M1.0 FC Anatomy of a Transition-E Flashcards
Q01: What is a metaphor?
A ‘metaphor’ is a word or phrase that is symbolic of something else.
The word comes from the Greek, ‘metaphereinʼ which means ‘to transferʼ.
We use metaphor to transfer meaning from one thing to create awareness or understanding in another context.
Q02: Explain a transition using the
Caterpillar->Cocoon/Chrysalis ->Butterfly
Transitional Metaphor
- Emerging Ending: Caterpillar
- focusing on proving, heads down, single focus - Messy Middle: Cocoon/Chrysalis
- dissolving, - imaginal cells - reinvention - New Beginning: Butterfly
- exploration, pollination, discovery
pollination= Bestäubung/Befruchtung
Q03: What are the 3 common stages that clients in transition have?
The Front Door - Primary Story
=> Find metaphor here
Atrium - Broaden Awareness
=> Apply TQ tools
Horizon - New Narratives, Goals
=> Integrate skills
Q04: Name 2 skills (coping strategies) when dealing with phase 1 - Emerging Endings:
- Building Acceptance and Letting Go
- Using Rituals for Reflection & Resilience
Q05: Name 4 common emotions for Emerging Endings:
- Sadness and Grief: Mourning what is lost or changing.
- Anxiety and Fear: Uncertainty about the future.
- Resistance and Frustration: Difficulty in letting go of the past.
- Relief and Hope: Anticipation for new opportunities
Q06: Name 5 common emotions for the Messy Middle:
- Confusion and Ambiguity: Uncertainty about what to expect and how to proceed.
- Stuck and Impatient: Feeling stuck or not progressing as quickly as desired.
- Anxiety and Stress: Concerns about the future and managing uncertainties.
- Frustrated and Exhausted: Not knowing when it will end can be challenging
- Reflection and Relief: Surrendering to the transition offer opportunities for deep reflection.
Q07: Explain the term ‘Liminality’
Liminality is the place between ‘no longer’ and ‘not yet’
The messy middle often can be the longest and most daunting phase of a transition and often feels soupy, foggy, and confusing.
Like a “dark night of the soul ˮ it is a period of liminality when we are no longer who we were and not yet who we are to become.
Many feel stuck or impatient and risk regressing back to the familiar.
Q08: Name 5 common emotions for New Beginnings:
- Excitement and Optimism: Anticipation about the future and enthusiasm for new experiences.
- Confidence and Competence: Growing assurance in oneʼs abilities to succeed in the new circumstances
- Hope and Renewal: Feeling positive about the changes and seeing new opportunities.
- Curiosity and Exploration: Openness to learning and discovering new aspects of the environment or role.
- Self-Doubt and Second Guessing: Fear of failure can delay full embodiment of the shift
Q09: What is the definition of “TQ: A Transitional Quotient” or “Transitional Intelligence”?
The ability …
- to recognize different stages of life transitions,
- perceive them as internal opportunities for growth and
- to skillfully navigate them with compassion, clarity, and curiosity.
Q10: What does “Transitional Intelligence” mean?
Transitional Intelligence means understanding and embracing our “what’s next” as a source of curiosity, wonder, and awe, relying on core strengths and inner values as a compass north and a growth mindset to learn new skills.
Q11: What are the 3 phases of the TQ Method?
- DISCOVER: Identify the types and stages of their transitions
- REFLECT: Reflect on emotions and behaviors to work through any fears or resistance before moving into the next stage and look for the glimmers
- EXPLORE: Explore different ways to build TQ awareness, utilize the TQ tools and celebrate action steps
Q13: What are the 6 TQ tools?
EMERGING ENDING
1. Identity Edit
2. Reframing Endings
MESSY MIDDLE
3. Purpose Portfolio
4. Awe Retreat
NEW BEGINNING
5. Identity Reframe
6. Becoming an Explorer
Q12: What are the 6 TQ skills?
EMERGING ENDING
1. Building Acceptance and Letting Go
2. Using Rituals for Reflection & Resilience
MESSY MIDDLE
3. Building Self-Awareness through Pattern Interruption
4. Cultivating Purpose & Leveraging Curiosity
NEW BEGINNING
5. Exploration of new roles, identities, or environments
6. Clarifying goals and creating a vision for the future
Q14: What are the 6 P#s or Life Pillars of Transition?
- Psychological Transitions:
How we think, shifts of internal beliefs and self-perceptions - Purpose Transitions:
Finding core values, strengths and gifts to leverage - Personal Transitions:
Transitions of moving, empty nesting, divorce, new relationships - Physical Transitions:
Transitions of physical or cognitive health, hormones, diet, sensuality - Parting/Passing Transitions:
Transitions via grieving, facing mortality, estrangement, loss - Professional Transitions:
transitions of retirement, new career, lost job, reskilling, promotion
Q15: Psychological Transitions are about overall mental health and states of being.
Name 6 examples:
- I am experiencing anxiety or depression
- I am not feeling open or flexible
- I have been forgetting things and am worried about cognitive decline
- I am feeling more irritable, angry or defensive
- I feel less upbeat and positive in my outlook on life
- I feel lonely
Q16: Purpose Transitions are about exploring what’s next and greater meaning.
- I am in the midst of an internal shift
- I am no longer sure what gets me out of bed in the morning
- I am not sure what legacy I want to leave behind
- I worry about becoming irrelevant
- I feel I am no longer needed by anyone
- My spiritual connection or “North Star” seems to have disappeared
Q17: Personal Transitions are about exploring relationships, home life or location.
Name 6 examples:
- My intimate relationship is struggling, ending
- I am in a new relationship.
- I recently became an Empty Nester
- Serving as caregiver for aging parents (sandwich generation)
- Struggling with a personal friendship or colleague
- I am moving or considering moving
Q18: Physical Transitions are about exploring health, body image and wellness.
Name 6 examples:
- I am managing physical changes linked with aging
- I feel a change in Sensuality or Sexuality
- I received a worrisome health diagnosis
- I am trying to change my diet
- I want to start a wellness, meditation. or yoga practice
- I’ve been sedentary lately and want to spend time in Nature
Q19: Parting Transitions are about managing grief and death in relationships.
Name 6 examples:
- Someone in my life passed away or is in hospice
- I have not taken the time to “put my affairs in orderˮ
- I am estranged from a friend or family member
- I have not yet grieved relationships I have lost
- I am struggling with the constant uncertainties of the world
- I want to make amends but donʼt know how
Q20: Professional Transitions are about career, skills, finances and retirement.
Name 6 examples:
- I want to change careers but am afraid of the risk
- I have started a new job & worried I will fail
- I have recently retired and feel a little lost
- I just lost my job, or may be let go
- I have to keep working, and worry I may not have the skills
- I’ve hit the end of one career and I’m ready to shift to another
Q21: Explain the concept of “Triple Threats of Transition”
The Triple Threats appear during the interstitial points or the threshold of transition stages.
Think of it as an awareness check that will support the various tools within the course.
Q22: What are the three elements of “Triple Threats of Transition”?
- Self/Identity
How does this impact how I see myself? - Family/Inner Circle
How will my family and friends react to this change? - Community/Society
What societal norms or blocks out there may threaten my choice?
Q23: Explain the concept of “Glimmers”
Glimmers are moments of hope, regeneration and future casting.
Glimmers are the sparks of inspiration or intuition that appear during transitions that awaken something within or are a fractal of what is coming…(imaginal cells)
Glimmers can be seen as a counterbalance to Triple threats
