Lesson 2 Flashcards
What is dating?
A relationship between a male & a female who participate in prearranged social activities
Dating another person means
setting aside time for social interaction with a member of the opposite sex
Dating provides opportunity to:
- learn how to communicate with the opposite sex
- help define what traits you desire in a future mate
- come into contact with potential marriage partners
- Grow socially, emotionally & spiritually
What is courting
when a man seeks to gain the attention & favor of a woman with the ultimate intention of engagement & marriage
Courting puts a
strong emphasis on taking the time to see whether there are multiple areas of common ground
Common Ground
same moral values
same system of ethics
same spiritual foundation
Infatuation
Sudden Highly Emotional Idealistic Based on a feeling Weakened by separation Seeking to find happiness Focusing on external Seeking to get Possessive In love with "emotion"
Love
Gradual Faithfully Consistent Realistic Based on a commitment Strengthened by separation Seeking to give happiness Focusing on internal character Seeking to give Freedom In love witih "devotion"
Godly Characteristics of admirable men (BOAZ)
Financially Responsible Strong in Leadership Protective Focused in character Generous Compassionate Decisive Trustworthy Industrious Commited
Godly Characteristics of admirable women (RUTH)
Diligent Submissive Wise Virtuous Unselfish Grateful Courageous Trusting Hardworking Commited
What do you establish before you start dating
standards
Develop friendships with those
who share your moral convictions rather than with those who pursue sexual relationships
Agape
unselfish love
Phileo
affectionate love
Eros
passionate romantic love
World’s Way of Dating
Eros-> Phileo-> Agape
God’s Way of Dating
Agape-> Phileo-> Eros
God created every person with three inner needs
LOVE
SIGNIFICANCE
SECURITY (SELF-WORTH)
Beginning to Date
Be Wise
Be Save
Be Real
Be Honest
After a broken relationship
The Need For…
Love
Significance
Security (Self-Worth)
Purity Acronym
Prioritize Undertake Refrain Implement Trust Yield
Prioritize
God’s standard for purity in your dating
Undertake
personal accountability for how you treat your date’s body
Refrain
from activities that violate God’s standards
Implement
goals that are pleasing to God
Trust
in God’s timing
Yield
your life to the Lord
First things first
Jesus is number one
Second commandment
You cannot love another unless you can love yourself
Need to check the baggage
You cannot know intimate marriage you desire until
you know Jesus first
Must have wholeharted
devotion to God
How to prepare for marriage
Purify your mind
Cleanse one of selfishness
Learn to receive love
Learn to give love
1st Gear
Start Slow
Participate in groups
2nd Gear
spend a little more time together
still keep God first
no physical contact
3rd Gear
bring up marriage
4th Gear
Engagement/Proposal/The Ring
Should be planning your mariage
5th Gear
Marriage
Practical Implications
The marital state is not the final destiny of anyone
Single individual remains content
Rewarded with new family of the body of Christ
