Mario Martinez Flashcards
Which are basically the three emotional wounds?
They are:
shame,
abandonment
and betrayal.
What is biocognition?
Biocognition basically looks at how
our mind, our body and our spirit develop within a culture.
Bio, that’s biology, our physical self,
including feelings and sensations.
Cognition is how we process the belief systems.
In cognition you can include thoughts but also spirit,
because spirit is a transcendental thought that you have.
And then culture is basically the shaper of our reality.
Which are the components of abandonment?
When you go to abandonment
you feel cold,
you feel isolated,
and you feel very fearful that you’re not going to see the loved one again.
So it’s a cold emotion
with the sense of isolation, aloneness.
Abandonment has more of a cortisol response because it’s a fear: fight or flight.
It’s very primitive.
It’s a survival kind of emotion.
How does the immune system respond to shame?
The inflammatory.
Inflammatory products are necessary
to cause inflammation around the wound or around an infection
to protect and to encapsulate that infection
so then the immune system can come in and fight.
The immune system is responding as if you’re actually being wounded, because it secretes the proinflammatories.
Which are the components of shame?
Shame feels hot, humiliating, embarrassing.
You feel very hot
you feel a humiliation
and a sense of shrinking,
you feel like you want to disappear.
Which are the components of betrayal?
Betrayal is an emotion that’s hot,
and it’s anger.
What’s the healing field for shame?
For shame it’s honor, you go into an honor consciousness.
What would be the honorable thing
that I need to do here right now?
Regain the boundaries that were taken away from you.
And then you put a mirror in people’s faces
to let them know what they’re doing to you.
What’s the healing field for betrayal?
For betrayal it’s loyalty.
It’s loyalty to myself.
What is the loyalty thing we have to do here?
To be loyal to myself, what are the boundaries that I need to set?
What is the healing field for abandonment?
The healing field for abandonment is commitment.
Commitment of consciousness,
a commitment to yourself about something.
First thing you do, you have to embody,
know what is going into your body.
Breathe,
what is a commitment that I’m making to myself right now?
The commitment that I’m going to make right now is…
That commitment replaces the disempowerment that you got,
and it changes the biochemistry.
And then you start acting and living in commitment.
But then you have to look at
how many people do I speak abandonment fluently with?
And you have to start changing the relationships
How does the chemistry of the body change with shame?
You’re not aware that you’re speaking shame fluently.
You shame people.
They shame you back.
You don’t know that you’re secreting a lot of proinflammatory products on a daily basis.
And then that will interact with your genetic predisposition.
You start having symptoms.
Once you learn what you’re doing
you begin to speak honor
and you begin to see the relationships they’re speaking shame
and modifying them,
proinflammatory products are reduced.
Symptoms improve.
So as you begin to change you begin to change
the biochemistry that you’re secreting on a daily basis.
What are the personality styles that the centenarians of all cultures have in common?
They negotiate life.
They are all slightly underweight, even though some of them–a little bit are overweight–but you don’t have obese centenarians.
They’re not religious but they’re spiritual.
The culture that they live in supports that growing older is a good thing and you are a source of knowledwge.
They don’t believe or even understand the term middle age.
They don’t believe in retirement. They do what they love.
They love themselves.
Joy is a component of centenarianism. They don’t gloss over it.
They forgive very easily.
Ex.:
To increase my threshold of x
You embody x.
“I make this amount of money, a year. I’m going to do some imagery that I make 50 times what I’m making.”
You do the imagery for five minutes
–all the money you could give to people,
all the wonderful things you could do
—check your body
–and the killjoy will be there.
You’re body’s getting tense because it’s a new boundary
and it causes turbulence.
If worthiness is very good, it opens up, and if worthiness is bad it shuts it down.
Breathe into it, allow it to happen and go back and forth,
between doing the imagery of how much you want to make,
and how the body’s responding to it negatively.
Your breathing will change.
And then secondarily, you then look at the wound
that stops you from moving faster.
And then things start happening.
Then intention works because it’s followed by joyful action.
What’s the key for that intention works?
Your wishes work at the speed of your beliefs
and at the strength of your joyful action.
You have to look at the wounds,
and at how the brain processes things.
The brain has limits
and we have to teach it to expand those limits
–to accept it without creating stress for you.
How do you allow your worthiness to catch up?
Whenever anything good happens to me
I do an expansion of the boundaries of abundance.
I do a meditation and allow my worthiness to catch up,
not intellectually but by the actual mind-body processing.
You embody.
You say what’s going on in my body?
And once it begins to subside a little bit,
allow yourself to ask yourself:
“What wounds do I have that stop me from this worthiness.”
And you get to a point where you say, “No wounds.”
And you expand the boundaries.
Explain the phrase: “going beyond the pale.”
When people say “beyond the pale,” you go beyond the pale, you are no longer protected. hen
When you go beyond the pale and succeed, at first you’re the hero. But when you come back, they cut you back to size. What they’re saying is, “You can’t make it beyond the pale, because then you’ll leave us and we won’t have the collective power.”
When we leave the pale, we go on our own, and we start identifying ourselves, but you begin to kill the potential self-esteem that you could build.
“Beyond the pale” is defying what brought you down within the pale, [as well as] accepting and learning with what I call “the new subcultures.” You need a subculture that begins to support that.
What you need to find out is: how are you going to be punished when you go beyond the pale?
Are you going to be abandoned emotionally? Are you going to be betrayed? Or are you going to be shamed?
