Mark Manson: 40 Harsh Truths I Know at 40 but Wish I Knew at 20

Question 1

Что происходит с крутыми мыслями?

Answer 1

Крутые мысли легко забываются. Включая эту мысль, которую я уже забывал

Question 2

Your relationship with others

Answer 2

is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourself.

If you treat yourself with dignity and respect - you will only tolerate people that treat you with dignity and respect too.

Question 3

The only way to feel better about yourself

Answer 3

is to do things worth feeling good about. Respect is earned, not given.

Question 4

The only failure…
The only rejection…
The only mistake…
The only real failure…

Answer 4

is not trying
is not asking
is not risking anything
is doing nothing

Question 5

No one

Answer 5

is coming to save you

Question 6

Be the partner

Answer 6

you want to have

Question 7

The most valuable things in life

Answer 7

compound over a long period of time.

Question 8

The most sexy and exciting things

Answer 8

have diminishing returns.

Question 9

If you aren’t turning down things that excite you,

Answer 9

then you’re not focused enough on something that matters.

Question 10

Taking responsibility for all your problems

Answer 10

alleviates more suffering than it creates.

Question 11

You give power

Answer 11

to who you blame.

Question 12

If you have to tell someone you’re that,

Answer 12

then you’re not that.

Question 13

Motivation is not

Answer 13

the cause of action, but the effect.

Question 14

Love is not

Answer 14

the cause of commitment, but the effect.

Question 15

Passion is not

Answer 15

the cause of good work, but the effect.

Question 16

The person you marry

Answer 16

is the person you fight with.

Question 17

The house you buy

Answer 17

is the house you repair.

Question 18

The dream job you take

Answer 18

is the job you stress over.

Question 19

A happy life is not

Answer 19

a life without stress, it’s a life of meaningful stress.

Question 20

Don’t view exercise as

Answer 20

an exchange for something.

Question 21

Trust

Answer 21

people

Question 22

There’s no such thing as a life

Answer 22

without problems.

Question 23

Growth is rarely accompanied by

Answer 23

joy and celebration.

Question 24

F**k being normal

Question 25

If you can’t say no, then

Answer 25

your yes’s mean nothing.

Question 26

Be careful how you define yourself.

Question 27

Don’t make assumptions about people.

Question 28

No one thinks about you as much

Answer 28

as you think about yourself.

Question 29

Confidence does not come from an expectation of success

Answer 29

it comes from a comfort with failure.

Question 30

Develop a willingness

Answer 30

to be disliked.

Question 31

You cannot be a life-changing presence to some people

Answer 31

without also being a complete joke to others.

Question 32

Floss. And wear sunscreen. Every day.

Question 33

Extraordinary results come

Answer 33

from repeating ordinary actions over an unordinary amount of time.

Question 34

Choosing a partner isn’t

Answer 34

just about romance.

Question 35

Don’t overestimate

Answer 35

romantic love.

Question 36

Trust is

Answer 36

the currency of all relationships.

Question 37

If all of your relationships have the same problem

Answer 37

you’re the problem.

Question 38

There’s no such thing as a bad emotion

Answer 38

only a bad response to an emotion.

Question 39

Mornings

Answer 39

are the real sh*t.

Question 40

You don’t have to prove

Answer 40

anything to anyone, including yourself.

Question 41

Bad advice will be

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useless within a few weeks, but good advice will last you a lifetime.

Question 42

Nothing meaningful in life is

Answer 42

easy, nothing easy in life is meaningful.

Question 43

It’s never too late

Answer 43

to change.