Loving What Is Byron Katie

Question 1

What are the 4 main questions?

Answer 1

1. Is it true?
2. Can I absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How do I react, what happens, when I believe that thought?
4. Who would I be without the thought?
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   Then: Turn it around.

Question 2

What are questions that deepen inquiry into, “Is it true?”

Answer 2

What’s the reality of it? Reality is whatever is in front of you: what’s happening.

Whose business is it? 3 kinds: mine, yours, and God’s.

Question 3

How can you go deeper when you answer “yes” to, “Can absolutely know that it’s true?” I.e, When you think that it’s true?

5 tools.

Answer 3

And it means that_____.

What do you think you would have?

What’s the worst that could happen?

What’s the “should”?

Where’s your proof?

Question 4

What are the two “bonus” questions you can ask for Question 3?

Answer 4

1. Can you see a reason to drop that thought? (And please don’t try to drop it).
2. Can you find one stress-free reason to keep the thought?

Question 5

What are the 3 kinds of turnarounds?

Answer 5

For the phrase, “the world should be brave”

1. Turn it around to YOURSELF: “I should be brave.”
2. Turn it around to the OTHER: “I should recognize that the world is brave.”
3. Turn it around to the OPPOSITE: “the world shouldn’t be brave.” That’s reality, sometimes.

Question 6

What is the purpose of the advice you give to family, friends, or the world at large?

Answer 6

The advice is for you to live, not them. Their job is to keep coming at you, as hard as they can, with everything that angers and upsets you.

Question 7

What is the ultimate purpose of the turnarounds?

Answer 7

To live them in ACTION.

Question 8

What are the two turnarounds for the judgement, “I don’t ever want to…”?

Answer 8

1. I am willing to…

2. I look forward to…

Question 9

What are the 6 Judge-Your-Neighbor questions? SCAHTN

Answer 9

1. In this SITUATION, who angers, confuses, saddens, or disappointments you and why? (Be harsh, childish and petty).
2. How do you want them to CHANGE? What do you want them to do?
3. What ADVICE do you have for them in this situation?
4. In order for you to be HAPPY in this situation, what do you need them to think, say or do?
5. What do you THINK of them in this situation? Make a list. Don’t be rational or kind.
6. What is it about this situation that you NEVER want to experience again?

Question 10

What’s the voice in my head that tells others what they should do trying to tell me?

Answer 10

It’s actually telling ME what to do.

Question 11

How can you gain deeper insight when judging yourself? Replace “___” with “___ ____________.”

Answer 11

Replace “I” with “my thinking.”