Lesson 2 Flashcards by Beth Davoll

What is dating?

A relationship between a male & a female who participate in prearranged social activities

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Dating another person means

setting aside time for social interaction with a member of the opposite sex

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Dating provides opportunity to:

learn how to communicate with the opposite sex
help define what traits you desire in a future mate
come into contact with potential marriage partners
Grow socially, emotionally & spiritually

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What is courting

when a man seeks to gain the attention & favor of a woman with the ultimate intention of engagement & marriage

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Courting puts a

strong emphasis on taking the time to see whether there are multiple areas of common ground

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Common Ground

same moral values
same system of ethics
same spiritual foundation

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Infatuation

Sudden
Highly Emotional
Idealistic
Based on a feeling
Weakened by separation
Seeking to find happiness
Focusing on external
Seeking to get
Possessive
In love with "emotion"

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Love

Gradual
Faithfully Consistent
Realistic
Based on a commitment
Strengthened by separation
Seeking to give happiness
Focusing on internal character
Seeking to give
Freedom
In love witih "devotion"

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Godly Characteristics of admirable men (BOAZ)

Financially Responsible
Strong in Leadership
Protective
Focused in character
Generous
Compassionate
Decisive
Trustworthy
Industrious
Commited

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Godly Characteristics of admirable women (RUTH)

Diligent
Submissive
Wise
Virtuous
Unselfish
Grateful
Courageous
Trusting
Hardworking
Commited

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What do you establish before you start dating

standards

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Develop friendships with those

who share your moral convictions rather than with those who pursue sexual relationships

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Agape

unselfish love

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Phileo

affectionate love

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Eros

passionate romantic love

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World’s Way of Dating

Eros-> Phileo-> Agape

God’s Way of Dating

Agape-> Phileo-> Eros

God created every person with three inner needs

LOVE
SIGNIFICANCE
SECURITY (SELF-WORTH)

Beginning to Date

Be Wise
Be Save
Be Real
Be Honest

After a broken relationship

The Need For…
Love
Significance
Security (Self-Worth)

Purity Acronym

Prioritize
Undertake
Refrain
Implement
Trust
Yield

Prioritize

God’s standard for purity in your dating

Undertake

personal accountability for how you treat your date’s body

Refrain

from activities that violate God’s standards

Implement

goals that are pleasing to God

Trust

in God's timing

Yield

your life to the Lord

First things first

Jesus is number one

Second commandment

You cannot love another unless you can love yourself | Need to check the baggage

You cannot know intimate marriage you desire until

you know Jesus first

Must have wholeharted

devotion to God

How to prepare for marriage

Purify your mind Cleanse one of selfishness Learn to receive love Learn to give love

1st Gear

Start Slow | Participate in groups

2nd Gear

spend a little more time together still keep God first no physical contact

3rd Gear

bring up marriage

4th Gear

Engagement/Proposal/The Ring | Should be planning your mariage

5th Gear

Marriage

Practical Implications

The marital state is not the final destiny of anyone Single individual remains content Rewarded with new family of the body of Christ