.

Answer 1

Sin

Question 2

Choice + Relationship = __________

Answer 2

Change

Question 3

What are the steps to the fear dance?

Answer 3

I: 
Want
Hurt 
Fear 
React 

You:
Hurt 
Want 
Fear
React

Question 4

What is an adult?

Answer 4

One who is fully capable of being responsible for themselves and who fully accepts that responsibility.

Question 5

Knowing who you are + Responsibility = _______

Answer 5

Freedom

Question 6

What is the 3rd law of boundaries?

Answer 6

The Law of Power?

Question 7

In the law of power, you have the power to:

Answer 7

1. Agree with the truth about your power
2. Submit your inability to God
3. Search, ask God and others to reveal more about what is within your boundaries.
4. Turn from evil you find within you.
5. Humble yourself and ask God to help your developmental injuries.
6. Seek out those who have injured you and make amends.

Question 8

A river without boundaries is just a ______.

Answer 8

Flood

Question 9

The external problem is _____ the problem.

Answer 9

rarely

Question 10

compassion + understanding =

Answer 10

safety

Question 11

How should we treat emotions?

Answer 11

Think of them like they are God’s information system.

Question 12

“The words said are…”

Answer 12

“…rarely the words meant.”

Question 13

“We cannot give to others…”

Answer 13

“…What we don’t have.”

Question 14

What is the 1st service of leadership?

Answer 14

Working on your own completion.

Question 15

Loneliness and isolation increase the likelihood of disease and premature death by ______.

Answer 15

200-500%

Question 16

6 New ways of breaking the functionality functional system?

Answer 16

1. Take control
2. Take responsibility
3. Don’t allow manipulation
4. Don’t look to others
5. Be the CEO
6. Recruit assistants

Question 17

Pardon + Caring =

Answer 17

Forgiveness

Question 18

4 Ways to respect the wall?

Answer 18

1. Honor others
2. Suspend Judgement
3. Value the different
4. Trust and be trustworthy

Question 19

Define Boundaries:

Answer 19

Personal property line which marks those things which we are responsible for

Question 20

Myths concerning boundaries:

Answer 20

1. If I set boundaries I am being selfish
2. Boundaries are a sign of disobedience
3. If I begin to set boundaries I will be hurt by others
4. If I set boundaries, I’m hurting others
5. Boundaries mean that I am angry
6. Boundaries can cause feelings of guilt
7. Boundaries are permanent
8. If I set boundaries I’ll burn bridges

Question 21

Someone who is constantly rescuing is the _____.

Answer 21

codependent

Question 22

What are the 3 types of conflict?

Answer 22

1. Intrapersonal
2. Interpersonal
3. Substunative conflict