Marriage and Family Final

Question 1

If you love me you would

Answer 1

love God
be honest (w/ God, me,others, and self)
never intentionally hurt me
Sacrivice

Question 2

Three stages of maturity

Answer 2

Dependence
Independence
Interdependence

Question 3

Observations on Love

Answer 3

amount we feel = amount we give
closer to spirit = easier to feel love
we get better at loving and being loved by doing it
don’t feel unworthy of love
you err when you try to show love in the way you want to be loved

Question 4

Five love languages

Answer 4

words of affirmation
quality time
receiving gifts
acts of service
physical touch

Question 5

Three ways to affirm

Answer 5

accept their feelings
seek to understand their feelings
nurture their feelings

Question 6

Good/better/best of service

Answer 6

Good – Ask me and I will help
Better – I will ask how to help
Best – I will look to serve

Question 7

What does it mean to minister?

Answer 7

to extend charity by first observing and then serving as we strive to meet the needs and wants of others

Question 8

Six keys to ministering

Answer 8

Move to higher ground
Understand and meet underlying needs
Understanding the nature of Growth, Progress, and Change
Be a good friend
Lighten Up
Make time for recreation

Question 9

CRUCIAL (Seven basic underlying needs of everyone)

Answer 9

Competency
Reconciliation
Understanding
Closeness
Independence
Appreciation
Love

Question 10

Four Elements of Change

Answer 10

Belief precedes change
Change is gradual
Change is Painful and Tiring
Permanent changes comes only through Christ

Question 11

Two weaknesses that keep people from higher ground

Answer 11

Apathy

Pride

Question 12

What comes before love and what comes before progress?

Answer 12

Gratitude precedes love and love precedes progress

Question 13

What is foreordination?

Answer 13

premortal selection of individuals to come to earth at specified times under certain conditions, to fulfill pre dsignated responabilities

Question 14

Four reasons why you were foreordained to be wives and mothers

Answer 14

developed and exercised faith
brought forth good works in premortality
learned to discern and choose good over evil
developed talents and capacities to be successful in your foreordained callings

Question 15

Divine nature of women (7)

Answer 15

faithfulness
benevolence
kindness
chairty
patience
love for children
spirituality

Question 16

Foreordained Role for Wife

Answer 16

Companion
Helpmeet
Comforter
Homemaker

Question 17

How men preside in righteousness

Answer 17

Quantity & Quality Time
Perform appropriate priesthood ordinances and give blessings
Honor priesthood and temple covenants and encourage family members to do the same

Question 18

What is self esteem?

Answer 18

refers to thoughts and feelings of self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-confidence

Question 19

Three things for self-esteem

Answer 19

love God
do God’s will
fear God’s judgment more than mans

Question 20

What is the terminator of pride?

Answer 20

HUMILITY

Question 21

Four keys to humility

Answer 21

Evaluate yourself (hole in the doghnut)
pray often
read scriptures daily
serve others

Question 22

four tendencies of perfeccionists

Answer 22

obsessed or consumed with their every thought, action, and response
unrealistic expectations
exaggerate their mistakes, weaknesses, and shortcomings
dichotomize life into either/or categories

Question 23

Self hated is not humility why?

Answer 23

central feature of pride is enmity
self-haters are focused on themselves
causes us to disblieve, resist, or reject truth of being God’s children

Question 24

What is goal of men in communication?

Answer 24

get a report

Question 25

Goal of women in communication?

Answer 25

establish rapport (feel connected)

Question 26

3 parts to communication

Answer 26

Sending
Receiving
Validating

Question 27

4 things when sending a message

Answer 27

when
why
how
what

Question 28

three things to consider when receiving

Answer 28

listen enough to understand
understand intent
focus on feelings more than words

Question 29

3 basic rules of validation

Answer 29

listen to understand…

events related
feelings expressed
underlying needs

Question 30

Four negative patterns of communication

Answer 30

criticism
contempt
defensiveness
withdrawal

Question 31

What is the magic ratio

Answer 31

5 to 1

Question 32

Five positive patterns of communication

Answer 32

clarity
brevity
good listening skills
seek to understand, then to be understood
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Question 33

Four important things about clarity

Answer 33

think before you speak
discerning what we should and should not say
separate important from unimportant
identify the real issue

Question 34

Two characteristics of good listening

Answer 34

its rarely convenient

involves, ears, eyes, mind and heart

Question 35

3 reasons conflict arises

Answer 35

simple misunderstandings
pride
looking for band in everything

Question 36

8 principles of conflict resolution

Answer 36

avoid contention
distinguish between preference and principle
think win-win
have proper motive
act don't react or overreact
bury weapons of war
hold regular couple councils

Question 37

ACT?

Answer 37

Agree
Comfort
TEstify

Question 38

Seven keys of couple councils

Answer 38

regularly
start w/ positives
be specific in concerns
determine roadblocks
identify/discuss potential solutions
decide and commit to course of action
follow up